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.....Or you could practice detaching from her, have her move out, and continue with your current plan.

I don’t deny, another valid option.

Guess who had a SECOND girlfriend!!

That’s right! Your favorite piece of shit and mine!!!!!

Just got back from meeting pos’s wife for appetizers. We met to compare notes and I wanted to make sure the NC is sticking.

Well it seems that pos was fucking another woman at the same time he was fucking w/s It seems that he was fucking another grad student for the last month at least, who was also married. Not sure if that means he was going to dump w/s or keep all three women. And thanks to his recording fetish, POS’s wife has videos. Yes, she did tell slut #2’s wife. Yes, slut #2 is married to another woman. Pos’s wife gave me a thumb drive with some of the videos and screenshots of texts messages if I want to show w/s

She has kicked him out and said that she is “without questioning, divorcing him”. She doesn’t know where he is living or, as the song goes, whose bed has his boots been under.

She was beyond pissed when she was telling me, but she calmed down after ranting and raving of all his garbage, and not just his screwing married women. But her spirits did lift when we talked about our futures. NO, not together!!! She is going away in a few weeks to Florida with a friend.

I felt sorry for her, but I wanted to laugh at pos!!!

Now, while I’m grinning from ear to ear at karma running over pos, I now have a important decision.....

How do I let w/s know?

[This message edited by 2018MLMM at 9:29 PM, April 5th (Thursday)]

send all the intel too w/s with these simple words "you phucked me over for this POS"

or

Just leave it alone and get out of this bull shyt and let w/s deal with her choices and you deal with your choices....you know...the ones you actually can control.

[This message edited by TheGuy123 at 9:26 PM, April 5th (Thursday)]

who knows maybe your old lady already knows and has some sick phucking idea of stealing pos from other whores/sluts....IDK...but is it really your place to deal with your old ladies bull shyt now?

or are you putting your energy towards getting the hell a way from this grab?

phuck dude leave it alone and move on!

please don't play into the soap opera bull shyt...what OBS told you is not worth the hassle... so keep shyt cool and get the best settlement possible.

JMHO

This just keeps getting weirder and weirder, except for the fact that it sounds eerily similar, too.

Greeneyes, who else had to deal with this???

The guy, doesn’t it serve my purpose to get her out of the fog so I can have an amicable divorce?

I’m actually happy. Yes, I know it is probably wrong, but I’m happy.

And it feels FAAAAAAAN- friggin’ -TASTIC!!!!

THAT’S IT!!! Party at my house! All weekend!!

[This message edited by 2018MLMM at 9:58 PM, April 5th (Thursday)]

Oh yeah, they’ve been a few.

They just seemed to find out something new almost daily.

Just like you.

Well, stay strong on your journey here. While you don’t seem to have any idea how to deal with your wife of many years, the good, honest folks here will always respond to try to help you.

I forget... is your old lady still phucking around?

If I remember WW did NC on OM and is up for R?

I understand it as this;

R= get her out of the fog

D= keep her in the fog

Make sense?

Pos sent W/s the no contact message, and pos and his wife were going to try and reconcile, but that R is now out the window.

I will tell w/s tomorrow that NC goes both ways and if there is ANY contact of any type, she is moving back in with sister permanently.

[This message edited by 2018MLMM at 10:06 PM, April 5th (Thursday)]

#1 your happy cuz there is some validation to what you now see as w/s that falls for POS players.

#2 is it BYOB or is it open bar?

My bad....got confused.

ya tell your old lady what's what.

I think she should write a NC letter to OM.... even if it's just to you!

what you don't want to read is a bunch of sorry's

what you want to read is w/s telling AP how wrong it is and how bad they AP are for their adultery

make sence?

if your old ladies shyt is real sorry she will hate OM.

2018. It’s good that you have been keeping in contact with the OBS and the fact that her WH is such a scum is quite disgusting.

Now, this news strikes a few thoughts.

1) unless you haven’t told us that you discussed it already, you don’t have the details yet as to how this A all started. So if you tell her what a player he was you may get a slanted story from your WW when you eventually do discuss it. I would hope she would be honest, but when she discovers she wasn’t the only A he was having It may affect her in many ways.

Married women are still to blame even if they fall for pick up artists.

2) now that’s she’s here on SI someone may tell her about this before you get to. I hope not.

3) this will probably be even more devasting to her knowing that she threw away her life for such a lowlife. You are a good guy and already have had your nuclear moment. She doesn’t need this thrown in her face with fan fare.

Maybe there’s a small chance she knew this, but I doubt it. If you tell her, don’t make a big production of it. The news itself will be devastating enough.

When you choose to do it make sure the kids are gone (as u have been doing) and simply tell her you’ve been doing some investigating and you found out the POSOM was sleeping with at least one other married woman at the same time.

If she asks how you know give her the minimal amount of proof showing her she wasn’t the only one he was playing porn director with. Perhaps just a screen shot or even a text thread the OBS gave you will suffice.

You are doing a great job as I and others have stated. Keep it up.

You said "isn't it beneficial to me to get her out of the fog for a beneficial divorce"? Pray tell, what fog is she in?

According to this who story, she regrets her decision. Wishes it never happened. speaks extremely derogatory about herself and puts you on a bizarre pedestal. and seems willing to do whatever you like at any cost.

So tell me what it is that you're fighting? Get a divorce and be done, since that is what you've decided. This reeks of a a bad soap opera. Come on.

So does that mean she is out of “the fog” already?

You think?????

I’m trying to read her mind and separate anything she says and does that is just lip service and what is real.

My guess is she isn't totally out of the fog. It would be pretty unusual because dday is so shocking that I think both WS and BS are pretty thrown by all this for at least a few weeks.

But, I just wanted to say, I'm guessing she doesn't know about the 2nd OW because she hadn't considered getting tested for STDs until you mentioned it. So I don't know what all he said to her but I'm guessing it didn't involve telling her about his other girlfriend. Be prepared for her to not believe you. That will also tell you if she's out of the fog. If not, this might just do it.