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Randy1133 (original poster member #54958) posted at 4:46 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Funny how you hear a song, but never really listen until it hits home.
Dday: May/Aug 2016
Divorced
'Even in a toothache there is enjoyment'- Dostoyevsky
OrdinaryDude ( member #55676) posted at 5:14 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Big Eagles fan here too...I about puked the first time I heard that tune on the radio after d-day, it still makes me sick.
Unfortunately there are a lot more of them like that too.
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I was young and dumb and stayed with a cheater.
WearingTheHorns ( member #37916) posted at 5:17 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Started triggering a bit Sat night when this song came on and I couldn't do anything about but try to tune it out. Another one is "Mrs. Robinson" by Simon and Garfunkel. There's a few others I can't remember atm.
Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.
2 Cor. 12:9-10
sickofsurviving ( member #52308) posted at 5:24 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I can't hardly turn the radio on. It's a huge trigger for me.
It still is just so crazy to me, how infidelity has touched everything.
BS-me 54
WH 56
Married 2004
4 DDs 35,30,26,25
Sexting affair with his 1st cousin 2007-2008 maybe
D-Day 8-8-15
Married
Randy1133 (original poster member #54958) posted at 5:26 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Never thought about the lyrics to "Hey Joe" either until I listened to them.
Dday: May/Aug 2016
Divorced
'Even in a toothache there is enjoyment'- Dostoyevsky
WearingTheHorns ( member #37916) posted at 5:30 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
It still is just so crazy to me, how infidelity has touched everything
.
I told WW on the day I confronted her that everything has changed. She's done a damn fine job of convincing herself that nothing's changed though.
Dday: over a period of three days 11/14-16/2012.
EA/PA: ~ 2 1/2 years
EA/beginning PA: ~ 10 months
Hoped I'd never have to add this: Dday #2 11/22/2015 Not sure how far it went yet but have a pretty good idea.
2 Cor. 12:9-10
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 5:39 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Ha,
Just another song that put the blame on the BS.
Songs like these give people the misconception of
"How can the BS not know that the CS is cheating ?".
I have thread on the subject.
"Did your WS have a good "poker face" during A? "
http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=596648
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
digifuwill ( member #58361) posted at 6:02 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I remember those first days after I confronted WW asking her to confess her PA, and she was giving me the most absurd explanations for everything, stories so bullshit that even she had trouble keeping a straight face about them. I found myself in good spirits actually, because I knew I had the upper hand and her refusal to cop to it just made her appear foolish and childish and pitiful. During that period I mostly felt embarrassed for her. Plus we both knew that, because I tipped off OBS, the LTA between WW and OM was (temporarily and perhaps permanently) coming to a sudden, ignominious end.
For those few days - before I discovered just how long and deceitful the PA had been - I was like a walking jukebox, singing and humming and whistling every time she was in hearing range. This was the tune I went with the most. I also hit her with Cry Me A River and What Becomes Of The Broken Hearted a bunch of times. I was smiling and laughing throughout. It drove her batty.
HardenMyHeart ( member #15902) posted at 8:03 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I was smiling and laughing throughout. It drove her batty.
I was bad as well. I always made sure that the song Cheater's Town by Chris Isaak would be playing on the CD. My wife now despises that song.
Me: BH, Her: WW, Married 40 years, Reconciled
Bobbi_sue ( member #10347) posted at 8:34 AM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
There was a country western duo called the Kendalls in the late '70s.
I have this CD with a song called "Pittsburgh Steelers" and My H is a huge Pittsburgh Steelers fan. He apparently never really listened to the words in the song until recently I pointed it out to him that this was a play on words and it was NOT about football fans.
Man singing: Found myself in Pittsburgh working in a steel mill
Woman singing: And I was a southern girl who's husband didn't see (I think it was whos's husband did the same but the lyrics I looked up say this).
