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even as a woman who would probably terminate if I accidentally got pg at this point, that's just wrong to say to someone!

In the No Filter department:

I have a rather large family. Last guy I went out with--first date--started discussing how many times I must have had sex to have that many children, because obviously (he mused to himself) I didn't pregnant every single time I had sex. He then went on to make comments about how much I did or didn't enjoy sex!

As to messages, here I am in my mid-40s and got a message on okc from a 27 year old who, within the 2nd or 3rd message to me, asked if I liked to text. I said, "Not particularly." His response: "Number?"

I blocked him. Call me over-sensitive, but after my experiences with XH, a guy who blatantly ignores me when I say I don't want to text, and assumes I'll give him my number sets off red flags. Or maybe it's just a generation thing!

Another favorite: those who send short messages and wait for you to hold up the conversation. One guy maxed out at three words in his most verbose message to me. I gave up.

As to messages, here I am in my mid-40s and got a message on okc from a 27 year old who, within the 2nd or 3rd message to me, asked if I liked to text. I said, "Not particularly." His response: "Number?"

he meant "Number?" as in he was going to call to talk versus text?

Edited: Never mind....I misread what you wrote. Now I got it. Duh

[This message edited by EvenKeel at 12:01 PM, July 22nd (Monday)]

Wow, Capri, I thought mine was bad, lol! How did you respond? I'm not even sure I would have known what to say or do except just to bid a quick adieu.

And Ama, yeah, it was wrong to say no matter how you feel about that issue. I'm glad I at least never had to deal with him again.

I met a guy once through a mutual friend. The guy was not really my type, but he was very nice and asked me out on a date. At first I declined, but he kept calling me. Eventually I decided I would go out with him. He called the day before and asked if we could eat at my house because he was a little low on cash at the moment. I was a little put off by this, but being young I agreed to make Italian food and he would bring the wine. He showed up at my house with a bottle of peach snopes(sp). I hate peach flavored drinks and this was about the cheapest wine that you can buy and does not go with Italian food at all. He proceeded to drink the whole bottle by himself, critisized my Italian food (I am a very good cook by the way) saying it was too spicy for him. He then was drunk and sat on my sofa and passed out. I let him sleep it off for a while, woke him up, and told him he had to leave. He apoligized and when I showed him to the door, he grabbed me and gave me the worse, sloppy kiss I have ever had in my life. Needless to say he continued to call and I never agreed to another date and he eventually got the hint and went away. Luckily I never saw him again. What a prize he must have been to his future dates..

Bumping because I told my "tits" story last night and it reminded me of this thread.

Oh, I'll play. Maybe it's the guy who showed up for our first meeting in wrinkled shorts, a dirty T-shirt with a hole in the belly and his autistic son in tow.....and talked about, he was glad I had a job because if we got M he would be a stay at home Dad. FYI, he would make sure my laundry was always done.

Then there was the one who was "self employed". By that he meant disability and doing odd jobs, under the table, for beer money. When learning I worked in IT, he thought I'd appreciate how he steals his neighbor's internet and cable.

Oh, can't forget about the angry, behind in his child support guy whose XW was a bitch because she was chasing him for the money he owed her. His picture was 5 years old and he was hitting on two young girls when I walked into the cafe we were meeting at.

I'm sure I can think of more.

Here is the most recent wtf message I received:

Oh, his profile pic? He is dressed as a hippie complete with waist length long hair.

Following your dream? slug day? Just a normal happy person? you left out oxymoron! Perfect! BABY were you been all my life!!??

Hello I am xxxx, very interested and very real, talk to me...:) you might not be sorry............

Yeah...pretty sure I'd be sorry.

What the what?

Ok..I'll play too...

So, last month I go on okcupid after not being on for quite a while. I do not have a picture up as I work in education and don't want my students finding me, which I state in my profile.

So, I get an IM from a guy who is out of my age range (59) and we chat for a bit. Seems normal, nice conversation etc., so eventually we agree to meet for lunch on Wednesday.

On Tuesday morning, I get a message from him saying that he has to cancel because he "has an opportunity to make money." I messaged him back around lunch time, saying "not a problem, thanks for letting me know."

