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baby_g1117 ( member #18221) posted at 12:38 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
((bump))
I have to read this whole thing when I have time
Rbegan8/03
ME-27
H-31
made up 3 days b4 the life changing accident. I would rather live in a box and still have her than2have lost her the way I did
NotThisTime ( member #11848) posted at 12:43 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
It's all in the script.
http://www.amazon.com/Script-Absolutely-Predictable-Things-Cheat/dp/1401308422/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1210117510&sr=1-1
TICKED OFF ( member #8291) posted at 12:58 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
I just finger banged her twice but knew it was wrong so I took my hand out of her.
Translation....Her kids were bothering us so I didn't have time to screw her those two times.
RedHeadWitchy ( member #19206) posted at 1:24 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
WOW...have you guys met MY WH??? 
Me 35(BW) Him 37(FWH)
WhorMonica 45 (FOW QVC reject)
M 9ys,
D: 7, S: 3
In R/MC/IC
I thought I was a fool for no-one
Oh baby I'm a fool for you
You're the queen of the superficial
And how long before you tell the truth
~Muse
TICKED OFF ( member #8291) posted at 3:50 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
Paper Roses ( member #19336) posted at 6:47 AM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
My husband was "infatuated. working out of town, where she lived, me at home, no restrictions, admits to drinking 12 or more alcoholic beverages a day. Admits to seeing her most ev3nings and every morning (at the coffee shop)!
H:"I never touched her. That was my boundary. I could not go that far, I could not DO THAT TO YOU!"
Trans:"You cannot prove that I touched her or fucked her and I cannot admit to myself what a bastard I am"
mE: You never even placed your hand on her arm? While having those marathon romantic discussion? While drunk? How can you be certain you remember, if you were drunk?"
H:" It never happened, I know, I was there, I never even sat next to her"!
Me:"So you had these conversations, told her how beautiful she was but sat a chair away from her?"
Trans:" I think she will believe me if I give very specific answers!"
H:"Yes, unless we were at the bar, then it could not be helped!"
Trans: If I give her a little truth with it it will be more believable!"
Me: so, you were falling deeper and deeper inlove every day for 6 months and you were drunk all of the time and you were able to control your impulse to just "touch" her skin or wipe her hair out of her eyes, every minute of that time? You must have incredible self-control, so why did you lie to me for 6 months about your emotional affair and why di you not stop when you realized what was happening, if you have so much moral fortitude"?
H:" I am NOT discussing this anymore, you are insulting me and calling me a liar! HMMPH!
Trans: Why doesnt she believe me?"
It amazes me the way they lie so poorly! Ridiculous shit like this? He somehow manged to dupe me successfully for 6 months, so I know he is capable of keeping track of his lies and staying on task. so why when they are caught do they get so stupid?
Me-50-FBW-
He-45-FWh- sober 4 years
Self-deception- is literally a matter of deceiving oneself- and thus raises unique questions.
How can one deceive himself-unless he already knows-what it is that he is deceiving himself about?
64fleet ( member #18710) posted at 8:54 PM on Wednesday, May 7th, 2008
My WW didn't come home one night, OM was there(in another town) & she got too drunk to remember anything-but of course "nothing happened"
baby_g1117 ( member #18221) posted at 10:39 AM on Saturday, May 31st, 2008
bump 
Rbegan8/03
ME-27
H-31
made up 3 days b4 the life changing accident. I would rather live in a box and still have her than2have lost her the way I did
dtracey810 ( member #19608) posted at 6:16 PM on Saturday, May 31st, 2008
There are LOADS of great explainations here....
1) IF our marriage wouldn't have been so 'bad', I never would have done it.
TRANS: It's only ME that matters, so I went off and started an emotional affair with another man/woman and ended up fuckin' them because *I* wanted/needed to.
2) I didn't think that you cared about ME.
TRANS: I really don't give a good fuck what YOU think...this is all about ME!
3) I swear on A's (her GRANDSON) life that I didn't sleep with him!
TRANS: I'll go as far to sacrifice my ONLY grandchild to try to make you believe that I'm not a cheating slut!
This all seems to fall into the NARCISSIST mode, and I just so happen to be married to the QUEEN of the Narcissists!
Best wishes to ALL,
dtracey810
[This message edited by dtracey810 at 11:20 AM, June 2nd (Monday)]
BS (me) 46
WS 50
Married: 3 years in July and there won't be a FOURTH!
D-Day #1: 4/08 - 6-7 month EA/PA with co-worker
D-Day #2: 8/9/08 ANOTHER co-worker
Papers filed: 8/20/08
Put a fork in it....it's DONE!!
