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Keyhole ( new member #61011) posted at 3:50 PM on Wednesday, October 11th, 2017
Hi guys,
I'm new to here, so this is my very first post. so please help me on my way. I do believe your husbands love you. After 23 yrs of marriage my hd had a 6 month affair, he was caught out at the time it was supposed to have been just finished. I know he loves me and our 4 kids. He made a really bad mistake which he will have to carry for the rest of his life. He also met a woman who in my eyes was nothing more than a T----, too mush drink, stress, its no excuse, but ive made decisions I regret, nothing as serious as this. but I do believe he loves me, that's what makes it all the harder for me. because he never ever thought of leaving us. Does anyone else think the same
GoingCrazyNow ( member #59520) posted at 7:22 PM on Wednesday, October 11th, 2017
Cheaters may have at one time loved their significant others, but are too fucking selfish and greedy to really love anyone but themselves. You don't hurt the one you really love in ways that they do. They are the biggest pieces of shit on the face of this earth, too cowardly to face the music and work on their marriage but would rather destroy their family and wreck the emotional stability of their partner. They rarely are remorseful and are too self consumed with themselves to see correctly.
I put them next to murderers, because that's what they do - murder your dreams, hopes, and stability.
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 7:44 PM on Wednesday, October 11th, 2017
In some cases I think they do.
My husband told me he did not love her. However I saw in emails that he wrote he did love her.
I'm not sure which is worse, the fact he was going to kick me to the curb for someone he didn't love or that he was willing to D me for someone he did love but only knew 9 months.
This is a tough one to get past I have to say.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
JustTheFacts ( new member #60475) posted at 1:44 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2017
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JustTheFacts ( new member #60475) posted at 1:44 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2017
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JustTheFacts ( new member #60475) posted at 1:44 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2017
Doesn't matter because ultimately they will always choose themselves over anybody else. Including you and any children.
steadychevy ( member #42608) posted at 2:08 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2017
Right to the point, rbf1234. Totally agree.
Princess Bride. How many times did I watch that with my daughters. Adult humour over the head of children. Watched it with WW, too, before adultery. Read the book, too. Good memories.
But, back to the question posed, I think your Princess Bride example says it all. Really, if you loved me could you fuck another man?
BH(me)72(now); XWW 64; M 42 yrsDDay1-01/09/13;DDay2-26/10/13;DDay3-19/12/13;DDay4-21/01/14LTA-09/02-06/06? OM - COW 4 years; "dates" w/3 lovers post engagement;ONS w/stranger post commitment, lies, lies, liesSeparated 23/09/2017; D 16/03/2020
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 2:17 AM on Monday, October 16th, 2017
To answer the initial question, no! I'll never believe that someone can love you and destroy you at the same time. That person loves having you or loves controlling you perhaps, but loves themselves more than anything.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
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