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Sorry, double post

[This message edited by 2018MLMM at 10:09 PM, April 9th (Monday)]

Well it’s pretty weird that you’re actually checking to see if a poster updated while you’ve taken your daughter away on vacation after serving your wife with divorce papers after a long marriage and wife is having a breakdown after discovering her lover had another lover beside his wife lover which you were overjoyed about finding out.

You are just such a giving person that you can’t stop giving even when you are with your daughter on vacation in Disney.

We are back in the room absolutely exhausted. I would estimate that we walked a minimum of 12 miles today.

Going to an amusement park was great for allowing us to casually talk about things. We would talk, then have to stop for the ride, then allow her to process what I said, and develop questions to be asked during the The next line.

She now knows everything I’m comfortable telling her.

I told her that I believe her mother is not in a good place and will take a good amount of time to bring herself back to base level

She knows that there we are going to head toward divorce.

By dinner, she asked me about dating. I told her I have zero interest in women. She responded with a big smile, “sooooo you’ve switched teams?” I just rolled my eyes. She asked if she could create my profile on Match. She was just teasing.

I’m sure that as soon as her head hits the pillow, more follow up questions will form and will be asked tomorrow while we are waiting in line for Space Mountain, Big Thunder, etc....

Place today in the “Good Day” column

Greeneyesblues

I give up. Whatever you are accusing me of, your right, I am absolutely guilty of it! You got me! Congratulations!! You should be proud of yourself.

As for One Time, when I clicked on Just Found Out, I saw his new thread there. I was very happy to see him back here. I was happy because he had not come on for a long time and he was dealing with a love triangle where all three participants carry firearms with them at all times (presumably). I was worried that He either hurt himself or had hurt one of the others.

People on here have told me that I should simply ignore your comments as I don’t believe your comments are helping me in any way, shape, or form. I’m actually going to ask you to please NOT participate in this thread any more. Thank you. I wish you nothing but good luck, good health, and happiness.

MOD please!!

I thought you would be focused on your situation, as new as it is, and considering you had your daughter with you.

I have asked lots of questions you haven’t answered, so I guess you’re just into specifically having a running commentary thread, In addition to checking up on specific posters.

I don’t believe I’ve crossed any guidelines here.

You should take from this site what you need, and leave the rest.

Sweet dreams Greeneyes

Nighty nite, 2018.

Sleep with your feet on a pillow tonight. Hopefully, they won’t swell from all the walking you did today.

Once again, thank you for all your fantastic advice

Get a divorce. Get a custody agreement. Wait til your daughter is an adult. Options you have, but you’ve crossed a line and I hope your cheating wife nails your balls to the wall on this one.

Wow! I can’t believe people are allowed to say this! Imagine a male saying “I hope your cheating husband nails tits to the wall”

Greeneyesbluezy,

-You have a pm-

Wow! I can’t believe people are allowed to say this! Imagine a male saying “I hope your cheating husband nails tits to the wall”

Yep!

It's becoming a trend!

Sassylee, thank you

Masti, do you remember who said that?

Of course, it was our favorite supporter, good ole Greeneyes

Serious question.... is she just so helpful to me? Did I do something that ticked her off?????

[This message edited by 2018MLMM at 11:43 PM, April 9th (Monday)]

Serious question.... is she just so helpful to me? Did I do something that ticked her off?????

Gently MLMM you have so much drama in your life already. You need to realise that it isn’t important what others think of you or how they react what matters is what you can control.

Let things like this go.

Make sure you are true to yourself and who you are.

Make sure you make your kids a priority in your life.

Make sure you can be proud of yourself and your actions.

Don’t let any posters or anyone in real life change who you are.

Don’t waste to time worrying about what others will think of you. The saying goes - those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

I hope you and DD are having a relaxing, mind clearing holiday and you are eating way too much junk food.

Wow. One poster really demands attention. I'm new to your thread.

Don't pay attention to those on here that have nothing better to do than attack others. Do you.

I'm sure the mods will deal accordingly with all of the animosity and disrespect you have been shown.

Getting away on a nice trip is a great way to jump start a new beginning. I left for a week to get away from my X so I could get my head together and figure out what my next steps moving forward were going to be.

I hope your STBX finds remorse and does right by you in the D.

Ladies and gentlemen,

I’m going to throw out an idea, and yes, I know it sounds dumb, but what do you think about it?

What if I keep watching the videos over and over And over again?

I feel like these things are my Achilles heel. These are what will bring me to my knees!

My thought process is that if I keep watching them, and yes it will be hell, I will eventually become numb to them, ultimate view her as some fetish and porn queen, and will ultimately view them as just one more piece of garbage that can be viewed online. (No, I have no idea if they are online, but feel that they will eventually. But as the saying goes, Not my circus, not my monkey. That is something for her to worry about)

Yes, I know this is a dumb idea, but could it work? And yes, I will be discussing this with counselor

Oh god no, don't do that.

If anything, look into EMDR therapy...you don't want to dig it in deeper.

Yup, you said it yourself, a dumb idea.

If you are going to D her, you want everything about her to fade into the distant past.

Doing that will so implant those videos in your brain, you will never be able to let them become just a fading shadow in the rear view mirror of your life.

I never had video or photos but did have a rather disgusting and graphic telephone call.

As soon as it had served its purpose, I deleted every version that there was.

I D'ed her, none of that gas any relevance to me any more

I'm thinking that's not going to be a good idea. Desensitizing yourself to something like that is only recommended if you're doing so under the care of a professional.

When I'm leaving a relationship I find one of the worst things I can do is keep old pictures around or start watching videos. Like you I have/had in my possession several videos of my STBXW and other men along with videos with just her and several with both of us. I made it a point to remove all of them from my hard drive after I sent them off to a lawyer (and hid a flash drive with a friend just in case). I felt I needed to remove the temptation to look at them again. I am pretty sure that I would be disciplined enough not to look at them again but it's better to set up a few roadblocks just in case I'm out driving one night and wind up driving too close to the cliff. You may want to consider doing the same.