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 11:49 PM on Friday, June 27th, 2008
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
hissadwife ( member #14982) posted at 1:53 AM on Saturday, June 28th, 2008
"I didn't think you'd care."
translation: I didn't think you'd find out.
"She paid attention to me."
translation: I paid attention to her.
[This message edited by hissadwife at 7:54 PM, June 27th (Friday)]
Does this wedding ring make my dick look big?
smallmouse ( member #19649) posted at 4:30 AM on Saturday, June 28th, 2008
I've loved her for 5 years while we were miserable in our marriage
(I had a crush on her for 5 years and threw myself at her as soon as all my other lies started being revealed and I figured a new love would be more fun than working our marriage out or admitting that I'm an ass)
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 8:14 PM on Tuesday, August 26th, 2008
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
mom of 2 ( member #11214) posted at 12:18 AM on Wednesday, October 8th, 2008
Me: BW
Divorced after 23 years of M thanks to XH's truth trickle.
Status: Recovering and healing. It's going to be a long hard road.
Update November 2013: It only took seven years but I finally turned a corner. :)
StillAmazed ( member #19961) posted at 12:39 AM on Wednesday, October 8th, 2008
WS: We were just friends, I was only interested in her so I could see my HS friends
Reality: when caught with the secret cell phone, instead of admitting the A, I moved into her trailer with her for 4 months.
WS: we only had sex 2 times in the 14 months (4 mo living together)The ILY's and cant live without you was just "flirting" I dont know why she was signing our last name, sending me wedding info, and telling me shes pregnant - shes just goofy, I guess
Reality: I will only admit to the sex twice because that is the only 2 hotel bills you found with x rated videos (he thought were disgusting of her)
WS I have NEVER hugged her or kissed her, it wasnt like that!
Reality: he had sex with her when he was 16 again when he was 26 and now when he is 48...nope never hugged or kissed her 
WS: its too bad you dont want this relationship as much as ^I^ do, all you want is information about what I did while I was gone..why cant you just start at "ground Zero?" I KNEW you would never get over this...I give up!
Reality: you refuse to tell the truth, refuse counseling, books, or SI
UNBELIEVABLE!
"The life and love we create is the life and love we live."
--Leo Buscaglia
Myth08 ( member #20871) posted at 2:18 AM on Wednesday, October 8th, 2008
I can't resist adding some of mine...
"We never had 'intercourse' that would have been wrong."
Translation- I'm still lying to you.
"My dedication to the kids was never impacted by my affair"
Translation- I'm a shitty father, but I won't admit that either.
"I will never do this again"
Translation- Next time I will be more careful.
"You are re-writing history, I haven't been in love with her for 15+ years"
Translation- You have no proof, so I won't admit it.
"I didn't think her husband or you would care. Both of our marriages were headed for divorce anyway."
Translation- I'm a selfish bastard who never considered letting you make a decision about the status of our relationship. I decided to make it for you.
And my personal favorite..
"I'm really sorry I brought our kids to meet hers to see if they'd all get along. I didn't see the harm since they don't know the difference."
Translation- Holy crap...I'm a scumbag for bringing my kids to meet my girlfriend and her kids. I am lower than slime.
Translation- God
reluctant ( member #21124) posted at 2:41 AM on Sunday, October 12th, 2008
She calls me dad.
That's some tight 21 year old ass.
Married 13y, together 17y
EA, Oct '07 to Sept '08
Dday 4/25/08 & 9/21/08 & 10/20/08
OW-a mother/daughter team of husband stealing lobby leaches
NC since 9/7/08, In R
10yearsgone ( member #20771) posted at 3:41 AM on Sunday, October 12th, 2008
I'll never talk to him again=I see him at the office in 20 minutes.
How Will I Laugh Tomorrow When I Can't Even Smile Today
10yearsgone ( member #20771) posted at 3:46 AM on Sunday, October 12th, 2008
That should be I will see him at the office in 20. Too much 151.
How Will I Laugh Tomorrow When I Can't Even Smile Today
cjonesjag ( member #10617) posted at 5:40 AM on Sunday, October 12th, 2008
"She paid attention to me."
translation: I paid attention to her.
Nutshell.
Me (BS):50
Him(WTFH):51 Married: 05/26/2002
DD#1: 09/2005 (EA) DD#2: 09/2006
Mini-DDays: Many. Mostly online
DIVORCED 10/20/10
It's not what you've got, it's what you give.
It ain't the life you choose, it's the life you live
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