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brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 2:49 AM on Monday, July 14th, 2014

Bump

Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

posts: 2093   ·   registered: Dec. 14th, 2010   ·   location: Northwesten US
id 6871115
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mamajen00 ( member #43810) posted at 5:23 AM on Tuesday, July 15th, 2014

My WH still has no remorse. Not sure if he ever will. I am moving forward with D, without his knowledge.

BS- me 37
WH- him 38
1 son - almost 5
Married 8 years
Together 13 years
DDay 4/19/14
9 months of intense EA
2 days of PA

posts: 58   ·   registered: Jun. 20th, 2014
id 6872432
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littleflower ( member #42673) posted at 8:15 PM on Saturday, July 26th, 2014

Bump

DD 13/1/14
Him WH
OW - what a cow
3 kids under 4

posts: 101   ·   registered: Mar. 5th, 2014
id 6886861
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Jpapageorge ( member #31800) posted at 4:06 AM on Sunday, August 3rd, 2014

Bump.

"Either get busy livin' or get busy dyin'." (and I prefer to live)
"Shame on me for kissing you with my eyes closed."
Spectemur agendo.
Me: FBBF

posts: 2016   ·   registered: Apr. 8th, 2011   ·   location: California
id 6895744
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brkn_heartd ( member #30396) posted at 1:18 AM on Tuesday, August 5th, 2014

bump

Me-57 BS
Him 65-WS
Married 38 yrs, together 40
Affair Aug-Dec 09
official D-12/14/09
broke NC 1/31/10
second D 3/19/10

posts: 2093   ·   registered: Dec. 14th, 2010   ·   location: Northwesten US
id 6897704
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jjct ( member #17484) posted at 1:58 PM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014

BUMP!

posts: 7269   ·   registered: Dec. 24th, 2007   ·   location: texas
id 6903664
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Headunderwater ( new member #44484) posted at 11:41 PM on Thursday, August 21st, 2014

Thank you so much for posting this. As hard as it is to accept I realize that my wife has been the absolute embodiment of rugsweeping. As much as she says that she's sorry she constantly has been proving otherwise with her actions.

posts: 13   ·   registered: Aug. 12th, 2014   ·   location: United States
id 6919044
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blindsided81 ( member #44206) posted at 1:31 AM on Friday, August 22nd, 2014

Thanks for bumping. I hadn't seen this and it is important.

My WH spent exactly 7 days in a false reconciliation and if I had known some of this it wouldn't have lasted one day!

So thanks again.

Me, BW 51
WH, 47
OW, ttw (trailer trash whore)
DD, 7/21/14
Separated, divorcing his ass as soon as I possibly can!!

posts: 167   ·   registered: Jul. 23rd, 2014   ·   location: North Carolina
id 6919173
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BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 3:14 AM on Saturday, August 30th, 2014

Bump

Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010

posts: 5437   ·   registered: Feb. 25th, 2014   ·   location: United States
id 6928929
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yearsofpain25 ( member #42012) posted at 9:31 PM on Monday, September 8th, 2014

bump

"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

posts: 4517   ·   registered: Jan. 11th, 2014   ·   location: Northeast US
id 6939057
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UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 6:34 PM on Thursday, September 11th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6942585
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UpInTheAirNow ( member #37777) posted at 8:12 PM on Wednesday, October 29th, 2014

Bump

ME 47
WW 52
DDay 6/13/12
Separated 3/13 and NC for my own sanity.
Married 17 years, together 27 yrs.

posts: 339   ·   registered: Dec. 11th, 2012   ·   location: NY
id 6993232
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mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 12:27 AM on Sunday, November 2nd, 2014

BUMP

Me: BWHim: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011Married 31+ years/Together 32+ years/4 kids togetherOW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kidsTrying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be

posts: 2685   ·   registered: Dec. 7th, 2012
id 6997089
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Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:57 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014

bump

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7004512
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completelylost29 ( new member #45498) posted at 9:42 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014

-Fighting2Survive-

Thank you so much for posting this. I didn't know what rug-sweeping really was until I read this. My WS is truly doing this, now I know. What do you do when WS a doesn't feel they have anything to workout and is just fully ready to move on??? I just peeked at his iPad (he changed his password to his phone after I found out about the A) and I saw that he had been to Ashley Madison website. This is after he told me he doesn't go to dating or chatting sites anymore! This AM site is a new find to me, I've never known he's gone there! My D-Day was a month ago, and I've been thinking of a separation. Since my recent finding this morning, I'm fuming! And thinking definitely going to say I want a seperation, but the thing is we will have to keep living together until we can afford 2 separate households. Why would he be telling me he wants a R and still go to these sites!?!? He's only forthcoming with info if I ask and even then I don't trust he's being honest.

posts: 7   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Bay area
id 7004537
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completelylost29 ( new member #45498) posted at 9:43 PM on Saturday, November 8th, 2014

What is a BUMP.?

posts: 7   ·   registered: Nov. 5th, 2014   ·   location: Bay area
id 7004539
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sisoon ( Guide #31240) posted at 11:14 PM on Friday, November 14th, 2014

Bump moves the thread to the top of the 1st page, so it doesn't get lost. This thread shouldn't get lost.

Bump.

fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
You don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.

posts: 26163   ·   registered: Feb. 18th, 2011   ·   location: Illinois
id 7010752
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Skan ( member #35812) posted at 5:23 PM on Saturday, November 22nd, 2014

bumping for weekend

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


posts: 11513   ·   registered: Jun. 11th, 2012   ·   location: So California
id 7019279
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imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 5:38 PM on Sunday, November 30th, 2014

Bump

Ordinary average everyday sane psycho super goddess

posts: 6902   ·   registered: Mar. 25th, 2009   ·   location: Munchkinland
id 7026522
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cantaccept ( member #37451) posted at 11:58 PM on Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014

bump

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

posts: 3505   ·   registered: Nov. 11th, 2012   ·   location: Connecticut
id 7030045
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