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Update on OW3:

Last Thursday the PD asked me to print out all the text messages and pictures that I had. I put about 50 pages together in an envelope and dropped it off. Again-I am waiting to see what happens.

Internal affairs also talked to WH on the phone for about a half hour.

On Sunday I saw OW3 for the first time. We were going to Sam's Club and while driving through the parking lot. WH asked me again what car that she drives. I started looking for an example of her car. I didn't see one. We got out and started walking towards the entrance. That's when I saw her with her boyfriend. I grabbed a WH's hand and pulled him immediately the other way before they saw us. I didn't know 100% that it was her but I suggested to WH that we walk to the parking lot and look for her car. We found it a few rows over. I insisted that we take a selfie in front of her car. I don't know if I'll ever do anything with the picture, but it makes me feel more powerful than her. And I feel better about myself, as she is so much fatter than I imagined. Ha ha!

One of these days when I run into her in my city and she is alone and I am alone, I will walk up to her and tell her how surprised I am about how fat she is! That is my current fantasy anyway.

Wow. It's been a long time since I've visited this thread. I can hardly believe what happened in 18 months.

WH and I are still together. I still don't trust him, but he has been doing everything that I've asked him to do in order to make me feel safe.

I started a local support group and I think this is going to be tremendously helpful and healing for me.

I continue to go to individual counseling.

WH has not gone to counseling in months, but I talked to him a few days ago and told him I would like him to go back because he has plenty of room for improvement in his life

He meets regularly with an accountability partner - a friend of his who is a good Christian man, husband, and also happens to be a counselor. I love this. I created a list of questions that his accountability partner agreed to ask him each time they meet. So far, so good. No contact with any of the former affair partners. He is very careful with any contact he has with any female. No pornography.

[This message edited by UnwiseOne at 10:14 AM, March 4th (Friday)]

Unwise1

Welcome back. It's good to hear from you - and the positive post.

I remember - in my mind - your SAGA!

SO - Inquiring minds want to know -

Whatever happen with the case?

Last Thursday the PD asked me to print out all the text messages and pictures that I had. I put about 50 pages together in an envelope and dropped it off. Again-I am waiting to see what happens.

Internal affairs also talked to WH on the phone for about a half hour.

And - has the fantasy been fulfilled yet?

One of these days when I run into her in my city and she is alone and I am alone, I will walk up to her and tell her how surprised I am about how fat she is! That is my current fantasy anyway

Can Not Believe

Well-the complaint against her kind of went the way I thought it would. I got a letter back about six weeks later saying that my accusations were "unfounded." It made me sad but I still feel satisfied that I sent all those pictures and text messages to her PD and a sergeant and a lieutenant both went through them and saw the text send pictures !!

I have not seen her again but whenever I am at a certain grocery store I am always on the lookout.

I have since gotten past my obsession with her. I think it finally ended when I sent her a "gift."

I sent her a personalized wine bottle through a business called Wine Greetings that was advertising on Groupon. I designed my label with a picture of WH and I looking very happy. Imagine the following:

Life is short, insert OW's name here~

Live with integrity.

-happy picture goes here-

~The MyLastName Family~

(est. 1993 and continuing strong)

When I got the notification from the shipping company that it had been signed for, I really couldn't believe that I sent it to her. Can you imagine receiving a bottle of wine and finding a message like that?

Also a personalized card was enclosed where I expressed myself further. I told her that at least I have lived my life with integrity. I then asked her to please consider other people when making decisions in the future.

Wow! So impressed with your gift to OW. Glad things are moving forward in a positive direction. I applaud you.

Good job Unwise.

I hope all is going better for you.

btw, I am still very sick over your story.