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Be a paper bag princess and save yourself.

My new favorite line!!

That said, this entire post makes me nauseated. Every update is creepier than the next. If this "paramour " is even real, he absolutely makes my skin crawl. And I'll bet my left elbow he is NOT an MD.

I predict he'll be the subject of a Dateline special in the near future.

Nothing is adding up. What a spineless douchebag, not even man enough to give his wife a heads up he is divorcing her. I bet he moves out while she is not home. What a slimy coward. Ewww....And creepy...Did I mention creepy? Oh and then there's CREEPY.

Let's not forget that he is CREEEEPY!!!!!!!

I'm sorry. Just read this thread.

If I'm off base I appaulogize. This is too unreal. How can this be happening to DoctorsLove's husband.

DoctorsLove. Please, if you have one ioda of decency left in you, please inform your betrayed husband about this site after you tell him you are leaving him and crushing his whole world.

We will help him. He is going to need it.

My God!!!!!!!!

A lot of things seem off here.

I think making sure he files tomorrow is a great idea. But how would I do that? Offer to go with him?

Well, you could do that. But what if he comes up with an excuse?

I recommend telling his wife. Don't tell him you are going to do it though, because you don't want him to feel guilty about it.

She will be hurt, sure, but as most waywards can attest on this site the majority of the time this works out favorably for the affair partners to stick together. Especially since you really want to be with him, you don't truly want him to continue sleeping next to her at night, right? What if they're having sex with each other too?!

Guys, back me up on this. Expose the affair to his wife. He wants to leave her anyway, so this way he won't get the hate projected at him. It's a win win.

Don't tell him you are going to do it though, because you don't want him to feel guilty about it.

Yes. Yes. That is definitely the reason not to tell him.

Another vote for telling his wife...If the creepy non-MD has a wife.

Yes, DoctorsLove tell that sweet romantic man's BW.

What could possibly go wrong?

Wouldn't it be great if you and your lover married and then your husband and your lover's wife married and you all lived happily ever after?

Why do people lie so much?

Love makes people so crazy!

All is fair in love and war!

That sounds kind of romantic, actually.

YOLO!

And one of my favorite quotes, from the great all-time Paramour himself, Woody Allen: "The heart wants what it wants. There's no logic to these things. You meet someone and you fall in love and that's that." (Even if she is your wife's adopted daughter.)

Though I must admit, that is not what was said in my wedding ceremony. In my wedding ceremony, we both vowed to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. And the priest read a passage from the bible, love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

I think that's what my wedding was like. Who can remember? And who really cares? That all was just for show, I think. At least we weren't alone, the wedding ceremony and vows were just a show for a lot of people. Good compassionate people who sure make terrific messes.

Here is a way to clean up the mess:

1. Tell husband the truth. If you have not used protection with other man and your husband, include that so your husband can get tested. Tell him about the falling out of love and the not wanting to be in a loveless marriage. Lay it all on the line. It will be good for your current marriage or it will be good practice for your next marriage.

2. Tell other man you need to break off temporarily until you get legally separated.

3. Then do what you want to do, but be honest about it.

I've been reading and not posting until now, I have to admit that I'm on the side of those who think something is "off" here.

Having said that, if it's not, if we can take you at face value.....

go see another doctor and investigate the possibility of post partum depression. Get tested for STD's while you're there.

tell your BH what's going on. He deserves to make informed choices regardless of whether you choose to stay or leave.

tell the other BS, she also deserves to know.

It's really amazing at how clear things become when BS's become part of the decision making process.

tts

A lot of things seem off here.

This is too unreal.

I have to admit that I'm on the side of those who think something is "off" here.

^^^ My spidey sense is telling me the same.

Apologies in advance to 'DoctorsLove' if I'm wrong.

Doctorslove,

You have a PM.

Her AP snap chatted the pics of the divorce papers so she doesn't have them anymore.

[This message edited by nutmegkitty at 5:55 AM, April 3rd (Monday)]