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I'm curious ~ Do you have any hard core proof of the affair ?

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:26 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

My gut says that she hopes to have the councelor on her side and to tell you that you are in the wrong. However it is possible that counceling will work in you favour since most councelors are able to dig out crazy thinking if they are able to get the whole store. If she is wanting to have marriage counceling for the 2 of you (or have you both together to get a better picture of you WS's issues) then that would also work.

Keep taking the high road. Her crap will come to light soon enough.

Is she planning on taking the children with? Is this perhaps family counseling? If so, she may be doing this under her attorney's advice to show that she's caring for her children's emotions. Or to tell the counselor that she was treated badly in your marriage and to ask for a statement to that effect. ??

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:27 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

So sorry about your son. Truly. Wishing you the best on that front.

AS far as your wife and the car and her threats? Leave it be...she is swinging in the wind...sounds like something the 2 of them talked about and she is repeating the conversation because they have both justified what they are doing. There is no way she has talked to anyone yet as #1 she would have to have the $$$ to do it, and #2, no attorney is going to right a cease and desist letter to the husband for taking away the "good" car.

Again...A's are all about validation, this guy lives in a trailer park, he is seeing her as his money tree, she is acting like she has got the $$$ to keep up her image and by you taking away her "ride" which makes her look better in her mind you are really messing around with her image and how she sees herself. She has no clue what she is doing right now to the children and the family, none. Sadly tho we have all watched the same thing played over and over.

Keep playing your hand you are dealt...anything with the plans to have her served yet?

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:27 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

Your situation mirrors so much of what my STBXW thoughts and mannerisms. The mood swings and the fantasy worlds they live in while still trying to suck everything they can from you because they are "owed". Stay focused and goal oriented for your and your childrens future (with or without her in it).

you should be able to call the doctor directly and speak with him/her. I think as long as there is no formal custody arrangement in place, (and even if there is)_ both parents have a right to information about a child's medical and educational information.

can't believe what nutjob the stbx is........hang in there.

The constant threat of having her attorney "sue" you for various insults to her dignity is so laughable. Can she really believe there is a potential lawsuit for failure to provide the body style and extra features she'd like in a car? What a piece of work.

What are you going to do about the car? Get it fixed or get a different one?

Also I agree that you should just call your son's doctor and discuss his health directly. I know you've said in the past that this isn't a biological or adopted son, but unless she's specifically requested that the doctor not share his info with you, you should be able to get all of the information you need.

If this is the advice she is getting from her lawyer you've got it made. Sounds like an ambulance chaser. Hurtingfromher, I think your wives are some how related to each oher, your stories are very similar.

You need to sit down with her and discuss where it is she is going to go live with your children. Is she going to live with OM? Remind her that when she and other man become permenent he can buy her a nice new car, the van is temporary.

Since she has no real job, I assume your son is on your insurance? If so, you have every right to call the doctor yourself and get the info directly from them.

Good job ignoring her crazymaking! Keep on doing everything the way you have been.

Is she going the pastoral and MC route to 'look good" for the court? Maybe she's realizing her image needs a bit of polishing.

TCMM,

I've been following your posts and have not responded yet.

It's unbelievable the amount of bullcrap you have gone through. You have handled everything thrown your way with grace, class and I commend you for giving your children stability in a sea of chaos caused by your WW.

I would get to the bottom of the Asperger's "diagnosis". My 8 year old daughter has Asperger's. You have not once mentioned any issues your son has had, so this took my completely by surprise. You know from early on if your child has Asperger's. I knew from very early on. Not so much what we were dealing with, but Asperger's presents itself in many ways. Developmental delays, sensory issues (certain textures of clothing the child cannot deal with...believe me you know quickly which things cause sensory overload), picky eaters, self-stimulation such as flapping arms, blank stares while doing so almost as if they are in their own world...speech delays are prominent as well as socially seeming locked in their own world, lack of eye to eye contact. The list goes on. Some are on the more high-functioning scale, but I find it hard to believe that if he truly had Aspergers that you would have been directed for diagnosis much earlier than his age. If you have any questions, please feel free to PM me.

I wouldn't be surprised if this was something else she's trying to cook up.

It just seems so strange to me. Of course, there may be issues here you have not mentioned. I just know from experience that when you have a child with this type of disability, you know early on.

And OMG, the fact that she is more concerned about driving a vehicle that does not fit her "image" than her son's possible diagnosis is beyond me. But then again, I feel your wife is an unfit mother based on what you've documented here, so that's not so surprising. I could not imagine that my entire world would not just stop after hearing that from a doctor. But then again, I guess I'm different ilk, because my entire life has been consumed with providing my child with everything possible so that she can live to her best potential. I drive 100 miles a day to take her to a special school that has proven to help children like her become all they can be. I'd drive further if I had to.

Sorry for going off, but your story has moved me, but especially after hearing the latest with the doctor.

TCMM, I have never posted on your threads, but I do read them and follow along. I just wanted to tell you that I think you have handled things brilliantly. I think you are an awesome father, and your WW is a nutjob. I chuckle every time I read the latest about the van and her stupid reactions to it. I mean, really, WTF is she thinking? Her life is about to get a whole lot worse in 5 months. Hang in there!

and she need to be taken care of.

How very sad that as a grown woman with three children, she has not yet learned that she needs to take care of herself.

TCMM, you are doing an awesome job in the face of all this hurt.

[This message edited by tulipcitymadman at 8:27 PM, October 20th (Wednesday)]

What a lovely day you have planned with your children! They are lucky to have you.

I hope you get more Sundays like this too.

You are doing good TCMM. I am constantly amazed at how well you are dealing with this.

If she was having doubts she wouldn't be trashing it up with trailer park boy right now, but she is.