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TYJOM ( new member #23535) posted at 8:25 AM on Saturday, April 18th, 2009
aesir, Thanks for the posts.
aesir (original poster member #17210) posted at 8:03 AM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
Just bumping this since we were asked to help out new members, and right now this is all I feel I have to offer.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
dazdandconfuzed ( member #11692) posted at 2:32 PM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
My H is a #2 (also a recovering alcoholic) and it fits him to a T.
The thing that freaked me out though, is that I firmly believe my SIL is a WS and have told my bro that, although he refuses to see it. And if you look at just the personality and take an A out of the picture, she is a #3 to the LETTER!!!
hurt08 ( member #23583) posted at 6:59 PM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
My WH is a #2,4 and 5.
Thank you for bumping this 
Married 12/95(separated since 10/08, filed 9/2/09-divorced Nov13/09)
BW
JVS3 ( member #20124) posted at 9:48 PM on Saturday, May 2nd, 2009
My FWH is a mix of 1, 2 and 4.
Peace is not something you wish for; It's something you make, Something you do, Something you are, And something you give away. - Robert Fulghum
As you slide down the banister of life, may the splinters never point in the wrong direction.
tractorgirl ( member #21226) posted at 5:20 PM on Sunday, May 3rd, 2009
my H is #6 exactly.
very interesting
BS=me, late 30's
FWH=him, early 40's
Married 15 years
OW=19 yrs old
2 boys: 12 & 9, wonderful!!
Reconciling
aesir (original poster member #17210) posted at 7:20 AM on Wednesday, June 17th, 2009
Bumping for newer members.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
survivor78 ( member #23703) posted at 8:38 AM on Wednesday, June 17th, 2009
WH is a combination of 1 and 6. I think.
Who knows? Too many secrets. 
2stickinthere ( member #24439) posted at 1:49 PM on Monday, July 27th, 2009
my ww is #4 almost every point, and a little mix from several others. is there more information about this type?
musiclover ( member #23172) posted at 4:50 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2009
Great post!!! My X is a cross between 3&4
Fooledmex2 ( member #24521) posted at 5:53 PM on Wednesday, August 19th, 2009
Thanks for bumping this-my WS is a classic #6. Now I am off to check out the post referenced at the beginning.
Me BS 35
Him WS 34
Married 12 years, 5 kids
OW #1 Skanky co-worker in 2003
OW #2 ONS 2-18-09 (following emails/phone calls from 12-08 to 2-09)
OW #2 Date-OW led to believe he was divorced 3-14-09
DDay #1 6-1-09, DDay #2 9-16-10
Do I stay or go
cautiousoptimist ( member #24222) posted at 3:11 AM on Friday, August 21st, 2009
Bumping so we can dialogue
Me: BW, 43
Him: FWH, 50, alcoholic/drug addict in rehab, staying sober
D-day:4/30/09
Marriage 11 years
In R, doing our best
I will have it even so.
doesitend ( member #25040) posted at 4:10 AM on Friday, August 21st, 2009
Well this is interesting- I can't see my WS as any one of the 7, but I see myself in at least 2 and I've never even had a thought of having an A.
what does that mean?
BS-me
WS-him
married 8 years
1 child- 2.5 boy
D-Day- April 28, 2009- 2 EA's found out in same day
Trickle Truth- keep finding out new stuff.
Dday#2- Sept. 7, 2009- 4 women, 4 years
He filed for divorce 1 week after I got back from my friends!
Marcia ( member #6503) posted at 5:16 AM on Friday, August 21st, 2009
Interesting material. What strikes me is that I myself am a #6, almost exactly. Yet when I am in a relationship (not to mention a marriage!) I am never even tempted to stray, and we all know opportunities are everywhere. It doesn't even cross my mind. I just couldn't respect myself if I did things like that. Sometimes I really do think I'm weird 
WHEN DID THE RULES CHANGE?
How did I miss the memo???
People: Read up on the 180!
Oh, and I'm boycotting Nike forever ;)
aesir (original poster member #17210) posted at 1:57 AM on Wednesday, December 16th, 2009
From the first post:
PS: Just a warning, someone fitting these profiles should not be taken to mean that they have had or will have an affair. This is about understanding the psychology of a person as it relates to an affair once they have had one.
There are lots of factors that lead to the decision to have an A or not. I believe these are just personality types. If the book was about some other issue, then a lot of these personality types would be described with references to that issue.
In the book, each of these types is discussed seperately, with different methods of dealing with the affair, and different questions the BS must ask themselves, and different chances of success for resolving them.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 2:23 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009
time for a bump, things get busy during the holidays and this was slipping to the end.
P.S. Dr. Huiezenga has a blog and newsletter, they are both excellent supplements to read.
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
Star727 ( member #22026) posted at 2:56 PM on Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009
My WH is a #7 to a tee! The secrecy, lack of intimacy, the slow dance of ending his relationship with her.
A year has past and he is still calling her. I thought it was over by now. Found it they were still talking when he got sick and was hospitalized.
What has happened with me now is I've lost interest in my husband now. I see he won't stop so my heart stopped caring.
Don't know where this marriage will go or how it will end if thats whats going to eventually happen.
Me 55, H 60, Married 25 yrs
2 Kids, 19 & 24
H had long term EA with coworker.
"It ain't about love anymore."
aesir (original poster member #17210) posted at 2:43 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
Star, my heart goes out to you. I think that in most cases, that is the infidelity script. The BS wants to work things out, and eventually loses interest as the WS takes too long in getting over the A themselves.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
unhappy_valentin ( member #20671) posted at 3:01 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
WH is very much both:
#1: My Marriage Made Me Do It
#4: I Fell Out of Love (and just love being in love)
If this were me I would be:
#6: I Need to Prove My Desirability:
Remember to breath, to like yourself and take baby steps towards the future
Me BS 35 XWH 36 going on 12
M 14 yrs. (together 16)
Children: 0
1st Dday 28.01.05
2nd Dday 23.07.08
08.11.08 Truly in Rec! What a joke!
3rd Dday 30.12.10 THE END!!
4ever Jaded ( new member #26857) posted at 3:07 PM on Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009
My WH is #2. If it were me I'd be #5. Sad but true.
" Confession of our sins is the closest thing to innocence"
Me-30
Him- 34
2 DD
M-13 years
D Day - Ha! Which one?
D? I don't think so. Stay and make 'em suffer with you!
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