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I have to agree with the DO NOT ignore the not being allowed to talk to your children thing.

It is not ok for her to do this. You deserve to speak with them everyday if you choose.

Listen she is so off the damn deep end, I would actually be concerned about her pulling a If I can't have what I want then you can't have your kids stunt. I don't want to scare you, but please make sure you have daily contact with them, when they are with her. Your son is old enough to let you in on anything that may not be on the up and up.

(((and strength))))

Abbondad wrote:

My prediction is she has or will change her mind yet again, and/or added/deleted language to the MSA even though she already has signed.

I am bitterly patting myself on the back: Sure enough, after signing the MSA Saturday, CSTBX then wrote more changes into the hard copy. Most aren't significant, but one is. In any case we are going to ask the judge tomorrow to make a final ruling on Saturday's MSA and throw out the latest.

My attorney said her attorney reports that STBX is very unstable and "slurring her words."

(She is on massive amounts of klonopin, I'm sure.)

How safe is she around the children..considering her "massive amounts" of Klonopin?

I must be short, sorry:

Tell your lawyer about klonopin. Perhaps think about this: You two can keep it as a last minute bargain chip before you all enter the courtroom, e.g. that you will demand mandatory weekly(or sth like that) for Both of you for a trial period of____ , unless she agrees to the MSA she signed, without the last significant change that's the deal breaker for your.

Best wishes

[This message edited by HobbesTheTiger at 4:41 PM, March 31st (Monday)]

You DO NOT mess with Klonopin (or any other benzo -- Valium, Xanax, Ativan, what have you). In my opinion AT MOST benzos are okay for one to two months of limited use, maybe for panic attacks or the like, but enough people have bad experiences getting off them long term (like REALLY bad experiences--it can make quitting smoking seem trivial)...

Sorry to derail, but I feel really horrified at how casually benzos are used. Heads up that if she's been on benzos for a long time and she tries to come off them she may get pretty messed up for about a year past her last dose. (Or she may be completely fine.. depends on the person.)

Continuous stream of strength heading your way, AD. Tomorrow can't come soon enough.

((((AD & kiddos))))

Could she be trying to set up some type of "diminished capacity" situation to overturn the MSA in the future?

k9

The latest from her attorney to mine:

"I've got to tell you that I am really uncomfortable meeting with the judge at 9:30 AM. STBX still wants to make changes to the MSA."

My attorney:

"I will not start negotiating anything else. I will want to enforce the agreement made on Saturday, but if that becomes impossible, then I am having to consider whether I think STBX lacks capacity to enter into a contract at this time. I am hoping that she is well and healthy tomorrow."

I've always admired lawyers and judges for their ability to write clearly and compellingly. Ha ha ha ha ha.

(Seriously, read a famous Supreme Court decision. They're all generally pretty good.)

You have a savvy attorney!

sorry, double post w/ wonky laptop!

[This message edited by dreamlife at 6:39 PM, March 31st (Monday)]

Could she be trying to set up some type of "diminished capacity" situation to overturn the MSA in the future?

No way. She is too unintelligent, unknowledgeable, and uninsightful for that. This is the real her. She has the emotional intelligence of a child, and acts accordingly. She is in a very unstable state and is self-medicating. She checked herself into a psychiatric hospital some time before I met her. (I informed my attorney of this.)

Repeating suggestion because it's even more apparent and alarming now: have your attorney request a full blown psych eval. Expect that you will have a psych eval too but you'll pass with flying colors, while she's likely to end up with supervised visitation until she's sane.

Praying for you tomorrow!

Good luck tomorrow, AD.

Thinking of you today and wishing you well

You can do it, stay tough!.

MM

Good luck today AD!

Are you concerned about her mental state, AD? It's been suggested by several of us that you have your lawyer order a psychiatric evaluation. Maybe I've missed it, and you responded, but I can't find it. What are your thoughts on having this done? Do you think your children are safe with her? Physically and emotionally?

Good luck today!

Thanks, everyone, for your support. I feel good--especially after this late-breaking Email from her attorney to mine:

I talked to CSTBX. She is really shaken up about the judge wanting to see her at 9:30 AM. She says that she will not go to trial and will sign the MSA. Fingers crossed...

Just an FYI...I'm bringing a motion to w/draw with me tomorrow.

I must admit that somewhere in me--flickering, at a great distance--is sadness for my CSTBX. She must be a very unhappy person. And we were happy in our family. Life was good. It really was. So tragic that she chose this and dragged everyone down with her.

I will let you know how everything goes.

Are you concerned about her mental state, AD? It's been suggested by several of us that you have your lawyer order a psychiatric evaluation. Maybe I've missed it, and you responded, but I can't find it. What are your thoughts on having this done? Do you think your children are safe with her? Physically and emotionally?

I am indeed very concerned, and have written to my attorney expressing this. After today we will discuss again the possibility of psych evaluations for both of us. I do not believe the children are in active danger with her. I do not believe she would "do" anything TO them. I simply don't. What I am concerned with is that her actions will result in their being unsafe. KWIM?