brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 2:49 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
mamajen00 ( member #43810) posted at 5:23 AM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014
My WH still has no remorse. Not sure if he ever will. I am moving forward with D, without his knowledge.
BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA
littleflower ( member #42673) posted at 8:15 PM on Saturday, July 26th, 2014
DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4
Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 4:06 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014
"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF
brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 1:18 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014
Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 1:58 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014
Headunderwater ( new member #44484) posted at 11:41 PM on Thursday, August 21st, 2014
Thank you so much for posting this. As hard as it is to accept I realize that my wife has been the absolute embodiment of rugsweeping. As much as she says that she's sorry she constantly has been proving otherwise with her actions.
blindsided81 ( member #44206) posted at 1:31 AM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014
Thanks for bumping. I hadn't seen this and it is important.
My WH spent exactly 7 days in a false reconciliation and if I had known some of this it wouldn't have lasted one day!
So thanks again.
Me, BW 51
WH, 47
OW, ttw (trailer trash whore)
DD, 7/21/14
Separated, divorcing his ass as soon as I possibly can!!
BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 3:14 AM on Saturday, August 30th, 2014
yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014
"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 6:34 PM on Thursday, September 11th, 2014
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 8:12 PM on Wednesday, October 29th, 2014
ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 12:27 AM on Sunday, November 2nd, 2014
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:57 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
completelylost29 ( new member #45498) posted at 9:42 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014
-Fighting2Survive-
Thank you so much for posting this. I didn't know what rug-sweeping really was until I read this. My WS is truly doing this, now I know. What do you do when WS a doesn't feel they have anything to workout and is just fully ready to move on??? I just peeked at his iPad (he changed his password to his phone after I found out about the A) and I saw that he had been to Ashley Madison website. This is after he told me he doesn't go to dating or chatting sites anymore! This AM site is a new find to me, I've never known he's gone there! My D-Day was a month ago, and I've been thinking of a separation. Since my recent finding this morning, I'm fuming! And thinking definitely going to say I want a seperation, but the thing is we will have to keep living together until we can afford 2 separate households. Why would he be telling me he wants a R and still go to these sites!?!? He's only forthcoming with info if I ask and even then I don't trust he's being honest.
completelylost29 ( new member #45498) posted at 9:43 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:14 PM on Friday, November 14th, 2014
Bump moves the thread to the top of the 1st page, so it doesn't get lost. This thread shouldn't get lost. 
Bump.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:23 PM on Saturday, November 22nd, 2014
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 5:38 PM on Sunday, November 30th, 2014
Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess
cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 11:58 PM on Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
