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Allornothing ( member #42354) posted at 9:50 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
And don't forget the chapter on "You're making it sound worse than it is!"
Me- BS 44
Him- FWH 44
Married 20 years, Together 27
Kids- 24,23,16,15
D Day- 7 Sept 2013
OW- Irrelevant
tearingaway ( member #28618) posted at 10:07 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
There's the "He's just a friend/co-worker" chapter that must be included, too.
One mustn't forget the "I don't know/I can't remember" section to help BSs decipher what that really means.
SurelyNOT ( member #40617) posted at 11:53 PM on Wednesday, February 12th, 2014
Every one of these comments resonates with me too. He's been telling people we were never married, we didn't live together, we were separated for years. I was told I had checked out on him years ago ???? Yeah, that's exactly why I was planning a family vacation with his input at the time of the discovery.
I love how they re-write history to suit themselves 
outtanowhere ( member #39001) posted at 12:00 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
How about the "it was just sex" line?
Me-clueless BS Dday - 2/19/13 "This isn’t flying. It’s falling with style".Buzz Lightyear - Toy Story
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 12:05 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
If we could include a few paragraphs on "my needs weren't being met" in the Justifications They Blow Out Their Arseholes chapter, I would be happy to write them since I have excellent first-hand experience of that particular cheaters' phenomenon. 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Stillheart ( new member #27322) posted at 12:31 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
How about "I felt like you didn't seem to care." " I felt a disconnection between us" I felt like I lost my sexuality." I never stopped loving you." I, I, I ,I ,I.
Me:63 BH
Her:54 WW
Married: 27yrs
8 month affair
D-Day 11-10-08
Two Daughter: 18 & 22
In R and doing well
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 1:19 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
I'll help with the chapter entitled "The Duality of *I Never Thought You Would Find Out* and *I Knew It Would Devastate You If You Found Out*"
Followed by "Shifty Semantics: How To Conveniently Ignore Intent In Favor Of A Word-By-Word Analysis" Emphasis on Anal.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 1:26 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"You guys have a lot in common, you'd actually really get along if not for this mess..."
or
"Well, he was my friend just as long as he was your friend."
stilluvhim ( member #21477) posted at 1:37 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"I didn't think it was wrong, or that it would hurt you if you didn't know about it"
BS-me 47 yrs, WS-him 47 yrs
married 27 yrs.
3 gorgeous girls-24,20, 16 yrs.
PA with 30 yr. old
DD #1 Aug. 26, 2007, DD #2 Sept. 14, 2007, DD #3 Dec. 27, 2007, DD #4 Jan. 28, 2008
gonnabe2016 ( member #34823) posted at 1:49 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"I've told you everything. You know everything now, I swear."
"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
SoVerySadNow ( member #36711) posted at 1:50 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"You're overreacting"
"I think you two could be friends- you'd like her"
And the classic: "We're just friends"
Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 1:53 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"I've told you everything. You know everything now, I swear."
This will be tricky. What we have to do is insert a blank page with just this quote every 3 chapters of so. And then on the next page it says "Oh, well, there's some stuff I forgot about. Why are you making this a big deal?"
Followed by 3 more chapters of info.
Lyonesse ( member #32943) posted at 1:55 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
We're just friends! < oh, yesss...
I could contribute to the sections on "I Never Meant To..." and "You Make Me Feel Bad When You Bring Up the A."
Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 1:57 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"I feel like you're always mad at me!"
rosie79 ( member #41454) posted at 2:09 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
My absolute favorites are "I wasn't happy for a long time," and "I can't help that she fell in love with me!" Disgusting douchebag!!
BW - me
WH - liar
2 kids
D-day-10/9/13
I filed 2/2/15
Divorce final 8/28/2015
Married 10 years
I guess technically married 12 years although the last year and a half he lived with OW
I now have the strength to do wh
Raven96 ( member #40298) posted at 2:18 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
"You just don't think about the consequences."
Marriage isn't a test, so why cheat?
mchercheur ( member #37735) posted at 2:23 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
I tried to start it here:
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=488585
Me: BW; Him: WH --Had 10 mo. EA/ PA with COW; Dday 5/2011 Married 35 years/Together 36 years/4 kids together, and 1 grandbaby; OW 20 years younger than us/divorced no kids Trying to R; don't know what the final outcome will be
naivewife ( member #38375) posted at 3:19 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
And because everyone likes a happy ending - "You win, I choose you."
D-day #1 - 1/23/13
false R, then...
D-day #2 - 3/26/13
I will come for the benefit of the sick, remaining free of all intentional injustice, of all mischief and in particular of sexual relations with both female and male persons. - Hippocratic Oath
honesttoafault ( member #27105) posted at 4:17 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
Chapter on deflecting: How to start a fight with the BS by saying/doing something hurtful and then when the BS replies pull "You are ruining our relationship with this fighting and accusations!!"
You are spying on me!
You don't trust me!
CantLoseHope ( member #42356) posted at 4:23 AM on Thursday, February 13th, 2014
You all are forgetting the most important chapter......
-I just told my BS of my A, and I'M the one in the bathroom wasted on the floor puking, go figure?-
"A tree falls the way it leans.....be careful which way you lean"
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