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Deena, I've only recently discovered the hiring of street whores (courtesy of the GPS and the VAR).

I seriously doubt that it's new behavior. He joined AFF in April 2006, about the same time he came off the meds. We were separated for almost two years. I can pretty much bet that he wasn't celibate, not in light of the discoveries I've made over the last year.

((((easy)))). I'm so sorry...please call the doc today...my H gave me Trich, it's no fun.

I went looking for this thread...

I got the all clear on the second round of blood work, more than six months out. YEA!!

But then got a scary scary call on SUNDAY am. Pap showed lesions, likely HPV, and "stage 1" something or other. I am confused because I didn't know the pap could indicate "lesions" and I thought they only staged actual cancer?

Of course I am being referred to another office for a colposcopy and excising of "HOW MUCH" of the cervix?

This feels like it is happening very very fast and I don't have near the information I want to have.

And I can't even yell at stupid idiot because I don't talk to him at all. And he would never believe/accept that this is all his doing. He'd figure in his own head and undoubtedly say out loud that it was something I did in college and my own fault.

Glad this thread exists. I hate that my life meant so little to him. Which it did because he physically and emotionally destroyed me equally carelessly.

Oh caregiver! I'm so sorry! Please please let us know how this turns out! A giant SI hug to you! ((((caregiver))))!

((caregiver)) take care of you. Let us know how things turn out.

When I just suspected my husband's A, I went to my regular dr. and told him my suspicions and he ordered bloodwork for STD's--but I have no idea which ones. He did NOT do a PAP or a pelvic exam. Well, it was a year and a half later that I actually proved my H's affair, but he insisted that there was nothing physical. I tried to believe that, so I never went back for more testing. H has since admitted that he kissed OW, but you all know as well as I do that it didn't stop at kissing when it was a 2-year affair. Since it's been almost 7 years since the A, should I still go have testing done? I hate to tell this, but I haven't been to my gynecologist for many years--I had a hysterectomy many years ago and haven't had any problems, so I just haven't gone.

[This message edited by Melanie at 1:13 AM, April 1st (Friday)]

Melanie,

It is possible, but probably not likely, since it's been 7 years, but it if would make you feel better I say go for it.

But regardless of that, you need to go get a check up! How old are you and when did you last have a mammogram? (subtle 2x4, cuz, I need to get one also!)

Oh crap! I just saw your tagline, you are 55 and you have had cancer. What kind of cancer was it? If it was cervical or uterine, it could have been related to HPV, but surely they would have told you that?

Girlfriend, go get a check up!

PPGA, no fear, I have no need for a mammogram--I was diagnosed with breast cancer almost 3 years ago, followed by a bilateral mastectomy and chemotherapy. I see my oncologist every 4 months. I've also had melanoma twice. I've been so busy with the breast cancer treatment that I've pretty much neglected the other body parts.

[This message edited by Melanie at 11:20 AM, April 1st (Friday)]

Oh Melanie, I'm so sorry! Hugs! But yes, go get those other 'body parts' checked?

thanks for the hugs. some days that would be why I come to SI.

I have to wait for a "window" after start of cycle for further testing. I will for sure let ya'll know how it goes. I am getting a lesson on the run and will gladly share what I learn.

It is tough. Coming up on the one year antiversary of the dday email and this has brought the panic and anxiety back. Working a new job to support myself as asshat is non support and now this. NEVER say "what else could possibly go wrong?"

Thanks again. Thanks for starting this thread ppga.

You're welcome caregiver, hang in there!

Bumping for newbies... (((hugs))) to all those being tested this week!

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Is there anyone that can help me make sense of the recent medical problems WH and I have had?

Last year, I fought what I thought was a reaccuring yeast infection and bladder infection. In June, I went to the ER with what I thought was my gallbladder, turned out to be a kidney infection. In September, after much prodding by my SI friends, I went to the doctor to be tested for STDs. Everything came back clean except I had developed BV.

January of this year, WH started having scrotal pain. After several visits to the doctor and urologist, they concluded it was epididymitis. They gave him a shot of Rocephin, an antibiotic, and scheduled him to have an epididymectomy.

