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Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 9:18 PM on Monday, March 14th, 2011
A couple of gems from a thread about the WS wanting to be "friends" after the D (http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=399519)
From squiffle
Unrepentant cheaters are narcissistically inclined. She doesn't want "friendship," she wants ego kibbles from you. You're still a source of narcissistic supply.
From caregiver9000
Friends? Absolutely not. Never. The fact that I don't run over him with my car when I see him is as friendly as I can be.
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
bufffalo ( member #21854) posted at 8:25 AM on Saturday, March 19th, 2011
I have had so much smoke blown up my ass through all of this that I could pass as the Marlboro man.
joeboo in "general" describing trickletruths and things his wife has forgotten in her affair.... 
Bufffalo
HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460) posted at 2:35 AM on Tuesday, March 22nd, 2011
aesir - Fasten your seatbelt and keep your arms inside the car at all times, it is going to be a wild ride for a while.
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 4:34 PM on Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011
This guy needs a kerosene bath and a stray flame.
Thren to GeekGirlNB in GEN. about her WH's master manipulation and game playing abilities that cause GG worry and stress after disappearing.
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
whosethefool ( member #30693) posted at 11:48 AM on Monday, March 28th, 2011
"The inside of their heads can be very strange places indeed" - Dazedandconfuzed today 28th March.
Doesn't matter which thread or context, it's a gem in its own right!
Me: BW 59
Him: WH 65 2 yr EA, not sure if ongoing (it was!)
OW: 43, work colleague
M 36 years no kids
DD: July 2010 with TT to Dec
R: We're doing OK, I can see a future together now.
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 2:05 PM on Tuesday, March 29th, 2011
From aesir:
I'm from Canada. You can tell by some of the unusual phrases I use, like "when it warms up to -20".
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
jjct ( member #17484) posted at 1:19 AM on Wednesday, March 30th, 2011
The less you feed their selfishness the more they try to manipulate.
Frank2010
wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 1:12 AM on Friday, April 1st, 2011
Vaginas are the Florida of the body.
And the penis is hot, but it's a dry heat.
LadyV in New beginings
[This message edited by wifehad5 at 7:13 PM, March 31st (Thursday)]
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 2:21 PM on Friday, April 1st, 2011
(Written on the bathroom mirror in soap one romantic evening) "You look erratic tonight." (He meant erotic.
ajsmom in a thread in NB about exes' annoying habits. Her's was about his mangling of English. This line has me cackling!
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 4:35 AM on Sunday, April 3rd, 2011
Caregiver9000 summarizing what it means to be a D BS. I have never seen it put this succinctly.
What he doesn't get: the horror, the panic, the fear, the stalking and breaking and entering, the mind fuck and the financial shenanigans, the stomach churning anger and rage, the disbelief, the self doubt, the who is this stranger who takes my kids two nights a month? the nausea, the night sweats and heart pounding terror at little things like the sound of a car door or the unexpected phone call, the humiliation of court, the wounded look in the face of your children, the resentment from your children and you had no control over what happened to them, the smug condescension from the whore, the pity from people who just don't know better, the do I call myself MRS. Fuckup and share a last name with my kids or change it back to Ms. I wish I'd never met him?, the std and cancer scare, the look on people's faces who just don't know how to be around you, the gossip.
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:57 PM on Friday, April 8th, 2011
so unless that golfer was carrying his little sand/stone funnel and stopping at a bathroom per hole in order to piss blood and scream jesus' name, i just don't see finishing 18 after having my kidney's gangbanged by the local urology thugs.
Stretch in S&D on the Peace Train thread, after having oral surgery with many unexpected drugs. She's talking about a laser procedure to zap kidney stones.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 11:57 AM, April 8th (Friday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 12:20 PM on Sunday, April 10th, 2011
Ladyvorkosigan when asked if she ever modeled:
Sure. You should've seen my six page editorial in Women Whose Fat Throws a Shadow Over Their C-Section Scars Magazine.
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower."
TrustedHer ( member #23328) posted at 11:41 AM on Tuesday, April 12th, 2011
He's sorry you got hurt. He's not sorry for what he did. His apology is not whole.
-- Succinct description of apology from Marzipan
Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 5:41 AM on Friday, April 22nd, 2011
HowMany responding to Caregiver9000 lawyer's attitude to STBXH aka..stretch. He earned the name when he photo shopped his privates in pictures on an adult dating site.
This is a win/win. Your lawyer runs over Stretch.....Stretch's penis looks larger because of it. Stretch will appreciate his flat long penis, you will appreciate your giant settlement. Everyone is happy.
Ain't life grand?
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 7:56 PM on Monday, April 25th, 2011
Don't try to change the haters.
You're not the "Asshole Whisperer."
Classic AJ's Mom to dolphin re texting her STBX in General.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 1:56 PM, April 25th (Monday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 8:36 AM on Thursday, April 28th, 2011
I've told my kids this in the past--on the playground and in real life, situations will come up where someone needs to take a stand to defend a principle. It means going against the crowd to stand up for what you believe in, no matter the consequences. A lot of kids, and grownups, won't do it. It's hard, and you hope you won't ever be called on like this, but when it happens, you know what you have to do.
~Marzipan in taking a stand with boundaries, or lack there of.
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
ajsmom ( member #17460) posted at 3:24 PM on Friday, April 29th, 2011
He fails to comply, his ass is kicked to the curb so fast you'll have to FedEx his shadow to him the next day.
BeenThereDunThat's advice to Alex CR in IT regarding an ultimatum to Alex's WS.
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
Fighting2Survive ( member #28410) posted at 4:38 AM on Saturday, April 30th, 2011
Threnody, on a BH/WH minimizing his EA:
There's not a "mild." This is infidelity, the breaking of boundaries and vows. This isn't hot sauce packets from Taco Bell.
Me: BW, 40.......Him: FWH, 40
D-day: 3-22-10
DS1: 11, DS2: crawling
Status: R going well
"When you can tell the story and it doesn't bring up any pain, you know it is healed." - Iyanla Vanzant, Broken Pieces
BeenThereDunThat ( member #134) posted at 5:00 PM on Monday, May 2nd, 2011
Thanks, AJsMom, for giving me my 15 minutes of fame! Woo hoo! 
~BeenThereDunThat~
"....I could have missed the pain - but I'd have had to miss the dance..."
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 3:38 AM on Wednesday, May 4th, 2011
Kernel, in General, on the topic of being shocked by the WS:
I have been shocked from the moment X gave me the ILYBINILWY speech and moved out. Absolutely everything he has done since then has been completely ass-backwards from the man I knew for 28 years. When your teens do shit like this they tell you to check for drugs or bullying or alcohol. I'm not sure what you check for with a 50 year old crazy ass man. Alien anal probes?
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
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