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First, I'm not looking for advice. I know what you will all say. I want support. I want hugs. I want, "God this sucks" And getting this up front, there is no OBS2, so I don't need to tell her.

The other day, I posted that she slept with him again. I know because of the tracker. And I ordered the checkmate kit as suggested by someone. Came back with semen. Last night, she went back to that house when she told me she was going to IC then gym. When she got home, I confronted her. I told he I knew she was still in the affair. I told her I knew where she was. etc. She didn't deny it. She wanted to know how I knew. I wouldn't tell her. She was kind of mad. I asked her if it was OM(1). She said, very shamefilled, "no." But I didn't believe it. I thought she was protecting him. And I asked if the people that I THOUGHT owned the house knew what she was doing there. She said they don't live there anymore. So today I've been thinking on that. I almost hired a PI to investigate. Then I started digging around. And found tax records that house sold to another guy in August. WW is friends with this guy (now referred to as AP2) on FB. And it hit me. She's screwing a different guy. She is going to his house and screwing him. I figured this out about 10 minutes ago.

No 2x4's. No advice please- I just got nailed between the eyes with a rake. She has NOT been seeing AP1. She has maintained NC with him. I believe it. - It's in the way she said it at MC the other day and to me the day before. when she said it, I knew she was telling the truth. But then I doubted it because it made the most sense. But no. There is AP2. And I believe it started about twoish weeks ago.

Fuck me.

MN

(((Minnesota)))

I am so sorry.

oh dear god Minnesota. I'm so sorry for your pain and how you must feel. I'm angry for you.

God, this sucks.

MN,

No 2x4 from me. I'm so very sorry.

Just one big giant bro hug from me.

You know what you have to do.

You will get through this.

Minnesota - no advice. This does really suck and I'm sorry that you're hurting. Do what you can do and take it for as long as you can. When the time comes, you'll know.

I've been there man. It does suck. My WW was cheating on her AP with a second AP because the first one was 'too addictive'. pet name for the second one was 'husband'.

So yeah. I know how it feels. And it sucks.

I am so sorry, Minnesota.

Keep taking care of yourself- drink water, eat, try and sleep when you can. Walk that lake! Hug that little!

I'm sorry this happened. You did not deserve this.

Oh shit ((((MN))))

I'm so so sorry to hear this, and yeah, as if AP wasn't bad enough, now they have to start being numbered.

It sucks. It hurts. You did nothing to deserve this.

I'm so sorry for your pain.

Sending strength to you.

((((MN))))

No 2x4's here. I've been watching your story. Same thing happened to me only I didn't "discover" for another year after initial dday. He kept this one secret all along, had her the whole time he had other AP's and I kept my focus on them. I feel so sorry, I know exactly how it feels. Good luck. I really do empathize with you.

Wow, just wow.

You do not deserve this (((Minnesota.)))

Sending you strength.

[This message edited by mchercheur at 1:56 PM, January 28th (Thursday)]

I'm really sorry man. I can't imagine how much this hurts. Keep in mind that his isn't about you, Minnesota. This is all about her and her issues; issues she'd ignored for most of her life.

I've read enough of your story to know that you're a good man, patient, thoughtful and considerate beyond most. You don't deserve this kind of treatment.

((((bro hugs))))

Unhinged

This sucks.

Sending you a hug.

We've got your back, Minnesota.

[This message edited by mchercheur at 1:55 PM, January 28th (Thursday)]

Damn. Damn. Damn.

I am so, so sorry.

(((Bro Hugs)))

And angry. On your behalf. That she could do this to you. You did absolutely nothing to deserve this.

Wishing you all the strength in the world to deal with this.

And when you're ready, post again. We've got your back and are here for you.

I am so so sorry, no one deserves this one time let alone two times.

You've been heard.

Just sending you strength mate. Lots and lots of strength.

Sorry brother

So so sorry - we're all here for you.

I'm so sorry Minnesota. I've followed your posts, and I have appreciated your responses to mine and others. From them, it seems that you are a fair and thoughtful man. My heart is hurting for you right now.