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Been on the bus for 10+ years. I win.

Hey Crew! Just thought I'd climb on board. I won't say how long though, since livinganew just posted...sorry, It's just no comparison.

I am almost at livinganew's record status as it will be 10 yr for me this coming August. Man, time got away from me.

And i thought my 4 years was a long time...

I'm at about 2 years and I'm so ready to be off of this bus! I don't see any suitable opportunities on the horizon though.

I'm at 4 years too.

It's looking like I will hit that 10 year mark as well.

What I find interesting now is that I don't miss having a relationship right now. Maybe that will change over time, but I'm happier now than I've been for a LONG time.

I constantly felt the pain of being in a sex-less marriage while it was in its long death-throes. I always believed that there would be another chance for us (my XWW and I) to try again; that there'd be some point at which the pain would be so bad for both of us that we'd each recommit to try again.

I was wrong about that. Turns out that it was only sex-less for me!

I was wrong about many things. Because of her toxic shame, she was willing to do almost ANYTHING except engage me on a real, intimate, emotional level. It never occurred to me that she'd do what she did instead of trying MC (which I suggested many times and she always vehemently refused.)

The bottom line is that she turned out to be emotionally unavailable. I carried her rejection for some time, but now see that her choices were reflective of her fear and shame.

So where I am now is that I'm creating and building my new self and life--and liking it! I enjoy being by myself. I'm alone, but not lonely.

That's my focus: fostering and building my contentment with being single. I'll have a genuine, authentic life--whether I'm with someone else or not. If eventually I'm to share my future with a woman, it will be with a clear sense of who I am and what I need.

We constantly hear on this site that focusing on ourselves and our recovery is the right thing to do, whether we stay married, divorce, and/or get into another relationship. And that has been great advice for me.

Blessings, LA

Hey all bus riders! I'm still on the bus, been almost 2 years.....but it looks like I might be getting off this weekend!

Whoohoo!

New to the thread, but not new to the bus.

Good luck RB. I am still just eating popcorn, and living vicariously through other's adventures.

Oh, the life of the single mom...

I've been on the Bus since D-Day with no intentions of getting off. Once I got through withdrawal (you know what I mean ), I'm actually preferring Fantasy Land. Where else can I hook up with Orlando Bloom and Sebastian Stan without feeling like a cradle robber?

I'm just making a comfy nest here at the back of the bus. Now it will take a single, Chris O'Donnel look alike to tempt me off the bus.

I want to sit by you Gemini71. I'm not sure I will ever get off the bus either. Seems like more trouble than it's worth at this point. (sorry I just always wanted to use the tongue in a post)

I'm watching people pair up around me and I'm not interested.

Someone pass the cocktails! Where is the bus headed, who's driving???

[This message edited by Kajem at 9:53 AM, June 19th (Friday)]

IgglePiggle wants to join this bus......well she doesn't want to.....but for now it seems like a friendly place to be! Last stop was Stbxh, same stop for 20 years.....

Where are we heading? And I will have a beer if there is any left!

I have Tesco Bucks Fizz and Mojitos... Please don't ask me to drive!

Hey all bus riders! I'm still on the bus, been almost 2 years.....but it looks like I might be getting off this weekend!

Whoohoo!

double entendre there or Freudian slip?

Play safe, Risky!

for me August 2, 2014. Not a contender but seems a while for me!

I've just jumped on again after my six month wait since my big near-miss in December.

Waiting to see if maybe next month, for the first time in seven years, there will finally be some real action in FF World.

I'm so ready, but in the meantime, will someone please pour me a huge glass of ice cold Riesling before I chew my arm off?

Thank you.

[This message edited by FaithFool at 7:13 PM, June 19th (Friday)]

I'm on the bus and plan to stay there until I get to a better place.

Does this thing have an upper deck?

What a nice bunch of people to ride with! July 2012. For those who understand these things, I realize that he stole my 2nd chakra. Did it to his first wife too, from what I can tell. Know it'll happen with OW too (lots of satisfaction from that thought). He is so messed up. He is a compulsive masturbator, and kids recently found an artificial vagina is his dish drainer (he blames me bc our schedule conflicts with OW custody schedule so they are sleeping together less). He is so empty inside his lower chakra areas that he continually tries to fill it up. I was robbed. Working on redeveloping it. Kundalini yoga is brilliant.

I'm not sure exactly when, but sometime in the next month or so, I'll have been riding for three years. Opportunities to get off have presented themselves, but I didn't take any. Maybe someday.

This is just MEAN: One of the scroll ads at the top of SI tonight is for a propophylactic which promises you'll be closer than ever before. I think I'll just get "closer than ever before" with a new chocolate cake recipe I found and I WON'T need no fricken condiment to make the experience better.