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DM , the feelings of anger and resentment are normal . It took me a while to figure out how to talk to my wife without constantly being angry and resentful towards her directly. What helped me was journalling . It was a way to get my frustration out without constantly berating my wife, because it would seem everytime we talked about it , the venom would come spewing out. Counseling helped too .

I found it was unproductive to get angry when we talked about it. Here I wanted my wife to be open, yet when she did, I would berate her. What I needed to learn was how to temper my temper.

Yeah, I hear ya. If I yell at her she won't want to be open and honest with me. I think it was less what I said but how I said it. I basically said it just like I typed here. Haha. Not the nicest, but WTF! That is literally EXACTLY my first thought as she said it. If she doesn't want to be with him because he cheats, she is basically telling me that she expects me to be faithful when she's a fucking cheater. Idk. It rubbed me so wrong. I was a couple beers in, which didn't help things, but still.

DM, please stay away from the alcohol. It will only make things worse.

If she doesn't want to be with him because he cheats, she is basically telling me that she expects me to be faithful when she's a fucking cheater.

That'd be where you throw this look, and wait for her lightbulb to click on. I had something similar when fWW made some comments about "cheaters suck," and I threw this look at her...

Love that movie! Hahaha. Wool94- I don't drink a ton. Just a beer or two a night. I will hold off if we are doing something like that again. I didn't expect it to trigger me so hard. :(

I was lucky to have found and been able to marry my wife. I think I should be thinking it more the other way around.

It was, you didn't cheat. Your the prize. It is up to her to prove that she wants that prize by owning her shit, fixing it, and becoming a better person.

Oh, btw.. This is night and day feeling from your pages 1 etc.

Cheers

I just read on your other thread that you've had some TT last night. She supposedly forgot meeting him for drinks one evening...which sounds a lot like a date.

Is there a reason you're not scheduling a polygraph? I mean, other than it might hurt her feelings...or make her mad that you don't believe her?

It was kinda a date. Youre right. She said they went for a glass of wine after an off site training. I'm not scheduling because shes not doing it on purpose. Shes not purposely holding shit back. It sounds like she honestly forgot about it. When she made the timeline this would have been small potatoes. Unless shes intentionally trying to hold things back, this wouldnt have shown on a poly.

I honestly think she has a twisted look on this whole thing. Her comments about him being a serial cheater and that not being okay kinda verify it. She has to come to terms with all this shit. I dont see how a poly will help at all.

How are things going DM?

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[This message edited by SI Staff at 12:39 PM, January 24th (Tuesday)]

Hi Leslierae784

Before the mods delete your post for spamming and keeping in mind this isn‘t the first time you create an account for the sole purpose of being an @sshole I just want to share that I wouldn’t send an email to that address or phone that number even if it was the last option available to me.

I think there is a special place in hell – hopefully with no internet connection – for people like you.

Leslierae... please go away.