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You are allowing your ww to know you are still hanging around if and when it falls apart with her ap. You are showing her what kind of ass ap is and she knows she still has you. You should be in complete NC with your ww. When it does fall apart, you will have already moved on from her. That is strength.

Missing, you need to copy Bigger’s text word for word. You can pay therapists $250,000 and will never get better advice that what he just gave you.

Hi Missingher,

Just wondering if you have any update?

I hope things have gotten better for you.

Just wondering if you have any update?

I hope things have gotten better for you.

Limboaz,

Thanks for asking. I'm doing so so so much better. D-day was 5 months ago yesterday. The D isn't final yet but is headed that way over the next few months. I'm looking forward to putting this all behind me and moving forward with my life.

I have put back on most of the weight I lost from the infidelity diet. I'm able to concentrate at work and at home and get things done. Sleep patterns are just about normal if not back to normal already.

I have little contact with my WW. We really only talk about items that need to be discussed and little else. It really is refreshing moving out of infidelity. I have no desire to take my WW back at this point or any point in the future and it feels great! I wish I could have got this point months ago!

I'm not gonna lie......it has been a long hard road to get where I am today. The advice given here on SI was pretty rough and hard to listen to back in the beginning. But y'all were right. I just wasn't ready to face the reality of the situation.

But I'm doing well now. If anyone is interested I can give an update in a month or two when we are closer to the final D. I know when I first started reading SI 5 months ago I always liked the threads that had updates at the end on how things were going or turned out.

Thanks everyone for your support!

Good to hear from you Missing.

I am glad to hear you are doing well and moving forward for you. That is amazing.

Please do keep us updated. We love success stories (people getting out of infidelity regardless of R or D).

May you have a blessed holiday and a fantastic 2018 !!!

The best is yet to be !!!

Nice going.

Keep the hard 180

If anyone is interested I can give an update in a month or two when we are closer to the final D

Yes, please do.

So happy to hear things are looking up.

Any update on the STBXWW?

Any update on the STBXWW?

She is living with the POSOM. It's not going to last as it doesn't fit his MO.

But honestly I don't care anymore. It's her problem to deal with....not mine. I'm just happy to be moving out of infidelity!

Way to go!

Saw your post in another thread and was happy to hear the karma bus had met the POSOM and your XW. I bet the clock is ticking on their romance... So sad, lol.

Hey Missing,

Good on you man!! Ours stories have many parallels. My stbxww is moving out this weekend, and I can’t wait. I got some advice here after Dday 1 that I wish I would have taken...

You have no kids...run!!!

I am so done, and the 180 has denied her of her power. D in my state is only 60 days...woo hoo!

Go and find your happiness Sir!

I was wonder if anybody was going to dig up my old thread. I guess so. It's awesome to know that people really do care. Even though I didn't listen to all of the advice on SI (I know I should have) it all helped me get though a really dark time. I know that I came out a much stronger person. (not that I needed this experience at all)

My D was finalized the first week in May. It's so nice to have all of it done and behind me. I think I played the D game pretty well. Let's hope I don't have to play again. I'm sure no one is ever completely with the outcome. I think I certainly came out of it better than she did. I got the house, part of her 401K and she pretty much paid all of my living expenses thru out the D. I dragged it out for 10 months. I could have dragged it out longer but since she had lost her job the well was starting to run dry. Emotionally it would have been good to get it over with as soon as possible. However financially my game plan worked out as well as I had hoped.

It's just a matter of time until the OM moves on to his next target. I bet he already has one lined up. It's what he does as soon as his AP is D. Chase is over for him.

It might be time to answer my own question I wrote last July. "Is there hope to fix this?" Well it's been fixed just not the what I had hoped for when I wrote it. However, it has been fixed for the better.

Cool!

Thanks for the up date.

MissingHer,

So happy to hear that you are doing well and are out of infidelity, and that things worked out to your advantage in the D. Well played!!!

You wonder how long POSOM will continue to support your XW now that they are both screwed financially. Oh well, not your problem now

Congratulations and please keep the updates coming, especially on any good news as to your social life and the karma bus running over then backing up over you X!

Congratulations once again

Great to hear that you are heading towards a better life. Nice update..

Did you head back to school?

please keep the updates coming, especially on any good news as to your social life

I do have some good news on my social life. I have been dating a girl for a few months now. We go out a couple of times a week. Just taking it at a nice slow pace. It's amazing the interest I have seen from women once they knew I was just about divorced. Much younger women

Did you head back to school?

Yes and no. Yes because I'm a teacher. No I haven't started an advanced degree yet. Still thinking about it though.

[This message edited by MissingHer2 at 11:11 AM, May 23rd (Wednesday)]

It seems you have learned the hard lesson that begging and pleading never works....it just makes you seem weak.

Your update is great. I always like a good karma bus story.

And as you have found out, a good man with integrity in your age group is considered very desirable in the dating market.