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Appreciate the post and feel like finally someone on my side......I just never understood how another mw with 6 kids could have an affair with a mm .....it doesn't make sense and you lose your mom card......,surrender it now......u don't do that as a mom ...she brought her kids with her at times....who does that....trust me....my spouse heard it too........no morals...or respect for your own kids.....give up the mom card....and take the SLUT card you earned it.....moms don't leave their babies to meet men for blow jobs.......atleast none that I know

I am white, stbx seems to prefer Hispanic girls whenever he got mad at me and would sleep with someone else. OW is the complete opposite of everything I am, she has a low class job, no morals, 2 baby daddies, still married to the 1st baby daddy, knew he was married and knew me. I think the best show of who she is is the story WH told me that he showed up at her gas station with his divorce papers an hour after he was served and asked if she wanted to date, she said yes and he moved in with her and her kids.....Klassy

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On the money!

You've helped me cut through some serious melancholy today - thank you.

The other day I cracked myself laugh by discribing OW to my FWH and chopped liver compared to the steak he had at home. He smiled and agreed.

As we travel down this road of pain it feels nice to laugh at something.

Wow this was on page 13! It needs a bump.

This has become my mantra for those days I'm feeling down about myself. Just saying the words "they always affair down" helps bring me back.

Agreed. This needs to be a sticky at this point. It does so much good!

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My husband said he didn't feel I respected him and OW admired him. I told him she didn't respect him. You can't respect a man who has a wife and 2-3 kids at home. Because you can't *uck that person and respect yourself. Thank you for this - the A is so degrading, it's had to remember my self-worth. WS said he realized how much make-up she wore and referred to her as "disgusting" - makes me feel better.

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I REALLY needed to read this today!! Thanks DDB!!

Very powerful...and very true in my case!

Bump again. ...I agree and vote for this to be a sticky...new people need to read this. I see people who could use this. Take care everyone. ♡

What’s is attractive about the OW is that they are the sickest, the weakest, the most injured of the pack. The insecure WH, wanting to feel strong and powerful, scans the herd for the easiest to kill. The self assured, the strong, the healthy will not do as those women want nothing to do with a married man. Our wayward husbands, needy and looking for someone to boost his ego, must look for someone beneath them, someone who will look up to him, someone who will make him feel superior, if only temporarily. What better way for an insecure person to feel powerful, and admired, than to pick the least of the bunch? The fact is … they always trade down. If she happens to be prettier, or thinner – it’s just pure luck that the wrapping is worth more than the gift inside. What’s inside, is no match for you. You’re beautiful, and faithful, strong and possibly the mother of his children. The truth is, the OW could be anyone, anyone slow enough to be caught and willing to accept what little our husbands had to offer.

She accepts the very worst parts of our husbands; the liar, the cheater, the deceiver, the broken man. His behavior is lower than low, but that’s okay with her. She’s accepts trashy behavior, because she is trash. She has no self-esteem because she knows her value … her value as the weakest, the most injured of the herd. She accepts his cheating ways and lowlife behavior because she knows her place in the pack – and it’s at the end of the row. Bringing up the rear, it’s just a matter of time before someone singles her out, and uses her for his own selfish reasons in his quest to be admired.

So very true. Three weeks after D-day I met the OW and I realized just how pathetic she truly was - a sick, weak alcoholic with zero self-esteem. She reeked of booze, was shaking and crying and had the maturity of a 12 year old. She was the weakest of the herd without a doubt.

I am a strong, beautiful and incredibly intelligent woman and when I look at WH's AP I know without a doubt he definitely affaired down!!

This subject started me crying. Probably just a trigger. But my H didn't affair down the way I see it. She is 15 years younger and very beautiful. She is very intelligent also. Makes tons of money selling her ideas to universities. Single. And did I mention she has very large tits.

(Opal)--- If she's so great, why can't she find her own man?

Why does she feel it's Ok to interfere in a marriage? She may look good on paper, but she's a selfish, destructive poor excuse for a human.

Blechh, I couldn't imagine for one second making myself available to someone who is married or in a relationship, it's gross. She's gross. her and her big tits :)

I am sorry you are so sad.

I read this daily. It helps to keep things in perspective. In my case she's 11 years older then fwh and really is a poor excuse for a human being.

Thank you. I agree all newbies need to read this.