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momentintime ( member #16394) posted at 4:06 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I assume she signed the MSA. Hope you didn't agree to anymore of her controlling and hurtful conditions.
I know this is a tough day, but a great burden has been lifted, you are now FREE to start a new life. You can ignore her craziness for the most part and deal with finances and kiddos only.
[This message edited by momentintime at 10:08 AM, April 1st (Tuesday)]
BS-me FWS - him
D-day 8/04
R'd
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
KickedintheGut ( member #30086) posted at 4:08 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Wow AD. Just wow. I hope this gives you some relief to begin your new life with your boys.
Me - BW (38) Him (calcitro) - SAWH (38)
2 Kids Working on R
DDay#1 - 11/9/10 - 2 year EA/PA
DDay #2 - 12/9/10
Disclosure - 4/8/11
Timeline - 5/9/11
Abbondad (original poster member #37898) posted at 4:11 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Oh Hell AD come on. You can just post that and nothing else.
We have been cheering you on for over a year and a half.
We want to know what happened
I would never do that to you guys! Just running around busily and wanted to give the quick announcement. Will post later with all the details :-)
I feel good, strong, relieved, vindicated.
Thank you!!!!!!!
Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
Kelany ( member #34755) posted at 4:13 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
You have survived her narcissistic egotistical ass!
BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12
Former 80s Icon wishful thinking
Undefinabl3 ( member #36883) posted at 4:22 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
You have survived her narcissistic egotistical ass!
Unfortunetly, he has the next however many years left until the kids are graduated collage basically (or 18, depending on how long the CS lasts in your state).
Either way - i am just greatful that you are no longer married to her. Has to be a huge relief.
Me: 35 MH
Him: 41 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.
1/26/15 - Started IC for me, DH won't go.
1/10/18 - Again?!? Online EA's
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:24 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I feel good, strong, relieved, vindicated.
This is the best thing I've read all week.
Congratulations, AD. Now go get your sunshine! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
still2suspicious ( member #31722) posted at 4:25 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I am so happy that you persevered Abb!
You went thru hell to get here, but now YOU can limit your interaction with her, and she can't do a damn thing about it!!!!!
Hope it went your way, to your relief.
Sending strength.
Me: BSHim: WHDDay: LTEA Every storm runs out of rain - Gary Allen
D final 2/23
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 4:51 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:03 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Hell YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats AD!!!!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
Klove ( member #42096) posted at 5:06 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I feel good, strong, relieved, vindicated
yes!
"But stand still is all I did
Love like ours is never fixed
Still I stuck around
I did behave
I saved you every time
I was a fool for love
I was a fool for love"
Lalagirl ( member #14576) posted at 6:20 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Yay!!!!
What a long, strange trip this has been, AD.
Onward and upward!
2025: Me-59 FWH-61 Married 41 years grown daughters- 41 & 37. 1 GS,11yo GD & 9yo GD (DD40); Five grands ages 15 to 8. D-day #1-1/06; D-day #2-3/07 Reconciled! Construction Complete. Astra inclinant, sed non obligant
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 6:23 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Congrats AD!!!!
I am so happy for you. You should feel Strong, and Vindicated!!!!!
You stuck to your guns, and did what was right for you and your kids. It served you well.
Now she has no right to enter your home, she has no right to tell you what to do, and it will chap her ass that her craziness, and manipulations have no more control over you.
You my friend have come a long long long way.
Woo HOO!!!!
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
alphakitte ( member #33438) posted at 6:48 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
------ Some people are emotional tadpoles. Even if they mature they are just a warty toad. Catt
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 8:39 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Dad, congratulations on the first day of the rest of your life!
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
timeforchange ( member #27454) posted at 9:42 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I am so pleased for you and so proud of you. Your journey symbolizes all that is wonderful about SI... You never stopped reaching out and got great support and most importantly you listened.
You have survived hell and never lost sight of what was best for your kids. Well done.
I hope you will stick around?
I look forward to following your journey, watching you heal, rediscover yourself and finding happiness and love with some one new sometime.
Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
Tearsoflove ( member #8271) posted at 10:17 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
Congratulations! I don't usually say that because divorce is sad but I really believe this woman did you a favor.
"Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand." ~Homer Simpson
devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 10:17 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
I'm shocked, truly shocked that she signed and it's all done! I'm sure there was some drama today, but I'm thrilled for you!!! Time for you to find out what it feels like to tell her "you fired me from that job" next time she tries to force you to do something!!
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 11:29 PM on Tuesday, April 1st, 2014
So happy for you! It may not seem like it today, but you WILL be so grateful for this one day!
There is life after D-- go get you some!!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
*****************************
Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
AD you're KILLING us!
We need the deets!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
rainagain ( member #14917) posted at 2:42 AM on Wednesday, April 2nd, 2014
So happy for you....I was thinking about this all day today!
New beginning!
Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:11 done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love- Marino Me: Divorced
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