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wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 4:09 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
Emotionalhell ( member #39902) posted at 4:51 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs to you. I know this can make you feel so alone in the world.
I lost my grandma in May .My grandparents practically raised me.My kids are the only blood family I have left . It's hard & scary at times .
Allow yourself to grieve. And remember no one can ever take away the memories you & your father made together .
Me BS x2. 50ish Divorced WH #1. IHS with wayward #2 Dday #1 Oct. 2014Dday # 2 August 2018. Dday #3 December 17th.
incredulous ( member #16737) posted at 5:13 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
I am so so sorry for your loss. (((Lady V))
me: BW, now 55;
DD now 19 (adopted by me as single mom, so XWH was "Dad")
married: June, 2005, together since July, 2002
d-day: 10/21/07;
Divorced July, 2008 and he never looked back...
click4it ( member #209) posted at 5:20 AM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
Lady V..I'm SO very sorry for your loss. Sending you lots of strength and hugs during this difficult time. Lean on us as much as you need to.
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
AgainandAgain ( member #34835) posted at 4:32 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
I'm so very sorry to hear this. My father died when I was in high school and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do.
I know it's even harder since he was your last parent.
Grieve all you want and as long as you want. Do not let anyone tell you how long it takes. It took me many years. It doesn't get better but you just learn it gets easier to handle you loss. Also, talk about it. You may not want to but talk. I didn't want to and finally I was forced. I hated every second of it but then I realized I was less emotional and I felt better.
Remember that he is always near. Even if you can't see him, you will know he's there. I am witness to that 
Hugs and prayers to you!
MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 5:01 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
(((LadyV))) I'm so sorry.
44
Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
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Don't settle for no fuck shit....
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 9:31 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
I'm so sorry.
(((ladyv)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 11:26 PM on Tuesday, July 30th, 2013
exhausted lady ( member #30217) posted at 5:12 AM on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013
(((LadyV)))
I so understand how you feel. My father passed away on July 9th. We had his Celebration of Life at my house on our family farm on Saturday the 27th.
I still have my mom, but she has dementia and will be coming to live with me when I get her out of rehab on Friday. She's my mom....but not really my mom anymore, if you know what I mean.
I don't know if you have any siblings, (I'm an only child), but don't be afraid to ask for a shoulder to lean on right now.
The grief of losing a parent is huge. Just.....huge. My cousins and friends have really come through for me during this time. All I had to do was swallow my pride and ask for help. They were just waiting for a clue from me on how exactly they COULD help.
My heart goes out to you. Even though we know this is something that was coming, there is truly no way to prepare yourself for the unexpected meltdowns you find yourself having.
I broke down in tears in the grocery store today. I was shopping along, picked up a package of honey-stung wings (my dad's favorite), and then it hit me all over again that he isn't here to eat them. I had to leave the store.
I wish I was there to give you a big, huge, real-life hug. This stuff is so much harder than I thought it would be. I'm a strong woman, and this has brought me to my knees more times than I care to think about.
Blessings to you LadyV. I'll keep you in my prayers.
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
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