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Finish this sentence-

"Not using comdoms/protection during A is like...."

Not using comdoms/protection during A is like....playing Russian Roulette with my life.

ETA.

the WS picking up a gun and the WS doesn't know or care if there are bullets in the chambers.

Then, the WS points the gun at the BS and pulls the trigger.

The WS does this during the whole duration of the PA

[This message edited by Dorothy123 at 10:42 AM, July 21st (Friday)]

I told my ex that this behavior amounted to attempted murder.

Not using condoms/protection during A is like sharpening the dagger even more before stabbing me in the back.

[This message edited by MalibuBayBreeze at 7:34 AM, November 18th (Friday)]

My WW is a nurse so I explained it this way. Not using comdoms/protection during A is like....you drawing blood from someone, someone that you may know but in truth have no medical history of and then using the same needle on the next patient. The fact is that if caught she would lose her license and be fired, it's obviously seen as a very serious breach. The think what makes it so bad for me is the fact that my personal rights were violated and that goes far beyond merely breaking a promise or vow. She also used our joint credit cards for hotels and lingerie, it's the same violation of my personal rights.

..... the diarrhoea topping on the shit sandwich.

It's like a constant reminder of how little they care...

It definitely stung way worse knowing how little WS thought about potentially putting my health at risk.

The most selfish, grandiose, ignorant thing he did during the A. He knows people who are suffering or dying of STD diseases and he still thought they were "special" and above natural biology. She was looking to get pregnant, so she had an agenda in not using protection. He had no such plan, just his own arrogance.

Yeah, I didn't understand it at all. How she could do this and then come back and have sex with me. "He said he was clean!". Really. OFC he did! A guy who is willing to have sex with a married woman prob has sex with LOADS of people. But yeah, since you think he's a great, honest guy it's good enough for me too....

burying me alive

Premeditated murder (he knew if I caught hpv,which I did, that it can possibly kill me due to previous health issues) currently going through treatment and possibly need radiation because of this.....

I agree with you 100%. It's ironic that I just had this discussion with my fwh a couple days ago. I told him how disgusting it was for me, knowing now, that at one point he was sleeping with both of us. He looked ashamed and apologized. Then when I said you didn't wear a condom with the ONS 10 years ago either. You don't know who've they've been with. The ONS could've had AIDS! This last OW could have herpes, that shit can be dormant for years! The look on his face went from shame to absolute horror. I asked,so in his mind he couldn't get them pregnant so that's all that mattered to him right? I didn't matter even an ounce. He apologized for acting so stupid and dangerous, it never occurred to him to use protection. Ya, I know that asshole! I told him he can apologize, but at this point, it's just one more thing I have to live with.

Like shooting a water pistol into the Atlantic Ocean....

STBX had unprotected sex with very high risk partners—and I was infected with 2 STDs, one orally and so severe it disabled me—very ill, in terrible pain and unable to communicate normally (no voice) for over a year, and the other —the leading cause of neonatal morbidity and mortality —during pregnancy.

I usually think of it as reckless endangerment. On bad days, I think of it as attempted murder.

But really , it was unbridled self-destruction. He just took me (and our unborn son—thankfully my first test results were mislaid and testing repeated early enough in labor to change my birth plan & protect him from infection) along for the ride.

Whee! (And I've always hated roller coasters.)

[This message edited by solus sto at 4:27 PM, November 18th (Friday)]

WH did use a condom both times he cheated and even though I know that this is so much better than if he hadn't the reality that he stopped to put one on and made that desicion cuts like a knife.

XH was a bit shocked when I asked him if he used condoms during his LTA. No. No? No.

He seemed offended that I would think his whore might be diseased. After all, she was a "nice woman", she wouldn't lie to him.

Cheaters don't lie do they?

Stupid, stupid man.

tts

At this point in my life, I'd be in jail after I got done dealing with that...no ifs, ands, or buts.

And it wouldn't bother me one little bit either.

Thanks everyone for your responses.

...perfectly normal.

Don't blame the messenger.

Interesting replies.

Thanks everyone.

Not using condoms/protection during A is like....stepping between a mamma bear and her cubs and then literally - poking the bear!

Although, my WH did use condoms and we still have the pleasure of dealing with an STD from the warthog.

No condoms were used. MOW was sterilised and WH had had a vasectomy. When I asked, fWH looked surprised and said "no, why would I?"

Me: Umm, because you don't know who else MOW was having sex with?

Him: But she was only having sex with me and BH.

Me: How do you know that?

Him: Because she told me!

Me: So.... she was lying to her BH but not to you.... hmm. And who does her BH have sex with?

Him: Just MOW!!!

Me: How do you know?

Him: Because she told me.

And round and round we went. Their love was pure, and all that crap. After all, it's not very romantic to ask your AP if they have any nasty disease you might catch and pass on to your unsuspecting spouse. Best just to assume that if they have sex with you, they must be fine!

ETA: it's like playing roulette with your health and physical well being.

[This message edited by UKgirl at 11:09 AM, November 21st (Monday)]