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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:37 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 8:59 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
Prayers being sent...
I went thru nine years of infertility before conceiving and carrying my precious, wonderful son.
I never suffered a loss... but the endless trying and injections and drs and everything felt almost impossible at times.
Finally, God gave me my wonderful son when I least expected it.
Holding you and your dear sister in prayer.
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 9:03 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
Please see that your sister gets tested for autoimmune diseases. Most miscarriages are the result of chromosomal abnormalities but so many in a row is usually indicative of other things.
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
Aubrie (original poster member #33886) posted at 9:58 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
She's still holding on to hope. Can't say I blame her. I would too. To her, it's not final till it's final.
When she's ready, we'll talk about the possibility of autoimmune and testing.
Thank you again everyone. 
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 11:32 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
Holding on to hope for her, too. So many people don't discuss, acknowledge, or get to grieve such losses. So sad.
Like you, I got pregnant so easily, (even on BC) and had a problem-free time, for the most part. I almost feel guilty talking to people who haven't had that experience.
((((Hugs))))
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
Aubrie (original poster member #33886) posted at 11:44 PM on Friday, January 3rd, 2014
I guess I should have been clearer. She's holding onto hope that this baby isn't lost yet.
She went to the ER last night cause she was having crazy bad abdominal pains. They did blood tests and ultrasounds. Her HCG was 0 but there was alot of "something" in her uterus. The doctor wasn't sure what it was. He said she was either fixing to have a period from hell or miscarry. Given her history, he was leaning towards miscarriage. That's what he put on the official paperwork. "Missed miscarriage".
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Mama_of_3_Kids ( member #26651) posted at 1:14 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
purplejacket4 ( member #34262) posted at 1:40 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
Did she think she might be pregnant or already know? The reason I ask is that it can take weeks for the BHCG to go back to normal (Zero) so that would generally indicate either she was never pregnant this time or had a missed miscarriage several weeks ago.
Me: BS 50
Her: FWS 53 (both family med MDs; together 23 years)
OW: who cares (PhD)
Dday: 10/11: 11/11 TT for months; NC 8/12
Limboconsiliationish
"band aids don't fix bullet holes" Taylor Swift
I NEVER mind medical ???
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 1:47 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
(((Aubrie)))
I have no experience with this, yet I am crying. It is your pain reading through the words for your sister. The ability to hurt FOR others is a beautiful thing.
Whispered prayers for all tonight.
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Aubrie (original poster member #33886) posted at 2:05 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
Did she think she might be pregnant or already know?
While she didn't get a positive test, literally every symptom was there. Missed period, extremely sore breasts, breast enlargement, frequent urination, cravings, mood swings, hot flashes, the list goes on. We've suspected it for about two months. For some reason, OTC pregnancy tests don't work on her. The only times she's gotten a "Yep, you'r pregnant" is when she went in for bloodwork. 
Sadly, with the ones she's lost, the levels were crazy low, or non-existent.
We had her scheduled for a doctors appointment but with the holidays, we couldn't get anything till next week. Now, it seems she'll be going in for different reasons.
It is your pain reading through the words for your sister. The ability to hurt FOR others is a beautiful thing.
I've experienced what she's going thru once myself. It was agony. The thought of her going thru it four times shreds my soul. Nobody should have to deal with that once, let alone four times. 
[This message edited by Aubrie at 8:05 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 3:15 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
I'm soo sooo sorry! Prayers sent
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 3:35 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
(((Aubrie))) Prayers for your sister, her babe, and all who love them.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 3:44 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
I'm so sorry.
Sending this out to your sister:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S2uC_ODp-Dc
Fly
Fly, fly little wing
Fly beyond imagining
The softest cloud, the whitest dove
Upon the wind of heaven's love
Past the planets and the stars
Leave this lonely world of ours
Escape the sorrow and the pain
And fly again
Fly, fly precious one
Your endless journey has begun
Take your gentle happiness
Far too beautiful for this
Cross over to the other shore
There is peace forevermore
But hold this mem'ry bittersweet
Until we meet
Fly, fly do not fear
Don't waste a breath, don't shed a tear
Your heart is pure, your soul is free
Be on your way, don't wait for me
Above the universe you'll climb
On beyond the hands of time
The moon will rise, the sun will set
But I won't forget
Fly, fly little wing
Fly where only angels sing
Fly away, the time is right
Go now, find the light
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
JustDone ( member #9742) posted at 3:44 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
double post
(((hugs)))
[This message edited by JustDone at 9:44 PM, January 3rd (Friday)]
Madhatter
Forgiveness is giving up the possibility of a better past.
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 4:11 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
I'm sending positive thoughts for your sister, Aubrie! The moment you feel you're possibly pregnant, in your mind you're pushing that baby carriage down the street. It hurts like hell to have that taken away. I'm really sorry; I hope better times lie ahead for her. I'm glad she's got a big sis she can lean on. (((Aubrie's sis & Aubrie)))
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:18 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
Oh no - I am so sorry. :(
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 6:21 AM on Saturday, January 4th, 2014
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
sudra ( member #30143) posted at 1:09 AM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
So sorry. How heartbreaking for you all.
Me (BW) (5\64), Him(SAWH) (68)Married 31 years, 1 son (28), 1 stepdaughter (36) DDay #1 January 2004DDay #2 7-27-2010 7 month EA/PA (became "engaged" to OW before he told me he wanted a divorce)Working on R
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 3:07 PM on Sunday, January 5th, 2014
Keeping your sis, baby and you in my prayers.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
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