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All you have to do is go online and check your phone bill.

Please stop believing your wife's word, it is not uncommon for an affair to continue, especially considering what your wife has said to you. Like she enjoyed the affair, and she has never once spoken badly about this OM.

You have got to find a way to monitor her.

Stop believing her word.

How does your wife speak of the OM and of the affair at this time?

And I don't mean the I am sorry stuff, how does she view the other man in words to you.

(((Brokenhusband99))),

I could have written everything you said except the church and cousin stuff. My ex-wife did the exact same stuff. She couldn't get her head out of her ass, twice. I jumped at R to start. I called it off after she broke NC not once, but twice. Then she told me that she wanted to try again and I jumped again.

After that point I stopped caring. She broke the trust and it took about 2.5 months for my brain and heart to sync up. She wasn't my wife any longer. She wasn't my friend any longer. She was a co-parent and that was it.

Even knowing all of this didn't help out. Only time helped out.

At this point, I think your WW is going through the motions. At some point, you are going to hit the wall. You won't care to snoop. You won't want to snoop. You won't want pictures. You won't want excuses. You'll want to SEE progress and when you don't, that's when you will understand. Vows were broken. Trust was broken. Lives were broken. The marriage is broken and only the two of your can fix it but you both have to REALLY WANT to fix it.

I wish you so much luck, but I also wish that you would take a step back and realize that no matter how much you want it, she has to want it as well.