I searched the internet and the only cause for his problem and the need for IV antibiotic was a bacterial infection.

Could it be just a coincidence that just all of a sudden I start having these problems and then he has his pop up? Could my bacterial vaginosis and the sudden "over population" normal bacteria for me have caused his problem?

I feel paranoid and just needed some reassurance I guess. I've thought about calling the doctor to get the results of both of our STD tests. WH said that it was routine for them to test him but his came back negative.

I just felt like the doctor really minimized my concerns when I saw her and I have no clue what they tested me for.

Any advice or input on this would be great.

Thanks!

-CM

(((( colezmom))))

I'm so sorry Honey!

Based on what you have written, I think there is no definitive way to 'prove' anything...but for sure I would get copies of his test results, and take them with you to your next GYN appt, and have your doc help you sort thru the results.

So sorry for all the troubles you've had to endure.

May be TMI, but for those of you women who have hemmoroids from having babies, and now have recurring Bacterial Vaginosis, this might help you.

I had it over and over for years after having children. During my pregnancies I would have pre-term labor, and had to take meds to stop it. The meds also stopped my intestines from contracting like they should, and I developed severe hemmoroids.

The hemmoroids, although they had shrunk down, were still there, and hard to keep clean. Every time my H and I made love, I would get BV.

The Dr. said it was because of bacteria getting from the rectum into the vagina....this was very embarrassing for me, because H and I didn't have anal sex (YUCK!) nor did we even make love from behind, since I was so self conscious about the hemmoroids.

I was treated over and over for BV, until I asked the Dr. if having the hemmoroids removed would keep me from getting it. He said, "It might."

I had hemmoroid surgery, and I never had BV again.

The STUPID DR! Why didn't he suggest surgery himself? I know why....he wanted to keep making money off me every time I had to come in and get tested and get a new perscription. They don't cure the disease or find the cause....they just treat the symptoms...over and over again.

Any insight helpful...

I was diagnosed with herpes-2 in 1984 - lesion on my hip, not genetalia. Last outbreak was in 1985.

Last sex partner besides H was in 1988.

1994, diagnosed with HPV from abnormal pap, had leep, nothing more.

January - July 2010, H has affair. H says the last time they had sex was March 2010 (she lived 350 miles away). Don't know if I believe that - he didn't travel but she could have come here.

August 2010, H STD tests negative per him, he's not sure what they tested for, blood test only.

We resume sex after that. Did not have sex with him during the affair.

February 2010, my STD tests come back negative. Went because I had an "itch" and had never been tested b/c I didn't think I needed to b/c his tests were negative.

March, 2010, I was diagnosed visually w/ genital warts on labia by nurse practitioner.

March, 2010, I was diagnosed by culture w/ herpes-2 on perineum. Old area on my him did not flare up.

Did I get new infections of HPV and HSV from H? I mean, I already had them, but had not had a herpes outbreak in 26 years and it was in a totally different spot.

Same with the HPV - nothing since 1994, then outbreak in a totally new area.

Both since H's affair.

Did he do this or did my stress of the past few months do this.

H has had no lesions of any type.

I still can't believe these are the same things that have been dormant.

Thoughts?

I have a really embarassing and personal questions . . . seems like a good place for it though.

I tested negative for HPV, which made zero sense to me as my H had bumps that he was told were almost certainly HPV (he needs to go get them cut and biopsied, according to my OB's nurse). At that time I had no bumps.

I have since developed a small bump that I believe is HPV. I was really confused about that at the time, since I tested negative for HPV, but I called my OB's office and the nurse said they ONLY test for high-risk HPV. The kind that causes warts is low-risk and they only test if asked.

So now I'm unsure. What do I do? Do I need to have this bump burned off? My OB's office acts like low-risk HPV is just a complete non-issue. What do I do with this? Leave it be? Get it removed? Gah.

Question. My WH says he didnt have sex with OW. Said he couldnt preform. I made him get tested for STD anyway, but I never got tested. It has been close to a year and I have no symptoms. Is there still a chance I could have something? This so grosses me out.