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Way to go yop 1/4.

Momster sounds like she's gearing up for something but never fear, karma bites in the end... even if not recognized by the bitee.

I love when people claim "no money" but parade around for all to see.

It's the narcissistic oppotism at best! Imo.

Incredible. Really, incredible. Stay strong!

Going to the hairdresser three times a week and she still hasn't figured out that she really needs to spend her money on buying some class. If I were that hairdresser, I think I would be switching to grooming dogs for a living. With your stepmonster as a client, that wouldn't be much of a stretch to switch it up. Just imagine what he or she is having to go through for that $200 a week. If it were me, the money just wouldn't be worth it.

Psychic?

Shouldn't she have seen this lawsuit coming? I guess her powers were alluding her on that day.

PS - I must admit when I first read it, I thought it was a typo and I read it as "psycho" too.

I was told I have a "very strong case".

Considering how badly they wanted you to sign that waiver, I'm assuming that stepmonster's lawyer knows this also.

Dealing with crazy requires a high level of discernment because *crazy* will tromp all over you until you're completely ground to dust. Some *crazy* can be ignored and yet other *crazy* cannot be allowed. You must choose your battles wisely -- and I see this as a very, very wise battle plan. I'm extremely glad to see that you decided not to walk away from this.

Well done, just that. Well done!

Stay grounded, yop. That's the way to avoid letting crazy get you. (You sure sound like you're doing a great job at that!)

You've already achieved your original goal. Everything else is just good stuff on top.

The more you write about her, the more I applaud your giving her a dose of reality.

My. Just ... my.

Wow! This is absolutely amazing! I've been sat giggling to myself reading your posts, YOP. This is HUGE! Congratulations on it all, it's brilliant

Today I feel empowered. Something I have not felt too many times in my life. I have to say it feels really good to have a voice and not be under a PD's thumb. No emotional manipulation. They have no control over me. Feels great and I don't even have to do anything. I just get to sit and silently say this to her

I think this is my most favourite thing I have ever read on SI. You should be so proud of yourself. You have moved mountains to overcome the awful hand you were dealt in your childhood and this was such a big step. It's just amazing, well done!

Let me preface with step momster is psychic. Step momster has been telling people that her boyfriend is psychic and that my recently deceased father started coming to him to tell her boyfriend that he needs to take care of step momster. New beau is supposedly wealthy. At the same time my father has also been visiting with step momster and telling her that she should let new beau take care of her. So step momster reluctantly has agreed to have a relationship with new boyfriend. Step momster is not in love with the new boyfriend but because my father has been telling her it's ok, she's going forward with her new relationship.

Always amazing how creative cheaters become when justifying their affairs. This one is really creative; coming up with it took some imagination. Gotta give her credit for that.

YOP: I think we're all looking forward to the day stepmomster gets her due. Please keep updating throughout. Meanwhile, continue to maintain your sense of humor and your sense of right vs wrong. You're the guy in the white hat. (((( ))))

Here's an update. Not much to say in the past month except that a scheduled court date has been postponed twice due to Stepmomster's lawyer not serving notice to me. Which basically means that this thing has been drawn out a few extr weeks from the start. Which really only hurts Stepmomster and her not getting "her money". Yet somehow in Stepmomster's eyes I'm sure it's my fault. First court session is finally scheduled for next week while I'm out of the country. I don't have to be there for it anyway.

You know how sometimes there are unforeseen consequences to actions? I talked with step sister today and there was definitely one intended consequence that I did not see coming. Step sis has 2 special needs kids both in their late teens now. Step sis has gone mostly NC with stepmomster since X-mas. Stepmomster kept texting about what was going on with this case and if she knew anything, if she talks to me about it, if step sis is taking my side, etc etc etc. Step sis kept giving her crickets.

Stepmomster hasn't spoken to her special needs grandkids in years and step sis does not allow them to be alone with Stepmomster as there have been issue sin the past. Stepmomster has very little contact with them and when there is contact, she for the most part ignores her grandkids anyways.

So what does Stepmomster decide to do? Stepmomster decides to send the older special needs son a happy bday message saying that she made him a cake and has a card with money in it for him. Come on over. He can't drive and is severely autistic. He shows this to Step sis. She can't explain that this is most likely a manipulation tactic as he will not understand. He just knows he wants to see grandma (Stepmomster), have a party and get some money. He's very excited.

You guys can all see what BPD Stepmomster is all about from a mile away. So now Step sis "has to" take her son over. They go and what does Stepmomster do? Ignores grandson and constantly questions step sis about this case and me. And of course he's hurt because he gets ignored again. I think he did get the card with money though.

Stepmomster used Step sis' special needs son to get to Step sis to try and get to me. WTF?!?!? I'm pissed and feel so badly for Step sus' DS. Talk about dirty politics.

I apologized to step sis and I hate that she's getting pulled into the middle. Though I expected that and told her as much before this stated. What I didn't expect was Step Sis' DS being used too.

FUCK THIS BITCH!!! I hope this case gets dragged out for 5 more years.

yop

WHAT KIND OF FUCKED UP IS THAT????

STUPID BITCH!!!!

I can't even begin to fathom the selfishness...wow.

Drag it out bro. Drag this thing out for as long as you can!

And give this to her from us...

YoP, suggest to your stepsis that she block grandma's number on her kids' phones.

I hope next week's court session goes well!

Don't purposefully drag this crap out spitefully. Just let it happen so that it's done and over and you can be through with having to deal with that awful woman.

It is amazing what lengths a narcissist will go to in order to fulfill his/her most selfish needs, and the transparent nature of it is just "jaw-dropping" isn't it? Sadly, you are right; this was so predictable and unfortunately she did not use this occasion to prove to you that your instincts about her might have been wrong. On the contrary, she proved them to be astoundingly accurate, unfortunately for your poor, innocent step nephew.

At first I thought, "Why stop at the five year mark?" but really, for your sake, I hope that this gets resolved in court as soon as possible, and in your favor so that you can be rid of her and the negative energy that she brings to anyone who has to have the displeasure of dealing with her in any way.

You know, I read your update, the part about your step-sister's son, and I wasn't shocked. I wasn't surprised. I simply said, oh, of course she'd do that. Didn't even need to read the ending to know how it came out.

Sad, isn't it, when it's that predictable.

Hope that you have a wonderful trip and that you come back to have some good news from the court.

Why does it not surprise me in the least that your stepmonster stooped to baiting her autistic grandchild in order to reel your step sis in? Of course she had to use a play straight out of the narcissism handbook and it's not even close to being original. It's past time to block stepmonster from stepsis's children's phones. Your children's phones too. That will take her options away from her.

Well, that sounds like a turd in the oven if I ever heard of one. Too bad she doesn't value others really. Hope she can get her head out of her ASD before she has a funeral no one will go to.

I'm so sorry for your step-sisters son. I sincerely hope that she blocks all future contact to protect her children from being used in this way again.

However, the knowledge that this is driving the SM crazy is hilarious.

Well, as painful and upsetting as it is, this will find all the holes in the bucket, so to speak. Step sis should block grandmonster on his phone. She will no doubt use any and all other means to get to her. Once identified, those means can be blocked or removed as options.

I'm not shocked either, but sad for her grandson. Time to grandmonster proof their lives.