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jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 1:45 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
FWSO's friend passed away recently.
Tonight he went to friends house where his wife and family had people over... Besides wake... What would a meeting like this be called?
His wife called it something when she invited FWSO over... but I can't for the life of me remember.
FWSO thought he was going to a viewing, but it was in the couples home... so I don't think that's what it was.
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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 2:23 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
A 'visitation' would be the only other word I can come up with. That's what we call it here in my neck of the southern woods, lol.
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bbee ( member #17840) posted at 2:27 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Well, I'm from the South, and we call these things "visitation," but they are generally not at people's homes.
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jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 2:32 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
It was just family and friends... the deceased was not in the house.
Up north when you say a "viewing" it's head at the funeral home and the body is there.
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looking forward ( member #25238) posted at 3:18 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Celebration of Life
It's a get together of friends and relatives of the deceased to share memories, etc.
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kernel ( member #27035) posted at 3:34 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
A vigil? Although that's usually with the body, like a wake.
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Lionne ( member #25560) posted at 8:35 AM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Are they Jewish? Was it after the funeral? If so, they are sitting shiveh. It's done from 3 days to ore depending on the family.
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Kodi ( member #16237) posted at 3:20 PM on Friday, January 10th, 2014
Did she call it a repast?
jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
They're not Jewish.... The funeral was today.
Shiva's a sat for 7 days, not 3 days...
I'm Jewish, when my Grandma died we sat Shiva for 7 days.
I think she may have called it an Open House...
I don't know... I guess it doesn't matter now.
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hurtbs ( member #10866) posted at 1:54 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Vigil, viewing, visitation, memorial... are his friends Jewish? Are they sitting shiva?
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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:01 AM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Open house was my first thought.
We had open houses for everything in Michigan. Seriously, everything.
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sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 11:05 PM on Saturday, January 11th, 2014
Around here, shiva runs anywhere from 1 to 7 days. I guess with modern efficiency, we can get through the mourning more quickly.
I wonder how well that works....
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Catwoman ( member #1330) posted at 12:45 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014
It is customary for family and close friends to have a gathering of this nature (usually after the funeral, but it can be at any time). As far as I know, it does not have a formal name or designation, probably because it is optional and it is generally an invitation only event.
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lynnm1947 ( member #15300) posted at 12:46 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014
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jrc1963 (original poster member #26531) posted at 12:51 AM on Sunday, January 12th, 2014
Thanks....
Sisoon.... I was describing a Shiva per the religious instruction I received. I didn't know others had shortened them to suit their own convenience. 
I am pretty sure she called it an "open house" in the text message she sent... but like I said... in the long run I guess it's nit picking.
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