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Trying_To_Decide ( member #29792) posted at 4:21 PM on Wednesday, March 2nd, 2011
Bumping for Goose'em and some other new friends...
Me, the BS:38 ...now 43
WH...STBX:39 ...now 44
3 kids, 16+ years
Thelonious ( member #30683) posted at 2:20 AM on Thursday, March 3rd, 2011
Me: 57
WS: 45
No kids
Together 8 years, living together for 4
D-Day: September 28, 2010
Separation: October 5, 2010
MyWish ( member #30554) posted at 3:40 AM on Thursday, March 3rd, 2011
Great post Katherine41! Needed to hear it let's see what happens next form me.
49yr old BS
37yr WH
D-Day 08/29/2010 2 days before our 4th anniversary
Thought we were in R, but all that changed March 21, 2012.
bent44 ( member #31386) posted at 8:52 AM on Thursday, March 3rd, 2011
Thank you so much for this post. As a newbie here, I am so grateful for all of the experience shared on this site.
Just wanted to send out a thank you hug!
"If you marry a chicken, don't expect an eagle."
I don't know if my chicken will ever become an eagle. But rest assured, I'm going to be a phoenix. Nevermind that I am still in the ashes stage of the process.
Update...he
sunningdalelad ( member #30823) posted at 9:50 AM on Thursday, March 3rd, 2011
6. Never reveal your sources
Listen to me. Never reveal your sources. An unremorseful or foggy WS will lie to the bitter end. They will swear on their children, their parents, on the Bible, etc. Just believe in yourself and your evidence. If you are confronting the WS, don't reveal the way you got your info. If they lie, just keep repeating, "You are lying and I know it."
I wish I had read this post right at the beginning,I gave up my last source (email access)in one of my angry moments and unfortunately I can never now be certain that NC is being maintained. The slightest hint of behaviour outside the norm makes me check all the old sources but then I think " she's probably now carefully covering her tracks". This is not good for sanity.
Cee64D ( member #21836) posted at 12:32 PM on Thursday, March 3rd, 2011
The hardest part of forgiveness is accepting it from others...
Me BH 44
Clarrissa FWW 44
D-Day 04 Oct, 2008
fromthisdayfwd ( member #30634) posted at 12:42 AM on Monday, March 7th, 2011
Bump for Goose ~ Again! I hope he reads it!
Married 8/20/1994
Betrayed
DDay 6/23/2010
A gift is not given if it has been demanded.
Failure to attempt is failure.
TrulyinPain ( new member #31418) posted at 12:55 AM on Monday, March 7th, 2011
Thanks for this post. It was really helpful for me. DDay was so recent and I am still trying to figure things out. Awesome post!!!!
mission ( member #28087) posted at 1:12 AM on Monday, March 7th, 2011
Can someone please tell me where this great post is????
BS-(me)-47
WH-52
Married 20 yrs
3 kids-18,15,7
Is there hope of a new life for a divorced woman 47 yrs old?
Trying_To_Decide ( member #29792) posted at 1:30 AM on Monday, March 7th, 2011
Click on page 1 at the bottom f the thread... 
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Me, the BS:38 ...now 43
WH...STBX:39 ...now 44
3 kids, 16+ years
alluringillusion ( member #4029) posted at 8:26 PM on Wednesday, March 9th, 2011
"I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again."
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 4:19 PM on Saturday, March 19th, 2011
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
Edie ( member #26133) posted at 5:35 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2011
hard_yards ( member #23549) posted at 3:23 PM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2011
I feel like I'm in a parallel universe... everything looks the same... but something's just not right...
featherweight ( member #22690) posted at 3:32 PM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2011
excellent post. One I still need to read many times over.
R is a constant work in progress. Me:BS 46, WH 45 *Married 15yrs*
our precious Daughter is now 10.
WH had EMA with CoWorker for 2+yrs. D-day 12/08, separated 18mos.
R started 2010, decided to live together again after 18mo, very hard to trust aga
moonshine ( new member #31686) posted at 3:45 PM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2011
I just joined today and someone bumped this post for me - thank you so much! i just discovered about my WH having an A with another woman and I'm so messed in my head but this is a very good step by step guide to at least put down an initial action plan. Thanks a bunch, so glad to find SI!
"Sometimes you have to stand alone to prove that you can still stand."
Me, BS, 32 pregnant with first baby
WH - 32
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 10:35 PM on Tuesday, April 5th, 2011
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
Nicole5 ( member #17794) posted at 12:48 AM on Saturday, April 9th, 2011
divorced my WH on Nov 4, 2011
(see my profile for "the story")
Switchkitty ( member #31653) posted at 5:10 PM on Saturday, April 9th, 2011
Threads like this one are so helpful to me. This is one I will be sure to read over and over.
Me: F (BS) 42
Her: F (WS) 36 TOTALLY UNREMORSEFUL
DDay 3-27-11
Been together almost 2 yrs.
TT 5-7-11
Married for 1 yr. (In Iowa)
~Headed towards divorce~
lordhasaplan? ( member #30079) posted at 2:10 AM on Tuesday, April 19th, 2011
BS- Me (45)D-day: 5/18/10, lies and TT till (11/26/10). Currently in R.Don't carry others crap. It's your job to fix yourself, not your spouse.
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