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Not a single time with any of the 13 strangers he hooked up with from the NSA section of Craigslist. Shocking my vajay hasn't fallen off yet!

Nope. She had an active case of cervical hpv she was getting surgery for, and they apparently had two abortions.

I don't know if she is able to sleep at night, but I know he sure does. Not a care in the world. Crazy.

The OM did when there was a slight risk of pregnancy, but didn't in the other hole....that burns a lot.

Nope. When I asked him why, he said that he had bought condoms but decided not to use them because OWhore had told him she had her tubes tied and couldn't get pregnant. After picking myself up off the floor from the shock of his absolute stupidity at taking a stranger at her word, I asked what about STDs? He just looked a me blankly, it hadn't even occurred to him.

Dumbass!

No because they were both married with kids and therefore 'safe'. Never mind that they were both cheaters.

Oh, this topic pisses me off! How does it not occur to them that they are putting.our.LIVES.at.risk?!?!

STBXWH continues to say it was an EA. When I confronted him on the Viagra and Condoms in his bag, he said he had them for us...we have never used them or had relations in a long time. Also when I pointed out that they were expired and he might want to get tested or tell her, he said "Condoms have an expiration date"? yes and what planet did you come from?

I was never answered, when I asked, because "it was none of my business"!

I'd venture the answer was NO, considering I now have cancer causing strains of HPV & am the lucky recipient of cervical biopsies & cervical cancer testing on the regular.

I tested clean for 27 years of my marriage. Popped up with HPV what turned out to be about 3 years into their LTA.

Reading this thread I think I may have just realized why I had serious issues with persistent, recurring, EVIL yeast infections a couple of times earlier in the marriage. I'd just recover & BAM!, I'd get it again. I lived in so much pain those couple of years...probably 3 years into the M, & again after about 9 years.

No. I didn't specifically ask this question but when I said I was going for STD testing he didn't blurt out anything about having practiced safe sex.

Seems to be the trend based upon the answers here of the WS just not caring. Why would they? They have no fucks to give about us while they're in the A. I mean if you're going to be screwing some whore, at least put a damn bag on it. Have some shred of a conscience.

She said she did, but knowing my STBX never did with me, I seriously doubt it.

He said he did every time but I don't believe him. But then he admits to oral sex. I guess my idiot husband didn't know you can catch diseases that way. Besides, he felt like she was clean. I cannot believe he said that.

my wh swears he did, tho not when she gave him oral...

I dont know if I believe him.... you know the whole proven liar bit

Nope. Said he didn't plan on it, so he didn't pack one in his bag. I know he had some at home he could have at least brought with since we used them as birth control for awhile. But apparently they don't have Walgreens, CVS or anything to stop at in a huge 24 hour type of city.....

My favorite part is that he tells me (4 months pregnant balling my eyes out calling my doctor to ask for an STD check), that I have nothing to worry about. It was fine.

OH, so you trust this person who apparently finds it so easy to LIE to her husband and children about an affair, that you don't think she will ever lie to you?????? Yeah ok, keeping living in LA LA land dumbass.....

Nope. I think if he had to think about it enough to use protection it would have made him think what he was doing was wrong. There was no thought about me or my safety in his A, only his selfish wants.

He had a vasectomy so no fear of pregnancy... I guess that's all that matters right???

[This message edited by doigoordoistay at 12:27 PM, November 2nd (Wednesday)]

"When we had it. But we took precautions he never came in me".

I said i needed to know for std checks. "Why is there something I should know?" Well you knew he was married and having sex with me...how freaking stupid are these little girls?

Never. She's fixed, he's fixed. They're to pure and special to have any hideous diseases. She didn't know if he had other pussy on demand but no worries. She planned their first penetration encounter well in advance but never thought about getting any protection. They weren't going to get anything from me and WW was very sure about that - confident I wouldn't cheat. And she was right. Not so safe for me.

[This message edited by steadychevy at 4:21 PM, November 2nd (Wednesday)]

No, never, not once, even with anal. They had sex twice a day, nearly every day, for 3 months. Makes me ill to think about it. She is single and had a guy living with her until she decided to go after a married trophy. She cleared out her house and her bed in order to make room. I doubt she steam cleaned the vajayjay or her ass.

Nope, but said he did for a very, very long time. I was TT'ed about a lot of things for 2 years.. not exactly sure when that particular hit was leveled.

Incredulously, he said he wasn't concerned about STD's because she said she hadn't had sex with her BH in years.. Really dufus? You told her the same thing about me.. yet there you were having sex with both of us at the same time..

Condoms no. I had the snip done after our youngest was born, so about six years ago. So we've had no need for any type of protection or birth control.

So, imagine my surprise when I found birth control pills in her toiletry kit while on vacation. Which, not surprisingly, was also my initial discovery of the A. Her explanation was that they were for controlling her periods which had been erratic and heavy at the time. That she didn't share what seems like key health care information with me didn't register for her.

Spidey senses were already elevated before that. Next stop? Her phone and we're off to the races with discovery. What did I get? Gaslighting and total denials that she was with someone else. I hired a PI the Monday we got back, and had concrete evidence of the A by Wednesday.

So, really, protection played a role in discovering her A. There's no comfort in it though.

Nope.