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Bad and Craig, I found out that the two have history. And I am 100% positive that he is married with two kids. And even though I would love to tell her so he can get guys I'm going to let her k knife that I know everything Sunday morning before church. I'm only waiting until then braise

because I worked late and didn't take pictures of the property in the house in case she decides to go on a breaking spree.

Bad and Craig, I found out that the two have history. And I am 100% positive that he is married with two kids. And even though I would love to tell her so he can get guys I'm going to let her k knife that I know everything Sunday morning before church. I'm only waiting until then braise

because I worked late and didn't take pictures of the property in the house in case she decides to go on a breaking spree. I'm telling her not to be here when I get back from church

[This message edited by evdawg at 8:42 PM, August 29th (Friday)]

Evdawg

You stay calm and don't let her provoke you .

Also don't let her talk her way out of it

But don't be surprised if she is still there when you get back from church. If he is who you think he is and married with two kids, she may not be able to run to him if you have reached his wife.

Remember , you can tell her to leave but if her name is on mortgage or lease you probably can't force her to.

[This message edited by Badhurt at 9:13 PM, August 29th (Friday)]

House is my name only. I have decided to not worry about his wife right now.

I found out that the two have history.

What kind of history?

I would say do anything to get the affair stopped. And then see what happens.

You will never know how to proceed until you confront her. And then tell the OM wife and blow up the affair. Do not tell your wife you are going to tell the OM wife.

The only thing you need to tell your wife is that you do know about the affair and with who and now what.

Telling her not to come home...I don't know if you can legally do that, even if the house is in your name only.

Tell the OM wife, usually it is a very effective tool to help blow up the A.

Even if it doesn't, she has the right to know.

From a tactical perspective, A's to WH's are often a piece on the side, and her AP may likely drop her like yesterday's news once this is exposed.

Do not forewarn your WW that you are outing the A to the OM's BW. So, so often, when there is a heads up, the OM will concoct a story about some crazy jealous psychopath who thinks everyone is screwing his wife, thus setting the stage for his BW to not believe you. Blindsiding the cheaters works best.

Wives tell husbands to get out all the time. Justwow I don't have any information on his wife except they have 2 kids together. Imma try to get a pi on that, but pockets getting kinda light with the money I had yo drop on a retainer.

[This message edited by evdawg at 9:37 AM, August 30th (Saturday)]

You're right, they do. But a lot of times we, as BS's think, if the OP's spouse finds out and kicks their partner out, then the OP will be single and able to pursue our spouse...

You see the flaw there, don't you? Both your WW and the OM did not need to be "free" to pursue each other in the first place. In fact, they each could have ditched their spouses before they pursued their ....whatever you want to call it. They did not choose to do so.

Nothing makes A's blow up or cockroaches scurry faster than the exposure to the light of day.

Believe me justwow shit gonna hit the fan tomorrow morning. She tried to feed me some ol bullcrap this morning. She thinks that I have no clue to what's going on. Its either shut it down or get the f out. Point blank. Like I said I have undeniable proof of the affair. Do mine will have little time to think about what she is going yo want to do. I just feel bad for my stepdaughter (offical title only She's my daughter) for being collerital damage.

[This message edited by evdawg at 9:40 AM, August 30th (Saturday)]

She tried to feed me some ol bullcrap this

What kind of crap?

Saturday mornings are notorious for affairs. Going out shopping, work overtime, to a friends, etc.

Saturdays still make me think back too much.

I've been giving some tidbits of what I know. I think she trying to see what I know. But I'm not that dumb. She actually does have to work today until 1. After that the gos will be on doing its job. Granted she could have him meet her at work. But that's OK too. I don't believe I need the wife's address to blow this up. I'm still going to try to get it though. I think that I need to go get a second VAR for the bedroom so I can hear that conversation after I leave for church. Decisions decisions. And I will ask my lawyer about a PI

[This message edited by evdawg at 11:12 AM, August 30th (Saturday)]

A VAR in the bedroom. I would doubt she would have the OM over to your house. But if you think that is where she talks on the phone usually, the VAR in there would be a good idea. I think you meant the phone conversation from the bedroom on the phone.

The sooner you confront her, the sooner the affair can be stopped.

What kind of history do they have, you mean before you were married?

[This message edited by craig2001 at 11:15 AM, August 30th (Saturday)]

Never love a woman more than you love yourself , and please don't go overboard on the "Dick Tracy" stuff . You can gather all the facts you want to she's still going to walk out that door when that man snaps his fingers . What you have to protect Yourself against is when he's done with her , she'll be trying to beat your door down to get back with you . The only thing she needs to see is a Prettier woman walking out of your place . I know you love her from reading your post . It's time for your Heart To Belong to You Again !!!

I'm getting back to me being number 1. Yes I love her to death. I'm no longer blinded by love though. I will place the other VAR in the bedroom because I know as soon as I leave she'll be calling him to figure out their next move. I really do care, but I don't give a f on what she decides. If she ain't there when I get home she chose option 1. If she is she chose option 2 and if it is option 2 she will have to do the no contact phone call in front of me. As well as transparency on the phone and some other shit. If she tries to use excuses I'll make the cesision and continue to go forward with the lawyer. On don't get it wrong I got my shit together now. I can't wait for the fun to begin tomorrow morning. Yes they had history before we were married.

[This message edited by evdawg at 6:00 PM, August 30th (Saturday)]

goodluck 2morrow Evdawg

Finally put on my big boy pants and told her I knew she is having an affair. Of course she denied it asking what kind of evidence I had against her. Like I'm going to give that up. There was no remorse or anything so I told her she had to go point blank. She's like I have nowhere to go. How is that my problem, go live with him. Can I stay until the end of the month...no, go stay with your mother or brother. I have residency..... I'll go to the cops and force you out for cheating. Then or went back to what evidence do I have. Hurting but not that badly. Thanks guys.

[This message edited by evdawg at 8:58 AM, August 31st (Sunday)]

Post more when you get a chance, evdawg. You last post read like you were hurting a bit. Let us know what you learn from the bedroom VAR.

Hang tough, you are doing great.

Well she obviously was caught off guard. Don't he surprised that she starts begging to do anything and everything within the next 2 days when reality hits that she has to give up her home and her life.

The trick is to not listen to her words but watch her actions. Be sure to be kind to yourself today. Do something that brings you peace and comfort.

(((And strength))))

Good for you!! You owe her nothing - certainly not an explanation of how you know.

Well done for standing up for yourself Evdawg.

She is about to lose everything so watch out for that big hoover she will probably get desperate keep your frame