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I doubt Abbondad's ex is in any shape for logical dealing. I have learned that some people are incapable of acting in their own self interest, and will act out no matter how much it hurts them in the long run.

[This message edited by wonderpets at 1:30 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]

Any way you can say you will forgive what she owes you if she signs?

This would be acceding to her extortion: "Give me what I want and I will sign.:

Plus she owes me around 14k and counting. Around 14k more than what I would receive in proceeds from the house sale.

Stay strong through this crazy and take care of you and your kiddos. (((AD)))

Plus she owes me around 14k and counting. Around 14k more than what I would receive in proceeds from the house sale.

Stand firm, AD.

That $14k could be going into your kids' mouths and putting clothes on their backs. It could be going toward college funds, etc.

Hell...it could be going to a serious kickass vacation for you and your kids.

My point is, it is your money and she owes you.

Good job. don't relent.

Continued strength my friend

We have another very good offer on the house. STBX is refusing to sign unless I agree to her terms in the MSA: that the CS is based upon an earning potential of 50k, which could result in either her paying zero CS or even me paying her CS. (I make 60k.) This from a woman who has earned reliably over 100k for the last five years.

Her attorney says she has applied to thirty jobs and has cc'd every application to her attorney. She will not take a high-paying job because it would take her away from her children.

I am feeling less and less hopeful about everything. She is now out to simply destroy me, as she perceives I have destroyed her financially.

Her attorney has asked for a continuance of trial. I have refused, as well as refused her CS figure at 50k.

Is this not blatant blackmail on her part?! What does your L say about this?! It definitely needs to be addressed when you get in front of a judge and I would ask for recoup on moneys her actions have caused you to lose!

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I would think the legal system might disallow her crazy approach. Stay tough, AD!

Wasn't the sale of the house ordered by the courts? Can your lawyer get an emergency hearing to address her blocking the sale without her terms on other things being forced? That is blackmail, and she can't get away with that. Your lawyer should be able to make something happen...NOW.

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Stay strong friend her level of crazy is going to ratchet way the hell up now that the end is nigh.

Very tense situation:

If STBX does not sign our contract for house sale today, the buyers will rescind their offer.

She is refusing to unless I agree to her demands in the MSA. (Nearly zero in CS, claiming that she is unable to find another high-paying job.) I will not be bullied or blackmailed. Thus she will sabotage the sale.

The lawyers are going back-and-forth. My attorney is standing firm, telling hers that there will not be another continuance--we are prepared to go to trial, and that STBX is misleading her attorney with regard to her parenting skills vs. mine, and that our witnesses will confirm this.

AD, this will look really bad for her in front of a judge, two (?) sales jettisoned due to her selfishness and need to hurt you.

Stay the course.

Now STBX is returning to her claim that she is "uniquely qualified to deal with our children's Tourette's Syndrome." Uh, she is an occupational therapist. I HAVE freakin TS, for god's sake! She needed me to educate her on the disorder (and even teach her how to spell it).

Plus I have documents written by STBX thanking me for my ability to understand and deal with our children's special needs.

Now STBX is returning to her claim that she is "uniquely qualified to deal with our children's Tourette's Syndrome." Uh, she is an occupational therapist. I HAVE freakin TS, for god's sake! She needed me to educate her on the disorder (and even teach her how to spell it).

Stop talking to her, and stop listening to anything she says.

Instruct your lawyer that if papers are not signed by her, today, to take the Nuclear Option, whatever that is.

Stop talking to her, and stop listening to anything she says.

Instruct your lawyer that if papers are not signed by her, today, to take the Nuclear Option, whatever that is.

This.

Stay the course AD!

Do not let her bully you into submission. Just add these antics to her laundry list of Stupid Decisions That Will Cost Her.

A judge will not look favorably at her blatant disregard for an end to this.

Stop talking to her, and stop listening to anything she says.

I have not been talking to her at all. My attorney just reported to me what she told her attorney.

The only nuclear option is the trial. They are asking for continuance. We are refusing. They want a vocational expert to testify. My attorney is refusing to agree. (I didn't know we could refuse this.)

I have a feeling the new attorney is going to be in for a rude awakening as far as who is client REALLY is (if he hasn't already figured it out).

Hang in there, AD!

Ask your attorney if STBXW isn't attempting coercion by demanding your signature on the MSA before she will sign the selling agreement.

Ask your attorney about the advisability of requesting an emergency hearing on the sale. You could ask for an order allowing for the sale of the joint property without her participation. It might be advisable for a couple of reasons. First, the obvious one, you might get the property sold. The second reason is you would be able to disclose to the judge what she is doing---extortion.