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/me sings o/~ If I only had a Brian! o/~

Meoh if you did.....What would you do with him??

Had two dates worth mentioning on this thread :).

This one guy I met online we had been texting randomly for almost a year. Then one day seemed it suited for both of us to meet, impromptu on the day. He came and pick me up in a taxi.. So... The name he had given was false, the photos completely different man, different nationality- he is georgian.

Se we get to dinner. The more he drinks, the more aggressive his language becomes. The bill arrives I quickly say I will pay half - trying to get myself out of there as fast as possible. He starts cursing me about how disrespectful I am in offering to pay. He continues calling me names. I tell him if you will call me a bit@h one more time I will empty my water glass in your face. He does call me. And I employ the glass on him.he goes to bathroom - I leave the restaurant ... Seeing this as lucky escape.

Another one was yesterday. He tells me he only meets crazy women with lots of issues. So ask to elaborate. He says one was a former prostitute. Another one an alchacolic. So I ask more details (the prostitute story was okayish, so will focus on another one). He and this girl met, got drunk on first date - 4 bottles of wine (both of them drinking) - she went to his and stayed the night. Next morning he woke up at 10 and she slept till 1pm. Sounds like he was annoyed she slept that late in his place. Then he was petrified that she got up from the bed naked and went straight to the fridge and drank wine out of the bottle. And the that she was stinky. And he offered her to give toothbrush and for her to take shower. And she refused. Then he basically said I will take you home and don't want to see you again. All that he is telling me whilst I notice his shirt on ironed... He is picking his tooth and then hmm eating what he has picked out.

So I say look she does not sound great but sounds like you contributed your 50% to the situation.. He gets upset with me..

The he tells me about the date with a 'trust fund' girl. They go to dinner. Her phone rings - she apologises and ask if ok to pick up as her builder is calling - he says - yes go ahead. She picks up and listens to the update on building works - sounds like bit longer then polite - so he gets angry. What he does. He goes and secretly pays the bill. Then he tells her - let's run without paying the bill. She says no - this is inappropriate. They argue over this - she leaves. Then he proceeds to tell me his mother has done this - with 10 of her friends run away without paying the bill, because previous time they hated the meal in that restaurant.

I could continue with his stories, but you get the picture!

Hope this brightens your day 😀😀😀😀

YIKES!!!

Well, this isn't a humorous observation of craziness with the online world, but just an observation that being male and having the following attributes is a HUGE online advantage:

* not being overtly horny

* having a job

* not living in my Mom's basement

* being able to write in coherent sentences

Before I found someone with whom I wanted to be exclusive, I wash awash in interest.

Saw a profile today with a pic of a guy with a bandaid on his nose.

Seriously.

Thank you FaithFool for the out loud laugh at almost midnight here. That was rich!

[This message edited by IDeserveMore at 1:39 AM, December 2nd (Friday)]

Was talking to a girl online. Things were going really well, when she asked how tall I was. I told her and she exclaimed: "Oh no, you're so great, damn, it's unfair! Why are you an inch too short?!". I was almost speechless (fairly rare occurrence for me, haha). So that was fun

Hobbes,

It's not how big it is, but how you use it!

People who get so hung up little things are definitely not worth it.

Met the almost ideal man:

a ton of emails deeply shared in almost 4 years...and 3 phone calls.

he started sending me some really nice gifts as the years rolled by I sent him books and cards.

then he was moving to another state and getting more persistent about taking me out to dinner, etc.

Our politics would have clashed in the end and I knew this. But it was a wonderful almost 4 yrs!

We touched each other in so many different avenues.

Oh, he had a thing I found out by the last year about women gaining weight so though I have not had this issue, well, what if I did someday?

Sayonara!

Then there was the potter.....for another time.

One can tell a great deal via emails!

Haha, I agree, TB

Met a guy on match.com, looked cute on his profile picture and he sort of took me under his wing giving me all sort of advice on how to 'survive' the whole online thing.

We started chatting and the conversation turned a bit naughty. The guy kept going on about how good a lover he was, how 'big' etc. I felt a bit uncomfortable but didn't want to look like a prude.So I agreed to meet him.

The very first thing he does is unbutton his shirt and show me a scar on his chest. He then proceeded to tell me that he had just had a pacemaker' fitted after a heart attack so sex was off the cards for at least six months.

Talking of all talk no action

(((karmafan))) at least maybe you had a good laugh!

I met a couple of women who liked to be dominated (think 50 shades of grey). :D

I met a couple of men that wanted to be dominated too. I guess they wouldn't be a match if they don't have an aggressor to tie them all up and treat them like garbage.

Well, I did a lot of swiping on dating apps and matched a few people here and there.

At one point I matched with two women at the same time in late October early November and both were wonderful ladies. We got along well in texts and I was interested in meeting both in person. Well one of them basically fell off the face of the earth and so I let it go and went out on a couple dates with the other. Things were pleasant enough, but there really wasn't a future.

Thanksgiving comes, Christmas comes, in early February I'm still checking out dating apps, when lo and behold I match with the ghost girl. This time on a dating app where the woman has to approach first. Well the day goes by and she never initiates so she falls off into the void of the internet. Well that would be the story if I was a goofball who keeps all of his texts. I went back to the old conversation, sent her a text along the lines of haha it's funny we matched again, too bad you don't want to talk to me. Poking a bit of fun at her.

Well she replies back and we start talking. Things go great and we decide to meet up, turns out she has to cancel our first date (totally legitimate reason), well I give her a second second chance and it was the right thing to do! Turns out we are pretty damned great for each other. We both have our issues, but we both support each other. I love her dearly and I tell her often, I tell her how great it is that I can say I love you again and mean it and give it to someone who deserves it. Now we are moving in together and making sure we don't annoy the crap out of each other spending all our time together.

It's fun when we get to tell our story of how we met and matched on not one but two apps months apart. Maybe it's just meant to be? I look forward to finding out.

omgmome, that's a GREAT story and I totally didn't expect that ending!!

Why didn't she respond to you on what I assume was the Bumble app? Look what she might have missed!

She is beyond lucky that you pursued her via old texts! I mean, you love her, wow!!! Happy for you.

Time to bump this thread because it's been too long.

I don't log into the dating sites very much, just get the email alerts.

Today apparently I got a message from someone with this on his profile. In his pics he's channelling Ernest Borgnine and there's one blurry one of his arm that hard to tell if it's a tattoo or a bad third-degree burn...

"l like to find a lady that is adverts and would like to do new things in lifeel and able to travel see live in a new light "

Where do you start? Have no idea if I even know how to be adverts. Is there an app for that?

In my profile I do mention literacy as one of my bucket list items. A girl can always dream...

I met my X-Wife on tinder and immediately swiped left and then deleted the app! She isn't into hookups apparently, lol.

This happened today. Met a guy online, from the same country. I try to make conversation and ask him casually how long he has been here in the UK. His answer (in Italian): it's all in my profile, if you had bothered to read my profile and/or pay attention to details, you wouldn't be asking me this question....

Aggression at first sight...errrr no