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AbandonedGuy ( member #66456) posted at 10:13 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
My tabs auto convert to 4 spaces. Also I prefer this_naming_convention. To each their own.
But anyone who doesn't identify dates like 2020-01-31 can kiss my GDm MFn ass! (so 99% of everyone on Earth)
EmancipatedFella, formerly AbandonedGuy
likeapinball ( member #50073) posted at 10:19 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I figure mine is fairly self explanatory! When I joined SI it was few weeks past dday and I was still going between being absolutely enraged and completely devastated. I still have a little of both sometimes - but not to the extreme that I did, thankfully!
BS,DD: Sep 26, 2015. Married 16 years at DD. WH had a LTA with MOW. Three kiddos 15, 13 and 11 at the time. In R
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 10:28 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I love bears and the song Barely Breathing was running through my head nonstop and I was hyperventilating. And so...BearlyBreathing. 🐻
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 10:37 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
Most assume mine is about Phoenix, AZ, but it's not. When I came here I was in a white hot rage and was looking for a safe place to vent before I became a homicidal maniac with Xhole. SI saved me from prison... 
Even though I was consumed with rage at the time, I was equally determined not to let the absolute betrayal of over 20 years ruin me or keep me down. Thus, the first thing I thought of was the mythical Phoenix rising from the ashes and being born again (always enjoyed mythology). Had to add the "1" because the name alone was already taken. I clung to that determination to rise from the ashes of my life every time something new hit me from left field and brought me back down again, like the discovery of the last OC. The mental image was, at times, a lifeline for my sanity.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
EllieKMAS ( member #68900) posted at 10:38 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
BB that's awesome cus I start singing that song every time I see your user name! I mean... not awesome why, but just that I knew that 
For you! *bows
"No, it's you mothafucka, here's a list of reasons why." – Iliza Schlesinger
"The love that you lost isn't worth what it cost and in time you'll be glad that it's gone." – Linkin Park
emergent8 ( member #58189) posted at 11:13 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
Phoenix - I've always assumed that you intended it as "rising from the ashes". I think we must have had similar thought processes while naming ourselves.
Me: BS. Him: WS.
D-Day: Feb 2017 (8 m PA with married COW).
Happily reconciled.
Justsomelady ( member #71054) posted at 11:16 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
Mine is just what came to me, I’m nothing special, just some lady
Be responsible for telling the truth. Not managing other people’s reactions to it - Mel Robbins .
maise ( member #69516) posted at 11:20 PM on Tuesday, February 11th, 2020
I always sing “Barely breathing” in my head when I read that name too! Also thought of the Phoenix rising from the ashes for Phoenix 1 :)
Initially mine was not that clever but then I found ‘maise’ to stand for: “becomingness, comeliness, Grace, beauty, a becoming state or act” which I find beautifully fitting for the process I’ve gone through with myself throughout this mess.
The meaning I found may or may not be legit but I accept! 😁
[This message edited by maise at 5:31 PM, February 11th (Tuesday)]
BW (SSM) D-Day: 6/9/2018 Status: Divorced
"Our task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
— Rumi
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 12:00 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
I went crazy after being blindsided literally and still feel crazy at times especially when I break NC with STBX.
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Divorced 8/2024
PeanutButterfly ( new member #69780) posted at 12:02 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
I wanted to remain anonymous and i just couldn’t think of a name for myself. I chose this name because at one time my son used to call his pb&j sandwiches Peanut Butterfly and Jellyfish. So I just picked the first part, figure the whole thing would be too long.
BS-36 at time of discovery (me)
WH-36
Together 17 years, married 5 years, 3 young kids
DDay-July 19, 2018
LTA almost 3 years. Also he had total of 5 affairs in the last 12 years together (4 of the affairs with the same COW) all found out on dday.
Scubagrl ( member #72280) posted at 12:27 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
I think mine is pretty straight forward
Gemini83 ( member #72149) posted at 12:34 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
Mine is a bit obvious. I’m a Gemini and I was born in 83.
ShatteredSakura I second visiting Japan. I lived in Okinawa from 2006-2009. It is beautiful. Yen rate was not what Sission remembers, sadly. When I was there the average yen rate was 100 yen to the dollar. I very much enjoyed the beaches, culture and the food. I love history and it’s full of it, very sad history but a lot of history none the less. If you ever get the chance to, you should take it.
BS (me) 34
WH 37
DDay #1 03/2018
DDay #2 10/2019
"Sometimes we are just the collateral damage in someone else's war against themselves. " Lauren Eden
Tanner ( Guide #72235) posted at 12:58 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
When I was a kid I got the nickname because I looked like Tanner on the Bad News Bears. No one in my adult life including WW know that was my nickname.
Dday Sept 7 2019 doing well in R BH M 33 years
ShatteredSakura (original poster member #70885) posted at 3:52 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
this_naming_convention
C programmer?
Peanut Butterfly and Jellyfish.
I absolutely love this!
Mine is just what came to me, I’m nothing special, just some lady
That's why I like it! When I first saw it I chuckled.
I think mine is pretty straight forward
Scuba...grill? How can you grill underwater?
crazyinlove1995 ( member #53591) posted at 4:53 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
Mines mine...in 95 ifelt that..
Not so much anymore after 20 years.
Peace
Me=BH
Two Son's 24and12
Daughter In peace
Justsomeguy ( member #65583) posted at 5:36 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
I chose Justsomeguy because I am nobody and every man at the same time. I am utterly unremarkable and chose to quietly blend in. What happened to me was devastating and ordinary in a perverse sort of way, the banality of adultery so to speak.
I'm an oulier in my positions.
Me:57 STBXWW:55 DD#1: false confession of EA Dec. 2016. False R for a year.DD#2: confessed to year long PA Dec. 2 2017 (was about to be outed)Called it off and filed. Denied having an affair in court papers.
Divorced
getbusyliving ( member #71058) posted at 5:39 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
Shawshank Redemption "Get busy living or get busy dying". This has always resonated with me and then even more when i was diagnosed with breast cancer and it just felt right again after the shit hit the fan disclosure days /months and I could occassionally think in the present and feel alive
Skyking ( member #62217) posted at 5:48 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
When I was in the Air Force , we had to end all radio transmissions with our initials. Mine were SK. Or Sierra Kilo using the phonetic alphabet. Some of us would try to make up our own phonetic alphabet . My childhood hero who got me interested in flying was Skyking. So I would use Skyking as my sing-off.
Me: BS. 74, Many DDays: The last of many was 40+ years ago.Married 53 years 2 grown sons, 2 grandchildren Reconciled. But still getting triggered sometimes.
HeHadADoubleLife ( member #68944) posted at 6:13 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
No hidden meanings here. Pretty damn straight forward. Kinda like me
BW
DDay Nov 2018
Many previous DDays due to his sex addiction
Hurt me with the truth, but don't comfort me with a lie.
Love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity.
deephurt ( member #48243) posted at 6:35 AM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2020
Mine is pretty self explanatory. It’s how I was feeling when I joined.
me-BW
him-WH
so far successfully in R
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