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tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 12:34 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
First of all:
(((Jana))) and (((TCD))) and (((all the other mamas who have endured this loss)))
Second, if it helps: My DD (now age 5) was conceived at the end of January 2008. I know that for a certainty because we were planning on starting to try for a baby in March, but we ended up throwing caution to the wind just the one time because we were going to start trying anyway. So, based on the typical calculations, DD should have been born at the end of October, I assumed.
Well, they went by my last period, and they said October 14th. Well, a little earlier than I thought, but okay. DD actually came October 5th, which was almost a month earlier than I thought! She was 7 lbs., 10 oz. and just fine, so she was not a preemie by any stretch of the imagination.
My point is, there's clearly flexibility in the timeline, as my DD is evidence of that. It's also excellent that you still "feel" pregnant and that your bloodwork is good. I've known women for whom those were their first signs of miscarriage.
I'm sending you as much positive mojo that I can, and I dearly hope all is well with your baby. Take care.
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
JanaGreen (original poster member #29341) posted at 2:41 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
My pregnancy symptoms are pretty much gone this morning. Just dying slowly waiting on a call back with bloodwork results. I told my boss what was up. Fortunately she is very very kind.
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:43 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
JanaGreen (original poster member #29341) posted at 2:55 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm sorry to keep posting on my own thread. I just want to scream and scream and scream and instead I'm sitting here with a neutral expression on my face acting like nothing is wrong.
landabear ( member #15046) posted at 3:02 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm so sorry Jana and TCD. I've had two miscarriages myself, they just absolutely suck.
I'm sorry to keep posting on my own thread. I just want to scream and scream and scream and instead I'm sitting here with a neutral expression on my face acting like nothing is wrong.
There is no reason to be sorry. You do what you gotta do to get through the day.
BS
Divorced: March 2006
Married to a wonderful, FAITHFUL man: October 2009
Aubrie ( member #33886) posted at 3:23 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
Oh Jana. 
((((Jana & TCD)))))
My sister just went thru a waiting game with bloodwork and such. It was torture.
Post all you need. If it's what helps you right now, do it.
We're here for you.
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne
Exit Wounds ( member #32811) posted at 3:36 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
(((((JanaGreen))))) I am so sorry!
Exit WoundsH of 17 years got gf pregnant, left our kids 9 & 11 and we never saw him again. -His choice.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 5:19 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 5:22 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
Sweetie don't apologize, that is a very difficult thing to go through, and the pisser is many people act like it's no big deal.
For me it would have been. For most women it is, and we are expected just pretend all is well.
Go have a good scream in your car if you feel like it.
(((and strength)))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 5:27 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 5:30 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm really sorry to hear this, Jana. :-(
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 5:43 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
I'm so sorry, Jana. I'm thinking of you.
And TCD- tremendous sorrow for your loss.
(((((Jana)))))
(((((TCD)))))
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
lost_in_toronto ( member #25395) posted at 5:52 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
((((Jana))))
Scream all you need to here, honey. So sorry.
Me: BS/48
Him: WS/46
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 23 years.
Reconciled.
peacelovetea ( member #26071) posted at 5:53 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
BW, SAHM
D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 6:10 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
(((Jana)))
Honey you can keep posting here. We're here for you. Right now.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 7:48 PM on Thursday, January 23rd, 2014
heartbroken_kk ( member #22722) posted at 12:08 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014
((Jana))
Hugs for you. Sending strength.
FBW then 46, XWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life. D-Day 1 '99, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... '09-'11, D '15. I fell apart. I put myself back together. Forgiveness isn't required. I'm happy and healthy now, and MY new life is good.
TattoodChinaDoll ( member #34602) posted at 12:43 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014
Just wanted to let you know in still thinking of you and praying.
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
JanaGreen (original poster member #29341) posted at 2:46 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014
:) thanks TCD - how are you doing? I'm feeling calmer tonight. Waiting sucks but I have zero choice but to wait right now.
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JanaGreen (original poster member #29341) posted at 2:49 AM on Friday, January 24th, 2014
Never mind. I'm crazy.
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