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NTV... you are hilarious

Wow... I feel I'm in the minority big time and feel a bit bad.

I've never really liked giving BJ, I don't know why...and TMI... I don't like to finish him off in my mouth. Of course I know he loves that though. I honestly Wish l liked to do it more. OW bragged about BJ and I have no doubt she's an expert. WH admitted OW did finish him off in her mouth. (Uggg whatever). WH loves to give oral and is very good at it. OW complained to me early on that WH wouldn't perform oral on her and she couldn't figure out why because she told me "I'm a well shaped " clean" woman". Yep. What a dumb bitch.

That's the only positive thing I've ever heard from her. I like knowing he didn't do that to her. I know my WH wants them more often. I have to work myself up to it.

I enjoy giving and do it pretty often. My Bh loves them but it isn’t a deal breaker. Oh and it’s highly personal.

Angrynhurtinfl. 2 min? Why would he even want to be done in 2 min?

If my wh went soft during oral- I would probably never do it again. I would be very offended. He managed to get it up and keep it up with mow so if he wasn’t able to with me-he would be out Lick in that department.

It is very likely that I couldn’t stay with him. I’m definitely not saying you should feel offended but I would because I know my wh. He said he couldn’t finish I tercourse with her a couple of times but I don’t believe him. He never had an issue when she went down in her though. It was only about 5 times so not really a lot of time to have an issue.

He remembers that he finished in her hand but that’s all he remembers about receiving oral from her. Not very memorable.

I still struggle with the mind movies of seeing someone else’s mouth on him and his on her. It makes me feel like vomiting if the images appear when I’m starting or in the middle.

Oral on me is enjoyable but sometimes I look at him and see him between someone else’s legs. I try to just not look at him now and try to relax and enjoy.

Generally I find that the mind movies are much fewer now but pop up now and again and to try to spoil my fun.

I give them, but I'm not really a fan of it TBH. I just never feel like I'm ever really good at it! lol...

My ex always complained I didn't give enough of them.

For me I feel like it's now expected by men my age that a woman does it.

Forgive me. I may have missed the memo. When exactly did this board become the Penthouse forum?

Having said that, call me crazy but I like giving much more than receiving. But hey, whatever blows up your skirt! (No pun intended).

fun intended?

Feel like it is totally expected part of sex. When it's two people who are totally into it, then it's great for both. Personally knowing the man enjoys giving as much as receiving is a major turn on for me. It's just total intimacy.

After reading many posts- do any women not like receiving?

My wife (then girlfriend} gave me one 20 years ago and finished in her mouth (and swallowed). The look on her face at that moment was seared in my memory. That was not at all pleasant for her. I haven't asked for one since. I don't miss it, I enjoy other things.

Blowjobs are my trigger.

1. How much women enjoy giving them

Ambivalent. I would say no I don't like it. I enjoy getting him excited and seeing him pleasured. The idea of giving one to someone you were not in a committed relationship with is so off to me. I'll do it as part of foreplay if I am in the mood but I prefer to just have sex.

2. How many women actually give them

As above. Wasn't really up there as a key part of our 'thing' except during foreplay (never as the grande finale lol). I think it is totally acceptable and fine if both partners are willing in a loving relationship. A bit gross if it's anything else.

5. Do you think it’s impersonal

I think it's kindof the hollywood/pornstar cliche which makes it impersonal and that it is often perceived as something girls are expected to do. As it is a fairly one way thing it's fine in a relationship but I think it's pretty gross out of one.

Any other comments on oral sex.

As blowjobs were the OW specialty and the main sexual act they participated in I haven't performed one since and upon reconciliation told my H that this would be one thing I would 100% have trouble doing as a result. It's not a deal breaker for him. The OW seemed to specialise in performing blowjobs in a carparks before they would go running. I gather she liked the ego boost of pleasing a man. Although I do think it is freaking hilarious that during the A he was on medication that made 'finishing' difficult fir him.

H says he does like to give it but I am not a big fan unless I am really in the mood. I'd rather sex.

He never reciprocated and the whole thing just makes me want to vomit and plays into every bad cliche and seals how I feel about blowjobs. Whilst he did not perform oral sex on the OW, at one of the hookups said he wanted to but it was logistically not possible (WTF???). The idea that he WANTED to put his mouth anywhere near her bits makes me chunder. I cannot get my head around why he would want to do that if he 'didn't have any feelings for her' because in my world you only do shit like that with the person you love.

I'm so messed up about BJ now ...guess if he wants them he's shot himself in the foot as he may have to wait a while until I am ready to cross that trigger city bridge. I also feel a bit triggered because I often wonder if it was her offers of blowjobs that made her more appealing at the time. I know I know it's not supposed to be anything I have done...but this is crazymaking shit and I have slapped myself thinking 'if only I'd given him more BJ' *slap*

[This message edited by Datura at 11:45 PM, November 20th (Monday)]

Dorothy - your pics cracked me up!

For the scientific study, I like giving them but WH didn’t get them since he had herpes and that made it a no go. But i am good at them. All those Cosmo magazines in high school!

As for receiving, not my favorite. So many better ways for me to be pleasured. But if he wants to, who am i to say No?

2. How many women actually give them

I had sex with two women in my life. I received it from my first (but not with finishing). All the way with WW.

I like to give it too, very much.

3. How many men love them

It is actually gives the most intensive orgasm for me.

4. How many men consider them deal breakers

Never thought about it in such terms - "it's ok if you had sex, but dealbreaker if you did BJ". And if it is "you gave him BJ" it is equal to "you had sex with him".

5. Do you think it’s impersonal.

Having someones dick in your mouth? Impersonal? Come on! BJ is actually more intimate in its own way than intercourse.

WW performed BJs on AP2 and AP3. I asked why did you do that, since you state that there was no strong passion involved. She answered, "IDK, probably because I wanted to prove him that I'm wild and free". It was kind of expected from affair sex.

I would never understand that.

I love giving and receiving oral. In fact I can't really imagine sex without. It's sort of the warm up to intercourse. The look on his face when I do is such a turn-on. You have to know how to do it though. You can't just clamp on and go to town. As for receiving, HELL YA! Ladies, you don't know what you are missing if you've never. An oral orgasm is AMAZING!

I used to give them to WH a lot. It was part of our foreplay and something we both enjoyed... Until I read the texts from WH to OW where he told her that he liked to close his eyes and pretend it was her sucking his dick.

That pretty much put an end to the act. I've done it only a handful of times since dday. I hope the tradeoff was worth it to him. His loss.

Dorothy - your pics cracked me up!

Thanks !

I’m probably the only person here who can say absolutely that I don’t like giving OR receiving. Giving can be gross and SO tiring, and receiving does absolutely nothing for me.

Probably one of the (many, many) reasons stbxwh had to go get/give bjs from the local neighborhood whorepigs.

After some soul-searching, I think I may be on the asexuality spectrum. Yay—makes finding someone new about 100% impossible! 😭