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Well, now people are starting to tell me OW is not attractive at all. Looks like a 12 year old boy (face and body), beady little eyes, kind of a dipshit...pretty much the opposite of me. No wonder WH lurrvveesss her.

TOO SAD ... Thank you for the bump. Otherwise I would have missed this amazing post... I must rememer to bump it in a couple of days so that it stays relevant!

Thanks for giving me food for thought

Yes, thank you for the bump. I go off and on this site all the time so I miss some of the really great threads as this one.

Everything you have said is so true. The way I see it is that BOTH of the cheaters fit the bill as the weakest of the heard. They are both two weak and very selfish people who don't give a damn about anyone other than themselves. The are both partners in crime wreaking havoc against those who are so unsuspecting.

In my eyes, my h was/is no better than the whore neighbor he decided to screw just for their own enjoyment and ego boosting. My h AND her were two very weak and pathetic individuals who needed to feel the false sense of power the a gave each of them.

But as I have always said, for the most part when they are caught they both run back to the BS with their tail between their legs begging for forgiveness.

Thank you! I needed to read this today.

THANK YOU soooooo much for this post!! It made me smile and helps me hit the truth :) My WH's OW wanted him so badly to leave me for her she told me herself but he never did he could of at any time but didnt, just because she was skinny young and "the funnist person he has ever been around" (his words from a text the funnist person part) she was UGLY on the inside who wants a skank lowlife slut no one she was a good time not a long time THANKS I LOVE THIS POST!!

I love this!!! It was just what I needed to start this new day...I am lost and so abandoned but I am not going to let this get me down!!! Copying this to my journal too...LOVE IT!!!

I needed this too! The OW in my case is no goddess thats for sure. She looks like a dope smoking trash whore. She has piercings on her face and I can see one FB picture a tongue piercing. Things he always said he was repulsed by. Now I'm sure he is enjoying those things!! I can't wait until his little fantasy bubble bursts and he realizes he really blew it. He always said he was afraid of me straying and of losing everything we have worked so hard for. Turns out he was the one who strayed and even though I am in the early phases of this situation I am sure this is going to end in divorce. This relationship has been caustic and dysfunctional too long. And now I have a chance to get out.

This helped me so much today. Thank you.

Wow, I really needed this. Thank you!

I told my "cheating" wife about the "affair down" premise and she hadn't a clue. Her affair guy may be younger than me but he also makes far less, works a menial job, has a huge scar on his neck, walks funny, has spent three years in prison, and his wife (whom I have contacted and talked to extensively) says they may inhabit the same house but they live in opposite ends of it. She's just waiting for the $$$ to get out. Fir him, mym wife is quite the catch, blond, comely, over his station in status. His wife admits he's a smooth talked. When the talk gets sour (as it will), she will find out how quiet things get.

14 months post d-day, and this is still my favorite post ever. Thank you so much!

Thank you for bumping this!

It's been a few years now for me, but WOW, this is what I needed to read today. So glad I found this and I think it can be very helpful to so many of the newbies!!

I too agree that not all OP fit this description so let's get that out of the way. As for my FWH's whore, she did. She was not some young wounded bird with a sob story. She was a newly D skank 28 year old who got got dumped by her own WH. When I first suspected something was going on, I questioned friends who worked with her. They were clear that she would never be the OW. She would go on and on about what her WH did and how she could never do that to another woman. They were all VERY surprised when it all came out. I believe she knew exactly what she was doing. She saw someone that could take care of her and her kids and she went for it. He was a POS who bought into her ego stroking. I still don't like him some of the time, but R is going very good so we go on until....

[This message edited by dawnmarie at 10:10 AM, July 11th (Wednesday)]

THANK YOU!!!

DBB,

I can't thank you enough for this post. There is nothing that I have read on any infidelity site including this one that made me feel the way this one did. You said so beautifully what I needed to hear.

My WH did affair down. When I found out who it was I was astonished. A mousy, plain, dimwitted woman if there ever was one. What an idiot. Both of them.

We are now working on R and trying our best. He is doing some very heavy lifting. Your post is one I have read over and over and I will continue to do so.

Your post might or might not apply to all on this site. But I say take what you need and leave the rest.

Peace,

TS

AMAZING! Thank you!!