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Every person has their own turn ons.

The only time a penis shot has turned me on is when it belonged to the man I loved and it was for my eyes only.

Would a picture of an erect 12 in hung man turn me on? No but I would probably say "Holy Shit look at this one !!" It definitely wouldn't sway me to sleep with him but I'm not looking for a reason to cheat.

A great lover does NOT= size.

Any woman that has been blessed with a wonderful partner will tell you,intimacy starts long before the bedroom and only gets better when you get there.

I have known women that are out to fuck any man that gives them some attention. Yes they are broken and suspect you WW has many broken values and morals if a picture helped make her decide to step away from her marriage vows.

Believe me it wasn't what you do or don't have in the size department. When a man loves a woman, there is never a better lover when he shows her how he feels.

I know we all have doubted our own sexuality after betrayl and a WS may say it was because you weren't good enough in bed, thin enough, successful enough, or whatever their excuse for their action is but it is their brokenness not ours that caused their betrayl.

hugs

gma

[This message edited by gma56 at 11:29 AM, August 8th (Wednesday)]

Has anyone seen my tape measure ... ??

Has anyone seen my tape measure ... ??

I found mine packing, ya want me to send it

TR ???

You know what's irritating? A guy with a big one who always needs to hear feedback about how big it is.

Not that I'd know that or anything.

Girly girl here

To ME size is not as important as attentiveness. I also prefer a NOT too long penis b/c it will hit my uterus and that fing hurts!

Plus sending a pic of himself...yuk! UNLESS he is MY man and the one I am intimate with and have been for a long time!

I found mine packing, ya want me to send it?

*You're* not the one who is supposed to be packing, KWIM?

For me it's not the size that matters....it's that he wants me!!!!! That is the turn on....

This, totally.

Of the guys I have been with, all but one have been around the same size. Yet they all varied wildly as lovers. I'd say two of them were really good, and it was because they weren't selfish in bed. They took time to say I was attractive, to find out what I liked and tried it. Really, knowing the guy you're with is turned on by YOU, is the most powerful aphrodisiac.

And as for the one whose size was different... Well, he might have only seemed painfully huge because I was a virgin. For all I know, he was the same size as the others. It really wasn't enjoyable, he couldn't get it all the way in, and by the end it was just awkward and painful.

Besides, according to my H, my shape is weird compared to his favorite past lover!

You know what's irritating? A guy with a big one who always needs to hear feedback about how big it is.

Not that I'd know that or anything.

Ha! Yes!!!

And of course it's the one who was completely faithful to me who never once needed to hear it...

So I start reading this and realize that there are 69 responses...

I suppose there are women out there for whom size make a difference, but for me, it's the person attached to the "member' that's most important.

tmi

So when I ...ahem...take matters into my own hands I do it with my finger. So imo, if he is equal or greater than the size of a lady finger, well then, it's all good!

I will join the small group on this thread who do enjoy a "sizeable" experience, (if we are being honest....), I'd be lying if I said other wise, I don't find it painful at all, but I can certainly see why that would be no fun if you did find it painful in a bad way.

But I didn't marry him, so obviously I didn't marry for a "member." I married a whole person. And that whole person has lots of talents.

So the size was great, but there were others who crossed my path that stand out in my mind because they had various other skills ... which means I might not have noticed if their member had gotten up and danced a jig on its own.

I can not "get there" with my H's penis alone. There had to be clitoral action as well.

But I can with a non-vibrating, and SMALLER toy.

What was missing with my H was trust, feeling protected by him, and true intimacy.

To me, size is/was not the issue.

I'm of the technology generation (I'm 23) and even I am grossed out by that kind of thing.

I will say that I think penis size to men is equivalent to stomach/body size for women. From what I hear, guys like boobs and butt and curves. Women seem to compete to be thin. That's because women are comparing to other women. I think for men it's the same but for muscles and penis size.

In fact I read an article about a teen who was super well hung and the guys were so amazed that they'd whip out this guy's penis to show it off. Yep, show off someone else's penis. He felt accepted by them but when it came to the ladies, he was too big and it hurt them and it wasn't fun and games anymore.