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newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 5:56 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
This is awesome. You put me in a good mood with your good news! Definitely keep us updated. I'm so glad you went for it and didn't let her leave without getting her number.
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 6:05 AM on Sunday, September 1st, 2013
so awesome. Thanks for sharing!
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 11:46 AM on Monday, September 2nd, 2013
I keep coming back and reading this thread. Gives me goosebumps and a smile.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 3:03 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
If you find yourself in the early stages of dating someone new, I can not recommend enough taking the time to appreciate what it is you are experiencing. It truly is the opposite of all the hurt of infidelity. Step back each day and admire observe the process, really live in the moment. Look at it from the perspective of the future, if you go on to marry this person, don't you want to remember these moments and feelings, vividly. You have that opportunity. Do not worry, just live and experience.
I am happily observing one phone call, turning into occasional texts, into a long, deep phone call, into more frequent texts and sharing of our days. More importantly, I am enjoying the shift from nervously getting to know more about someone (when you know nothing) to wanting to be a part of each other's day. Today there was an ever so slight shift, sharing of good news, a goodnight text. That tone that says, we aren't just friends...
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:18 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
fallingquickly ( member #36599) posted at 9:59 AM on Tuesday, September 3rd, 2013
traildad,
I just read the entire thread and smiled so much my jaw hurts. Please keep with the updates. I love hearing that there is happiness possible ahead.
Congratulations on the wonderful luck of renting in your old neighborhood. How wonderful for your children! And it says something about you that your old neighbor wants you in his house. I'm so glad that things are looking so good for you all.
FQ
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
There came a point when it was too painful to love him, so I stopped.
AussieMum ( member #36579) posted at 1:59 AM on Wednesday, September 4th, 2013
This thread makes me smile!
So happy for you traildad
Me 47
ExH 51
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS13 & DD8)
Separated Jan 13. Divorced Jun 14
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 3:33 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
A little over a week until the much anticipated first date. We talked on the phone again last night for another hour and a half. I find it very refreshing that she has her life together and clearly isn't looking for a guy to come along and save the day. She is thriving as a single, working mom of three young kids. She also, despite all she has going on, keeps her word, calls when she says she will, and is clearly making it a priority for us to talk every few days.
A common theme I have seen in NB threads relates to someone not making time for a SO, and what that means. Now, I have seen both angles, and I can honestly say that if someone wants to make time, they will. I dated someone for a few weeks over the summer, I never seemed to have time to talk with or see her. Finally, I came to the realization it was because I just wasn't that into her. It wasn't intentional, I wasn't trying to mislead her, but somewhere subconsciously I didn't feel she was worth sacrificing sleep, time with friends, etc. As soon as I realized that, I ended it.
Now, here we are, both single, working parents, each with three children seven and under - and we have found time to have regular conversations. It can happen.
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 11:59 PM on Thursday, September 5th, 2013
Swooning over your updates trail dad! 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:46 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
Smiling from ear to ear ..
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 4:39 AM on Friday, September 6th, 2013
Still loving this story and anxiously awaiting follow-ups. In the meantime--good for you traildad. GOOD for you! 
Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James
traildad (original poster member #35258) posted at 10:54 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2013
Thanks everyone for the positive responses to sharing my story!
I am leaving in just over an hour to pick her up for our first date...I've been on a couple of first dates since my D, but this one has a different feel.
Me BH - 33
3 beautiful young children
DDay 12/13/11
Divorced.
Broken hearted61 ( member #34931) posted at 11:00 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2013
Hope you have a fantastic time and a new beginning in your life.
BGF (50) me
WBF (50) him
DD#1 02/23/2012
TT 03/19/2012
Working on R (03/21/2012)
It's over: 5/5/12
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 11:02 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2013
Be sure to come back with an update afterward!
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 11:24 PM on Friday, September 13th, 2013
So...... this update. Does traildad have a curfew tonight???
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 12:41 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
Someone please pass the popcorn?
Will check back later.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
homewrecked2011 ( member #34678) posted at 12:57 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
I hope it's a really late date, he deserves a fun evening!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:01 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
All night party waiting up for traildad!! whoo hoo!!
(passes K the popcorn)
Can anyone else imagine the day traildad tries to explain "US" and this thread to his lady friend??
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 1:35 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
All night party waiting up for traildad!! whoo hoo!!
(passes K the popcorn)
Can anyone else imagine the day traildad tries to explain "US" and this thread to his lady friend??
Passes the popcorn back to CG, we can figure out a name for this group waiting for the update . I call y'all my Internet friends. If they don't get it or feel threatened by it -NEXT!!! My Internet friends are too dang important to my health and well being.
Do we have anything to drink, popcorns making me thirsty !
I hope trail dad is having fun.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:47 AM on Saturday, September 14th, 2013
Living vicariously through traildad is the best fun for tonight!
Internet friends are one thing. But the internet ladies chatting away on his thread, passing imaginary popcorn and wine back and forth while keeping tabs on how LATE it gets while he is on his date.... Yeah, that borders on the "voices in my head tell me I am not crazy" vein.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
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