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This should be the first, the absolute very first thing read by any woman that finds herself here and joining SI. So glad to have read this today.

Thank you SI's DBB

Thank you for re-posting this today. I really, really needed to read this today. Bless you!

Wow! Thanks so much for this post....first happy trades I've had in little bit.

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Thank you for this, but sometimes they don't affair down. How about if WH lied to the both of us. How about if she didn't know he was married or in a relationship? That means she isn't the last in the pack, she didn't lower herself and didn't take him for the lowlife he was. It definitely puts a whole other spin on this...

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Can't say it enough. I'm 5 days short of 4 mos. of my DDay and there are still periods when I feel so inferior. I really needed this today

[This message edited by clueless1 at 6:58 PM, August 15th (Friday)]

Thank you for your post dbb it really helped to read it. I couldn't have read it at a better time. I had just discovered an old text last Wednesday on my WH's cell from his niece in which she said she would like to friend the OW on facebook. She also texted him saying how cute she was & how lucky he was to find her. He had texted his niece back saying the OW was an amazing women. Mind you at the time his niece wrote her text my WH had been sleeping with OW since 9/9/13, moved in with her 3/8/14 & left her 4/8/14. His niece was made aware of the other women around 3/11/14. She texted my WH the above text on 3/17/14. His niece has known me for 26 years. I have never spoken harshly to her except once about five years ago when she was disrespecting her grandmother who raised her. Needless to say I feel greatly betrayed by her & hurt. It hurt all over again to read how amazing my WH said OW was. This 5 foot 0 inches woman not only was a good fifty pounds over weight but has a honken nose on her, large tattoos, nipple rings, and caked on makeup. She pretty much looked like a motorcycle mama & not the kind you see posing next to a motorcycle in a magazine. More like the kind that looks like she was rode hard & put away wet. Which, since the truth started trickling out about WH's affairs, I didn't understand my WH's attraction to me, because this OW pretty much fit the standard profile of all his affair partners, overweight & brunette. I am 5'11", blonde & slender, never been overweight my whole life. As far as looks are concerned I have turned the heads of many men since I was 15yrs old. Even at 58 years old I still do (though not as much thank god) & FYI it still annoys me & still makes me feel self consciousness to be stared at by a man. I have never cared for that kind of attention. So my WH's niece's text to him triggered a feeling of being inadequate again. How could the other woman be cute & amazing and me be chopped liver in their eyes.

Made me feel so much better!!

However,I feel for those BS the ones that have been left by their WS.

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The OW in my life happened to be my sort of best friend for 5 yrs. Her and her H and mine travelled everywhere in m/h's together. She was a fall down drunk, knew her 70's rock'n'roll, and nothing much else. Horseface to boot. He's an intellectual and knows a lot about markets, which bored her to death when we were having cocktails. Guess she swung her fat ass at him one time too many to resist. Broke up two marriage - mine was 35 - her's was 9 yrs. According to her ex, she'd had 3 affairs in that time and my H was her 4th. Yeah, real nice picking there, asshole.

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This made me feel so much better.

My WP went way down. This girl is the scum of the Earth. Her career of choice is stripper or cam girl but she is so ugly (buttaface) her employers never let her strip on weekends or at night and she didn't make any income as a cam girl. She's 30 years old, lives with her parents, doesn't work because she's gotten too many DUIs, has been arrested for prostitution, and is a coke addict and alcoholic. She's the girl he lost his virginity to and the first girl to break his heart when she slept with his best friend. Why did he keep going back to that whore? Because she was easy, that's why.

She got nothing from him. He never took her out, he never bought her gifts, he never slept in bed with her or cuddled, he showed her no emotion and yet she was desperate for him. She was literally just a vagina for him to stick his pecker in.

Me? I have a beautiful face but my body has been damaged from having 3 kids. I get hit on all the time so I must be attractive? I try to be the best person I can be. I have stretch marks and my breasts aren't as full as they used to be. I don't have an athletic stripper body so sometimes I feel like I am inferior to her. But I am not. She is a wreck, the bottom of the barrel, she has every opportunity to make something of her life and all she does is make shitty life choices. I'm raising 4 beautiful children whom I love so much, I have great friends, I am college educated but I have the choice to stay home with my kids, I've never done drugs and I am not an alcoholic, I've never been arrested, and most of all I have the self respect not to sleep with the whole g-damn town. I am ahead of her on so many levels. Go team me!

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I read this post aloud to my WH and he said, "Exactly." He went on to reiterate that she was nobody special and could have been anybody (took him awhile to get out of the fog so it was good to hear him say that). She was "easy". His words. Strong, healthy women don't sleep with married men (especially not the 4th time they've met him and barely knew him!).

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What’s is attractive about the OW is that they are the sickest, the weakest, the most injured of the pack. The insecure WH, wanting to feel strong and powerful, scans the herd for the easiest to kill.

100% true! My WW was weak and would let other men seduce her so they could sex play with her the way their wives wouldnt.

This is a true statement.