Man: He pulled the night shift I worked the day shift
Both singing: And it came too easy for us to play the game
They could call us the Pittsburgh stealers
Stealing happiness and cheatin' anytime we can
We both know the score but we run back for more
And tonight the Pittsburgh stealers play again
There is more but the above is more than enough!
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Teresa1970 ( member #56210) posted at 2:21 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I continually played this - Lyin Eyes and Best of my love as I consumed vodka and lemonade on DD. I just wanted an escape.
I also remember as I lay on the sofa bladdered my WH had the fooking cheek to ask me how to make a spaghetti bolognese!!!
Me (BW) 46
Him (WH)56
Together (common-law) for almost 10 years
DDay EA 27/10/16
DDay PA finally confessed on 02/12/16
We are R, it is far from an easy ride. I do try and remind myself he isn't a bad man - he just did some bad things.....
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 2:47 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Cheating has been around since time immemorial, but my recollection of the 1970s was that the decade was rife with cheating songs. I'm pretty much stuck in that decade musically
so I guess I'm immune to them. FWIW, I never liked the Pina Colada Song, but it becomes a very effective earworm
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
twisted ( member #8873) posted at 3:11 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I still bust out in a loud voice to sing along, (very badly I might add) every time this comes on the radio.
The WW is still not amused.
"Hey, does this rag smell like chloroform to you?
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 7:02 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I like Meghean Trainor "If your lips are moving".
Best line -if your lips are moving then you lie lie lie
Love the Eagles song Lyin' Eyes too - how sad.
I now hate most jazz music thanks to his A. They both loved it!!!
I like the Eagles Victory Song - girl is about to dump the guy but he figured it out beforehand. Best line: so often times it happens that we live our lives in chains, And we never even know we have the key.
Been humming that one since DDay1 4 years ago. Lol
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
shellbean ( member #56536) posted at 8:19 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Love the Eagles and this was one of my favorites
not anymore
Together 29 years, M 20 years
Dday1 11/3/16 Dday2 11/1/17
PA '96-'98, PA Aug.'15-Nov.'16 Same AP
EA '09-'11
We are reconciled and doing well
isitme24 ( member #43463) posted at 10:16 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Randy
????
Never thought about the lyrics to "Hey Joe" either until I listened to them.
"Hey Joe, where you goin' with that gun in your hand?
I'm goin' down to shoot my old lady!
Caught her messin' around with another man."
Nothing subtle in those lyrics...LOL
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Wisedup ( member #53014) posted at 10:22 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
A little off-topic but listen to "Time Slips Away" by Willie Nelson if you've never heard it. It takes a badass turn at the end.
"If you want loyalty, get a dog. If you want loyalty and attention, get a smart dog" - Grant Fairley
cancuncrushed ( member #28156) posted at 10:59 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
I watched a talk show many years ago, and have never forgotten this statement....you know its over, in their eyes...when their eyes become dead, ..they don't care anymore. You cant reach them...
When we were fighting before DDay, his bad behavior toward me and the children, then after DDay....I remembered this.....
There was nothing I could do to reach him....he was emotionally gone....and didn't remember how it felt to love me. He Did NOT care.. He had dead eyes.
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OneInTheSame ( member #49854) posted at 11:02 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Melissa Etheridge "I Will Never Be The Same" will never be the same since d-day . . . .
[This message edited by OneInTheSame at 5:03 PM, June 7th (Wednesday)]
(I edit to correct typos)
I am the BS in a lesbian marriage. My WW's ex-girlfriend was the AP.
D-day of the 6 mo A was 10/04/15
We are doing okay, but by now I wanted it to be better
UKgirl ( member #17062) posted at 11:08 PM on Wednesday, June 7th, 2017
Affair1: Dday 30/07/06 LTA: 5yrs ex-fiancee Affair2: Dday 04/09/20 9mths another XHSgf.Me/BS, still young. Him/WS, old. 4 grown boysHaving an affair because you are unhappy is like eating Ex-lax because you are hungry - unfound's mom
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