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stroppy_wanadoo (original poster member #11224) posted at 3:54 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
I've posted before about my best friend who died of breast cancer last August at age 40. And what a total alcoholic, lying, disgusting jackoff her husband is.
It has taken him almost a year to buy a headstone. He took off work twice during the spring to go do it, but ended up golfing and drinking with buddies instead. After being prompted by her sisters to do it (they offered to do it instead, but he didn't want to give them access to the money set aside for it - likely because it isn't all there... but I digress), he finally ordered one.
I don't talk to this asshat anymore, but my sister-in-law does. He sent her a picture of the headstone. Not only is his name on it, too (why would he want to be buried by her? He moved his girlfriend in THE WEEK AFTER SHE DIED. Plus - there is NO PLOT AVAILABLE anywhere around her...), but her birthday is wrong. Sure, he got the date and year correct. But he told them February instead of March. And when it was pointed out to him by my sister-in-law, he said "What am I supposed to do? It's already done and being set this week."
I hate him. I really have nothing but contempt and disgust for him. I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point. Why does he continue to disrespect her so much in death? Didn't he do enough of that when she was alive?
EvenKeel ( member #24210) posted at 4:03 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Wow - that is awful.
I am sure somehow this will get fixed, but that's not the point.
I hope so but I am not so sure it will be. Doesn't sound like it was a big priority for him.
As you know - there is no changing what he is, does or will do.
All you can do is just keep honoring your BF's memory your own way.
metamorphisis ( member #12041) posted at 4:06 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
That's horrible. 
Go softly my sweet friend. You will always be a part of who I am.
JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 4:07 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
That's just sick. I'm so sorry.
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 4:08 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
I'm just sitting here shaking my head. I don't even know where to start.
I hope it does get fixed but like Evenkeel said, it wasn't a priority before so I'm not sure it will be a priority now.
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:22 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
How awful. I'm so sorry. (((stroppy & BF))))
jrc1963 ( member #26531) posted at 6:30 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Complete AssHat!!
I'm so sorry Stroppy
Me: BSO - 56 Him: FWSO - 79 DS - 23 D-Day - 12-11-09, R - he finally came homeYour life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"
brokeninfl ( member #21896) posted at 6:58 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
wow. that is....just beyond horrific.
I'm so so sorry stroopy.
"On the other side of fear lies freedom"
Me - 39 BS
Him - doesn't matter
2 DS
DD 11/08
Divorced.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 7:03 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
That is awful. I'm sorry.
asurvivor ( member #32368) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
I read some of these posts and it really challenges my faith in humanity. This is one big ass prick.
I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 7:17 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Wow what a piece of shit he is. I hope he gets all that is coming to him.
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
stroppy_wanadoo (original poster member #11224) posted at 7:37 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Thank you all for the support. I needed someone to get mad at him with me today.
As far as how I know it will get fixed, well, I am certain her sisters won't stand for it. While they let him drag his feet on getting a stone, they won't let it rest that way. Even if it means buying one themselves. And I really don't think in the end he'd fight them to get a corrected one in (as long as his name is on it, and he doesn't have to pay for it).
Come to think of it, his name doesn't look too awful on a headstone. (I am so sorry, God. That was a horrible thing to say! But I'm not taking it back just yet.)
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:42 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
What a useless pile of shit.
I hope your dear friend is haunting him and making his life torture.
You know making his wanker limp, and his girlfriend grow big old nasty man hairs out her nose, on her chin, and back.
I am sorry that your friend isn't getting the respect she deserves.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
k94ever ( member #11176) posted at 10:48 PM on Tuesday, July 29th, 2014
Because in the end it really is all about him.
I'm sorry for your friend and her sisters.
k9
BS:61
WS: 53
Betrayed: 24 years
Affairs: 15 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.
Pentup ( member #20563) posted at 3:27 AM on Wednesday, July 30th, 2014
I have thought of this all day. It makes ME want to kick his a$$. with you
Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 4:34 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
I just saw this. How awful! Maybe, if he lets her sisters get a new one and demands his name be on it too, they can put a date of death for him in the not-too-distant future.....? 
Maybe that would wake him up to the disrespect.
I know.... I know.... 
But I couldn't resist. 
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
kiki1 ( member #37184) posted at 4:39 PM on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
(((stroppy)))
Maybe the sisters will replace it and keep his name OFF it!!! What an ass.
I'm sure hoping so,,,,,,,,,
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