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wifehad5 ( Administrator #15162) posted at 4:03 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2011
Floridaredman in Wayward 
A marriage needs the three C's
Commitment
Communication
Compromise
These are very important.
It's like being in a canoe and each of you have an oar.
You are responsible for your side and he is responsible for his side.
Together you can make the canoe go anywhere,
however if you are the only one rowing..the canoe will go in circles.
Even if he rows part of the time..the canoe will never reach it's destination
FBH - 52 FWW - 53 (BrokenRoad)2 kids 17 & 22The people you do your life with shape the life you live
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 6:43 PM on Thursday, May 5th, 2011
Seeker2010:
This is where we are now. We've finally realized that a lot of our issues were based on fear of one another... That is, each of us not wanting to admit what was really going on with us. We were okay with being strong and happy for one another, but no weak and troubled and angry. We didn't believe the other would put up with/stay with (the flawed) us, only the nice us.
Boy, my wife accepted me with my flaws from the beginning, and I knew it. I accepted her, too, but she never believed me. If she had shown me her feelings about herself, we'd never know about SI.
From http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=406525
doesitgetbetter:
It takes time to accept that the WS really did this to themselves, and the BS was collateral damage and usually nothing else.
It's hard to accept, but this sure is true in my case.
From http://survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=407321
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 1:08 AM on Saturday, May 7th, 2011
she puts the whore in horrible person
anitacocktail quoting her sister's thoughts on the OW in the "Trading Pix of the OW" thread in D&S.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
oldtimer97 ( member #2365) posted at 1:02 AM on Sunday, May 8th, 2011
WincingatLight does it again...in General: post about the blind trust & love while the WS is cheating:
Any fool with the common sense God gave a goat would read the preceding sentences and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that his wife was up to something hinky.
“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.”
― Maya Angelou
To save a marriage, you must be willing to lose the marriage.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:50 AM on Friday, May 13th, 2011
Man, that loser you married could fuck up a wet dream.
NotThisTime to alex mama in D&S (her x went to the wrong doctor's office when her DD had surgery)... *howl*
[This message edited by FaithFool at 8:51 PM, May 12th (Thursday)]
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:51 AM on Saturday, May 14th, 2011
She knows which side her bread is buttered on and it's not the side with alligators.
NotThisTime to alex mama in D&S, referring to the OW.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
HUFI-PUFI ( member #25460) posted at 4:17 PM on Wednesday, May 18th, 2011
jdt1973 - Eat the bumper off your car before you break NC.
Replying to sadrightnowwhen she writes that the OM passed by her house last night and she wanted to die.
Don’t listen to your head, it’s easily confused. Don’t listen to your heart, its fickle. Listen to your soul, God doesn't steer you wrong.
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 8:25 AM on Tuesday, May 24th, 2011
After seeing more different penis in my lifetime than I care to remember. ( I was a nurse not a prostitute !)
gma56 in General talking to Joeboo about penis size...
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Jessy1501 ( member #24483) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, May 25th, 2011
Dude, your WW is evil! She doesn't need IC...she needs an exorcism!
toby's response to Discontinue's thread in general about his WW breaking NC with OM and saying that she would leave him if he lost his job.
Attempting to give a fuck: ███████████████████] 99% Complete...ERROR!: Unable to give a fuck.
Junebug0525 ( member #29142) posted at 1:02 AM on Thursday, June 9th, 2011
I called her a WHORE. Then she said, no, whores get paid. And I said, well then that makes you a STUPID whore.
By Webmistress when she called OW
Me: BS
Him: WXH DDay-11/22/2009~ D~ 10/25/10
OWhore: Co-worker (7 years younger)
"Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." AND THEY DID!!!
Jessy1501 ( member #24483) posted at 3:06 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2011
AJ's mom in response to NeverHadAChance's thread in NB on her XH and his continued gaslighting:
You know the truth.
Don't try to change the haters.
You're not the "Asshole Whisperer."
Attempting to give a fuck: ███████████████████] 99% Complete...ERROR!: Unable to give a fuck.
Rise_Above ( member #23674) posted at 7:36 PM on Thursday, June 9th, 2011
Let's keep all the Weiner stuff on one thread.
NewAttitude's comment when locking a thread.
You can live the way you believe this is your opportunity to let your life be one that lights the way~F.Battistelli
*****
God's hand was an avocado branch
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 4:23 PM on Friday, June 10th, 2011
i don't have a thesaurus handy for all the bad names I want to call this skeevy, muck encrusted, skank-0-matic mother fucker.
The ever-eloquent willow trash talking alex mama's STBX in D&S...
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 4:41 PM on Friday, June 10th, 2011
Very nice! It's an honor being nominated. I always thought I'd be nominated for my kindness, eloquence and can do spirit, and gentle encouragement, but no, my use of profanity...
Which I actually love. I like my cusses sometimes.
I'd like to thank God, my parents, the academy. FREE TIBET!
D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006
We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower."
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 11:11 PM on Friday, June 10th, 2011
Bahahaaaa! You slay me girl!
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
aesir ( member #17210) posted at 3:41 PM on Monday, June 13th, 2011
I think you can reach the "Point of Diminishing Giveafuck"
GeauxTigers, and it doesn't really matter where, just so true.
Your mileage may vary... in accordance with the prophecy.
Do not back up. Severe tire damage.
Cally60 ( member #23437) posted at 9:42 PM on Monday, June 13th, 2011
You cannot control if he has another A. You cannot control if he goes underground. Nothing you say will change his mind or change his actions. HE has to decide who he is. I think this is a tremendously frustrating thing for BS because we WANT so badly to control it. Too much was out of our control when we found out. The secret life.
Roccodom, in a Reconciliation thread response about a possible new, allegedly-ended, EA.
So very true and 'rememberworthy'.
[This message edited by Cally60 at 3:45 PM, June 13th (Monday)]
hissadwife ( member #14982) posted at 4:27 PM on Tuesday, June 14th, 2011
The OWs are like salesmen!! Hurry now! Rock bottom prices!! Get it before someone else!
Gottagetthrough's spot-on assessment of OW who come fishing, in ReaganT's thread titled "Email from OW -advice needed".
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=412590&AP=1&HL=14982
Does this wedding ring make my dick look big?
honesttoafault ( member #27105) posted at 3:30 AM on Thursday, June 23rd, 2011
You have to stop giving him carte blanche to your head. He's desperately trying to mindfuck you -- and you are letting him
Squiffle in New Beginnings
describing NPD.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, June 24th, 2011
Well, see the problem is not that you don't take criticism. The problem is that your husband is an asshole.
From DamnCuteKitty in response to BritChick's thread on taking criticism from her H. Made me not for how it fit this situation, but how it fits a lot of situations. Sometimes with all that we see, hear or live with on this board, I forget that sometimes a person is just overall... an asshole.
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
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