Then I get a barrage of truly insane emails impugning my character and all sorts of rants...I didn't respond to any of them, and he continued to send whacko messages for the next week.

Then, about two weeks ago, I got a message from a 36 year old Indian guy. I told him that I was too old for him. He responded by saying that he liked older women because they weren't demanding and repeatedly messaged me, asking if and then when he could come over, all of which I ignored.

WTF?

I had gone so far as to talk on the phone with a man. We were discussing meeting in the next few weeks. He indicated that he had some time at the beginning of the next month if I didn't mind waiting. He was about an hour away so this didn't seem odd.

He was not much for texting, but we emailed and did talk on the phone.

He went silent. Did not respond to a couple of messages and I wrote him off as a "poof" and moved on.

After a solid two months of no contact he emails me with the following statement:

Sorry for the lack of communication but I decided I was no good for you or your boys.

Was I supposed to beg? Ask him why? Try to talk him into reconsidering???

I sent back, "Thanks for the explanation and I will trust your judgment."

Two more weeks and then a "wondering how you are doing" message. Crickets to that.

weirdness is out there!

Any stories I have are a little less recent.

There was a time when my best friend wanted to try dating though the newspaper (yup I am that old there was no internet, but in my defence I was probably about 20).

She was really nervous and a little embarrassed about it so I told her I would support her and set up a date that way too.

Well We went to a bar at the University I had just graduated from. He was some sort of theater major and that was all he would talk about. It was the first time ever that I couldn't carry a conversation because everytime the conversation would stop he would wip his head around towards me and raise his eyebrows. It was unnerving they were big bushy eyebrows that looked like two caterpillers rearing up for battle everytime he raised them. I couldn't stop staring at them, it was like they hypnotised me.

I also realized close to the middle of the date that he had invited all his friends because I looked over at a table not far from us and saw them staring at me and giving him a thumbs up..eww.

He called for a second date, but noooo. To this day I have no recollection what we talked about but his caterpillers still haunt me.

[This message edited by ninebark at 12:11 PM, July 4th (Thursday)]

Amazing what a high percentage of these princes are "self-employed."

I couldn't stop staring at them, it was like they hypnotised me.

Oh, my ribs!

I just got a flashback to the scene from Austin Powers "Mole. Mole. Moley Moley Moley Moley".

Because I love this thread. It's what Monday needs.

It was unnerving they were big bushy eyebrows that looked like two caterpillers rearing up for battle everytime he raised them.

Recent guy's email informed me that he "ran out of woman in NY" so now he was looking in PA.

Wow - really?

Then he asked how I felt about "sex and passion"?

Hmmmm - sorry Bubba....thinking you might have too much passion for me if you used up the entire state of NY already!

Hmmmm - sorry Bubba....thinking you might have too much passion for me if you used up the entire state of NY already!

I was talking to a guy for a couple of weeks before I agreed to meet him (we just hadn't had a chance to connect, and I'm thinking that was divine intervention there). One night he called me after he finished using his penis pump. I'm not even kidding. He was talking to me about it with such "passion" that I may have suggested he start dating his pump and not to contact me anymore.

I'm about to turn 43. I received a message from a 23 year old with the opening line, "My ex is a single Mom."

Um...wha? I wonder if that works on other 20-somethings? This 40-something is

I love this thread.

I did some OLD back in 2004 - 2005 - 2006. I would get on for a few months, meet some interesting guys, date for awhile, take a break ... rinse & repeat.

ANYWAY, one of my favorite date stories is the guy that had 'tell you later' for his occupation. He was very clever and funny in his emails, so I agreed to meet for coffee.

Turned out he had a mobile dog grooming business ! And the van (outfitted with sink, hoses etc) was his only vehicle !!

Of course we met at a coffee shop, driving ourselves, but I so love the mental image of him pulling up in front of a date's house, in his van.

He seemed like basically a nice guy, kind of talky and came across as neurotic. I can't remember how long he'd been doing the mobile dog grooming business, but I'm thinking it wasn't that successful since he didn't have other transportation. Although I definitely got the vibe he was looking to find somebody to augment his income