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I can feel all the love I once had for this woman draining out. Each day she becomes less attractive and appealing. Now when I look at her I cringe.

Yes she will most likely continue on with the lifestyle she has become accustomed to.

I know there's likely going to be some form of alimony but it's not going to keep her in the lifestyle she was used to, by your own admission. She may not have $$ to take these mooks to hotels. That would be my concern, if she brought them to the house in front of my kids.

Is she getting served today?

I know there's likely going to be some form of alimony but it's not going to keep her in the lifestyle she was used to, by your own admission. She may not have $$ to take these mooks to hotels. That would be my concern, if she brought them to the house in front of my kids.

From what everyone is telling me, there isn't a damn thing I can do about it. I've already accepted I'm not getting full custody. My WW owns her house. If you had bothered to read the whole thread you would know that.

There is no mandatory alimony in my state. I have offered to pay her a certain sum each month for five years in order to keep her away from my retirement. I also may demand she buy out half my equity in the house if she gets pissy and tries to fight me. And I'm not answering these redundant questions anymore. If you cannot take the time to read the thread please do not post.

Is she getting served today?

Yes. I said that.

And I'm not answering these redundant questions anymore. If you cannot take the time to read the thread please do not post.

I’ve actually read your thread with great interest from start to finish. I’ve already said I found it inspirational for my own situation. It’s also over 21 pages, and I didn’t take notes, sorry. I also read a lot of forums on this site for my own reasons. If I’ve asked something redundant, shrug, I’m human. I’ll shut up now. Best of luck, Westway.

If you cannot take the time to read the thread please do not post.

As your thread lengthens, even those who have read everything will sometimes have something slip through. Most threads this length will need you to occasionally repeat something. But I do agree that the MAJOR things you've covered should be known to anyone keeping up with your story.

WestWay - Why didn't she just have you pound her while in black face?

Just injecting some humor.

Expect some tears today with her being served.

Is the notice going to outline your requests or just have the legal notice for mediation or court hearing if she contests?

You can have one of 2 notices sent is why I ask. It means she will either know all of what you want or that will be done over a table later.

Like I said, some humor:

Did she ever try to get you to dress up like Mush-Mouth or Re-Wind for Halloween?

WestWay - Why didn't she just have you pound her while in black face?

Just injecting some humor.

Expect some tears today with her being served.

Is the notice going to outline your requests or just have the legal notice for mediation or court hearing if she contests?

You can have one of 2 notices sent is why I ask. It means she will either know all of what you want or that will be done over a table later.

Like I said, some humor:

Did she ever try to get you to dress up like Mush-Mouth or Re-Wind for Halloween?

Thank you for this. It did make me laugh. Funny, but in all the years we were married she never complained about our sex life. She orgasmed every time, several times, and I always made sure she was well taken care of. It's not my pecker that is the problem. It is the body attached to it. She likes the physique of black men. Plain and simple.

I apologize if I was short with some of you. Had a bad morning. WW is being served some time between 3 and 5 this afternoon. I texted and told her to be home for it.

It's not my pecker that is the problem.

Go get a second opinion during the separation. Doctor prescribed R and R. Don't believe me it helps. Go read Buzzy on the wayward side. He had a RA and suddenly no mind movies or worries he wasn't enough.

Getting over someone is best done by getting under someone else? Hmmmm.

BTW - My jokes got a lot of people to laugh. I have like 5 PMs about that. We should send it to one of the comedians on this forum.

Hoping for a stress-free night and that your wife grows some instant maturity for your daughter's sake.

I apologize if I was short with some of you. Had a bad morning.

I'd be surprised if anyone here was that bothered. We know how this goes.

I can feel all the love I once had for this woman draining out. Each day she becomes less attractive and appealing. Now when I look at her I cringe.

You know you are truly "detached" when someone asks if you were married to her and you are embarrassed to say yes. I don't think you can ever come back from that.

She was served yesterday evening. Now we're off to the races.

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[This message edited by MickeyBill2016 at 9:49 PM, November 15th (Friday)]

I know she was expecting it but what has been her demeanor and reaction to it being official now ?

She took it calmly. She was crying last night behind her bedroom door. Mostly she has been avoiding me. I got with her before work this morning and told her we needed to be cordial for our daughters' sake, so we will be eating dinner together at night until further notice. It will be weird, but I want to leave this marriage on a positive note. I have no desire to get nasty unless she provokes my wrath.

I'm interested to see what her lawyer says when he reviews the petition. Right now it's just a waiting game.

Also, I have a deposit in for the new townhouse. I will be moving there on New Years.

[This message edited by Westway at 12:38 PM, November 18th (Monday)]

I got with her before work this morning and told her we needed to be cordial for our daughters' sake, so we will be eating dinner together at night until further notice.

Decent move. We did mention a VAR encase she tries the domestic violence claim. So be careful of that, it is in the standard playbook.

No alimony is interesting. Let us know how that goes. I have never heard of someone getting out so easily.

[This message edited by DoinBettr at 1:04 PM, November 18th (Monday)]

You're being reasonable and that's a good thing, but don't let your guard now, hopefully she accepts your terms so that you can move on quickly with your life, tell her she owes you at least that much, if so great, if not, prepare for war with her and Vito Corleone aka FIL.