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Your story really sucks ass- I'm sorry you had to go through all of that torture. If it's any consolation, my SIL is still friends with my WW and actually sides with her on a lot of stuff- my WW got caught by me having an affair and then dumped me because she couldn't handle my reaction. I am extremely upset with my SIL and my brother is pissed at his own wife because of it. I don't even want to spend holidays with my other half of the family now because I feel betrayed also. I have 3 kids and my SIL thinks it's OK what my WW did? WTF!?!?!

Family drama on top of betrayal is the absolute worst.

Start drinking fluids and hit the damn GYM- make yourself a better person, do not let this destroy you. I lost 30+ pounds in 2 months and felt like I was going to die, don't let that happen to you, no-one is worth that.

Your mom and sister did this because they are shitty human beings. Lowest of the low. No reason on earth can justify doing this to their own family . I mean really , hiding an affair for your GIRLFRIEND for 5 years! That's messed up. I would go to IC to help you get through this. You did nothing to deserve this , not from your gf, and certainly not from your family.

I am so sorry that you have faced so many betrayals. Not just your girlfriend and your best friend but your mother and sister too.

Reach out for help, get a counselor, clergy or trusted friend (ha I know that can feel like a joke right now) to talk to. Post here often we know this pain and we are here to help.

@ Goungcrazynow why does your SIL think it's okay that she cheated??

TheHatedOne-

Because she is a weak minded individual and believed all of the rewriting of history that my WW spewed. Hell, my WW almost had me believing the reasons were all because of me- gaslighting me; these are things straight out of the cheaters handbook.

-Freeme no they haven't reached out yet

thehatedone,

This is a horrible story. I feel badly for you.

You are right to cut them all out of your life. I certainly would.

Expect them to try and creep back into your life. Don't let them.

Also, out of the cheaters handbook is the line 'it was just sex'. Even if it was, which I doubt, they say that trying to minimize their culpability as though it being 'only sex' makes it better. It is never better and to me, the sexual betrayal is the worst part. Keep strong.

As Sharkman said, they are all assholes. Keep us posted on if they try to reach out

goingcrazynow,

your SIL is no friend to you. I am sorry that you have to deal with that. Is there anyway you can see your brother independent of her ?

You could always keep the kids and yourself away from family during the holidays out of protest and see if the rest of the family has your back....

Your ExGF and ExBF are the real assholes here and good riddance to both. I would not be interested in anything they have to say at this point.

I am totally confused about your Mom and sister. Did you have a good relationship with them?

The only thing similar that I can relate is about my brother and his adult son.

The boy is a drug addict and a thief. I tried to talk to my brother about him and was angrily told that it was not my business. At that point I no longer brought up his son's bad behavior.

Did your Mom or sister ever approach you about any strange behavior of your ExGF that you blew off? Maybe you told them it was your life and your relationship and they should stay out of it?

If so, that could explain it.

Or they are just jerks and cutting them out of your life along with the GF & BF is the best thing.

Perhaps your mother and sister are cheaters and your exGF was telling your family that she was the victim; that you were driving her to cheat? They might understand and agree with the exGF situation if they too blamed their men for their own cheating behavior. Just throwing out an idea.

There"s little else to say after Sharkman's comment.

Don't wind up an asshole.

[This message edited by MidnightRun at 8:08 PM, September 12th (Tuesday)]