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Hi everyone,

I can't remember if I've ever started a thread in General, but this seems like the best place to post this. I'm giving up my role as a Guide here on SI.

Everything is fine, there are no big issues or changes that me and gerrygirl are dealing with. We could say that we are reconciled, but i think we see it as something that needs to be maintained rather than a destination.. It's just time to make a change.

I am forever grateful for the confidence that Deeply Scared and Mangled Heart put in me in asking me to be a Guide. I felt very honored and humbled to have been given the opportunity to give back to SI after receiving so much help from everyone on the site.

I can't express how much fun it has been getting to know and work with meta, AN, jo2love, wifehad5, razzie, moo and NIK. They are an incredible group and give a lot of their own time in support of the site. Have to tip my hat to the other staff who've served during my time here (thinking of Fallen and UR)...which I think is three and a half years now...and I have to thank gerrygirl most of all for her patience in waiting for me while I finished up that one last post to a newbie WS...

But the site wouldn't be what it is if it weren't for each and every member here from the newbies to the veterans to the infrequent posters...it is a culmination of so many varied experiences that make SI such a wonderful experience.

So, that being said, I feel like I'm in a place where I need to let go a bit. Doesn't mean I'm leaving...just can't see that happening yet...but letting go to focus more on other things in my personal life.

I am tempted to reminisce about things or try to come up with some parting wisdom. I think though that plain heartfelt gratitude would be best to express to all of you. Thank you all for being there for me and for gerrygirl too. We both feel very lucky to have found SI.

Thank you for everything you've done here. The guidance and support are appreciated by many

Baxter, I know your wisdom has helped many on this site. I've always enjoyed reading your posts. I'm glad you aren't leaving because you would surely be missed.

Wishing you and Gerrygirl the best always.

Making me cry, dammit!

You know what's amazing about this place? I'm thinking of sitting in DS and MH's living room at the g2g, talking to you and thinking how different we all are in so many ways. Yet, so connected in our need to get support and give support here, and the strong connection we all share.

We all shared some stories that weekend, and we laughed a lot.

Cheers!

And thanks again for helping me and LD in our journey, and for being such a great Guide.

You've been a big help to me during my time here. Thanks for everything.

Thank you for all you've done, Baxter. You've been a great asset to SI. And I'm glad you'll still be here.

Crap. Who's going to be kind to the newbies now? Cuz you know that's not my style.

Great job on everything you have done here. I would call you one of the Great Waywards but we're supposed to be into humility and all that.

Peace.

You have truly made reading in the Wayward Forum much easier for me, and helped so many people, both WS and BS, understand each other a little better, I think. You have a real affinity for making people feel comfortable posting, and doing it while still challenging them. I think you are also quite a great contributor to the BS questions for WS thread, and for that I send you many thanks. You have been a great guide. Thanks for all the time you've put into SI!

I have no idea what you're talking about Mrs. Panda...

I have always learned a great deal reading your posts. Thanks for all you do on SI.

It truly will not be the same in the Guide ditch without you, but I'm relieved that it's not a real good-bye. See you round the boards, BBFF.

You will be so very missed in the dungeons

THANK YOU. Seriously. You've been wonderful for all of our members, and the staff and the website overall. It's easier to say good-bye knowing you will still be around to post. Don't go too far!

I know change is good, this still sucks. It's like my big brother is going off to college or something. I know it's not good-bye good-bye, but the Ditch is not ever going to look or feel the same.

Thank you for being my friend. Thank you for being completely different than me and both respecting my viewpoint and teaching me new ones.

Thank you for all you did/do for the Waywards that come here looking for hope and guidance. Please please please don't be a stranger - there's nobody who can fill your shoes.

Now I'm crying. Mergh. (Sits in corner with AN, waiting for waaaahmbulance.)

I am going to be in full overbearingly pushy mode to get you and gerrygirl out to CA sometime. Mini Me's welcome. This is the tradeoff. Ok?

You have been an amazing Guide and friend. Thank you for all you have done. I'm glad you will still be posting here on SI.

I need a chocolate lava cake.

this is a good thing, congratulations

(awesome quote about life moving forward goes here)

Change is never easy, but sometimes it's necessary. Thank you for taking the role of a guide...I'm sure there are times you felt like your head was going to explode, but you're very appreciated

You have given me some great advice so I'm happy it's not a forever goodbye. You're doing what you need to do.

Awwww...Your calm demeanor and sensible attitude are such a comfort; I'm glad you're not leaving permanently. Enjoy the peace and stability that you and gerrygirl have created and keep finding new beaches to explore

Your wisdom and guidance will be sorely missed. Thanks for being there for all of us

Thanks for all you've done Baxter. People like you make SI such a wonderful place. Best of luck to you, Gerrygirl, and your namesake.