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In regard to the sex, I will say this:

She's going to get bored with him if he's truly not uh... talented.

Homegirl's got daddy issues and (sorry to those that don't want to read this) is QUITE in tune with the bedroom.

She's never struck me as the kind of girl that would put up with bad sex for long. She likes it too much.

But then, I suppose, she'll just be on to the next one.

I think she operates under the philosophy of my old sales manager from back in the day...

"Some will. Some won't. Someone's waiting."

Or, as Tom Waits once put it so perfectly:

"They're lining up to mad dog your tilt-a-whirl."

She told me, "Look, it's not about the sex. To be honest, the sex is not good. If it were only about sex, I'd still be with you. You're much, much better."

File this under "Worst Backhand Compliment Ever".

WW: The guy I cheated on you sucks at sex, but you're such a piece of shit that it doesn't even matter.

She told me, "Look, it's not about the sex. To be honest, the sex is not good. If it were only about sex, I'd still be with you. You're much, much better."

Nothing new here; xh told me the same thing, the bimbo was just so-so in the sack. This was later, after swearing they didn't have sex because, well, you know, that would be wrong since they were both still married. One of his multiple little lies he got kinda mixed up about.

However, he said their "soul connection" was just too deep to ignore. They were made for one another. I agree. They were made for one another. Have at it.

You are on the right track UAB. Keep on with the NC. Save yourself while you're still young enough to enjoy a long future with someone worthy.

File this under "Worst Backhand Compliment Ever".

WW: The guy I cheated on you sucks at sex, but you're such a piece of shit that it doesn't even matter.

Ouch.

That hurts on a whole new level. Um... thanks for pointing that out?

[This message edited by UnlovedAndBroked at 5:16 PM, May 19th (Tuesday)]

Nothing new here; xh told me the same thing, the bimbo was just so-so in the sack. This was later, after swearing they didn't have sex because, well, you know, that would be wrong since they were both still married. One of his multiple little lies he got kinda mixed up about.

Oh yeah. She maintained for weeks that there's been no sex. The closest they came to touching was "he gave me a hug and kissed me on top of my head, but I told him that was inappropriate."

Bullshit. The only way I ever got an admission of sex was when I came at her angrily one day. I had to aggressively say, "And stop telling me you haven't fucked him! You're sleeping in his home and getting drunk with him! I'm not stupid; you're insulting my intelligence!"

However, he said their "soul connection" was just too deep to ignore. They were made for one another. I agree. They were made for one another. Have at it.

Yes, cheaters and their POS are certainly quite a pair.

You are on the right track UAB. Keep on with the NC. Save yourself while you're still young enough to enjoy a long future with someone worthy.

Thanks! I don't feel like I'm on the right track, but it's general consensus. Who am I to argue with the masses?

If it makes you feel any better, UAB, my ex said the same things about her new Dad. She tried to minimize their physical contact, said he was pretty lousy in the sack and thought they were soulmates. It's standard Cheaters Handbook stuff. I think it's on page 12.

So WW just emailed me and asked if I'd be willing to have an email conversation with her tonight about shock and awe (she didn't use those words) and about feelings, not what anyone has done.

Of course not answering doesn't mean she wont email you anyway. I'm sure she has the email all written, proofed and approved by OM...just has to hit the send button. I'm sure it says nothing about her A.

I guess that helps?

What is the deal with WSes? Why do they think lying will make the injury hurt less?

I mean, come on! Give me some credit! I've found out you're in an affair. Nothing, nothing, NOTHING you ever say will ever, ever, EVER make that fact any worse... or any less.

Well, okay. "I gave you an STD." could probably be worse. But that's not what I'm talking about.

They all sit there like, "I know I've been going behind your back, lying to you about where I am and who I'm with. I know I've been deleting text messages and I've been making secret phone calls. I know I've given my heart to someone else but... Don't worry. I've got the moral fortitude to not fuck 'em."

They've all got the moral fortitude of a potato - which is to say, NONE!

Oooooooh, I am so pissed off right now.

What happened?

A friend of mine caught wind of what's going on yesterday and called me. He's a shooting buddy of mine.

We're going shooting in the country on the 30th.

He's bringing Tannerite. Which explodes when you shoot it. (Chill out, it's legal.)

That should be theraputic. But I don't think I've got the money for as much ammo as I'll need to dispense with this rage.

And shit. I just realized - for the millionth time - that my very favorite gun is my Walther P99. The one I always wanted, ever since James Bond started using it in Tomorrow Never Dies.

She knew that was the gun I wanted more than any others. My dream piece. And she bought it as an anniversary present 2 anniversaries ago, as a surprise.

What happened?

What happened? Nothing. I just started thinking about the betrayal. The hurt. The knife in my chest that I'm trying to pull out. The damage to my relationship with my son. Her lies. The bullshit scripted nonsense that they ALL spout as if it's going to make us feel better.

What happened is that I'm progressing way past grief and I'm hitting rage.

Now that's a whole new reason to maintain NC.

[This message edited by UnlovedAndBroked at 5:49 PM, May 19th (Tuesday)]

Anger is a hell of a lot better than so sad you can't function.

You're doing well for someone who's life as they knew it ended so quickly and unexpectedly. Just know that even though you can't see them now, there are better days ahead if you keep handling yourself as well as you have thus far. The pain, as far as I can tell, never completely goes away, but it fades to the point that you barely even notice it, and even then, it's just situational.

Your wife sucks. You're smart enough to see that and take action.

[This message edited by h0peless at 5:50 PM, May 19th (Tuesday)]

You might be a redneck... if you know what Tannerite is. Hubby and kids love it. Guess it is a boy thing.

Just want to tell you I think you are doing a great job with the situation!!!

Take care of yourself.

Not a redneck. But, I am from Texas.

Even us beta male nerds shoot out here.

And thanks, DontLieToMe.

Thanks a lot.

So.......

Who's up to starting a pool on how long their relationship lasts?

If I remember correctly, he lost his job and your STBX makes a fair amount of money. How long before she gets tired of him free loading off of her?????

Just trying to inject some humor.

k9

My money is on 6 months.

I don't know... I don't know how long my ex and her new Dad were together (they may still be for all I know) but the last contact I had with her was about a weak shy of the one year Dday anniversary (so about a year and a half week after their "relationship" started) and she was still living at his place. He had also lost his job and she was supporting him.

Trust me, that part will be FUCKING HILARIOUS to you some day.