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Finished reading this entire thread. Thumbs up for f**king up scumbags plans for bilking yet another woman out of money/and or home, possessions. Sad to say men like this are a dime a dozen. Most people don't realize the seriousness of this type of crime till it's too late. I've mentioned in other posts that I've had the unfortunate experience of knowing a few men like this. It is absolutely NOT about sex for the men. These guys are experts. It is a variation of the bait and switch game. The target is usually a middle aged woman starting to lose her looks and self esteem with some monetary value. The sex is just a tool for the endgame... and the endgame is money. It is a crime of embezzlement. That is how they make their living. They could talk a nun into stealing church funds (I'm being facetious, but not really).

I'm going to echo what a lot of people here have said. First, I LOVE that you've been able to actually contribute to the karma bus running this douche bag over. I know that has to feel great on your end. One of the bonuses in my life from being back in my DD's life is how badly it pisses off her step-dad and his and my ex's parents. They're all despicable people and they deserve no happiness.

Now to the point, you've done great and this scum bag is paying for being a scum bag but I don't care about him. Your fellow posters here care about you. You need to let this go, move on with your wife, live a good life, and put this douche bag far behind you. By staying plugged into his comings and goings like you have, he is still a part of your life and that's unhealthy. He should be an ancient memory by now.

Greetings to all. The for sale sign was quiet-a-surprize.

OBSERVATIONS...BOTH INTOSPECTIVE AND DEMONSTRATIVE.

My 25 year journey underscores the depth of hurt, and toll on one's sole...that WS's inflect upon their FAITHFUL PARTNER....a testament for those BSs seeking comfort....especially those BSs whom the FWWs are doing 'things right', like my FWW. There often is a never ending Avenue of mountains and valleys..but the goal is to stay 'out of the ditches and the revenes'..the past 5 years have required weekly visits to my IC...quarterly visits for 'us' to the MC...but both are fairing well...had a wonderful cruise the past 2 weeks. The for sale sign was just a 'sparkle in the night' when returning home. Whatever the circumstances..Donna now has access to some truth..that did not exist 5 months ago. Perhaps her actions may be devistating to POSOM...but in the real world that was his choice..dictated by the nature of his 'sociopathic being'. So I suppose my 'next project' is yet undefined..as this project only developed as a result of my friend's retirement party last Nov where the POSOM attended and told my friend of his recent marriage to Donna...since last Nov..perhaps as many as 10/12 hours have been devoted to THE PROJECT...but I must say it has been intriguing..a new game..uncovering 'the obvious lies'..and POSOM never seeing it coming.

I restore antique autos and wood-hull vintage speedboats as a hobby...attend 4/6 national auctions per year (Barrett-Jackson)...so the gainful hobbies are covered. Judging by the number of posts, length of time on SI, etc...many of you still endure the 'pain of infidelity' and have taken on 'counseling' and posting as your hobby...don't misunderstand...I read all the posts..I know they are offered in sincerity..but I am doing well...I enjoy life..but at times I do fret..

[This message edited by nlwsrw at 8:22 PM, July 19th (Thursday)]

Lying about number of marriages is legal? That is something. I don't think I could have said nothing and let Donna get run over by this predator. You had a chance to do something huge for someone you don't even know. I doubt she would have gone to get the documents right away. This saved her all the wondering and guessing.

Good luck to you and your wife. Hopefully a good deed is returned to you from out of the blue.

Went to courthouse yesterday to pick up my 'conceal-carry-perment-renewal'...while there I checked the recent 'circuit court filings'. Donna received a 'cease and desist order' against POSOM for removing and selling a Viking range and Subzero refrig/freezer worth over $8,000 from a joint storage unit...that was in her house she sold....POSOM is to refrain from access to to unit and surrender his keys...she fears he will remove other personal property....

If you see Donna, just ask her if the information you gave her was helpful and if she's glad you gave it to her, just to see what she says about the reaction of POSOM when she confronted him.

thanks for the update

Went to courthouse yesterday to pick up my 'conceal-carry-perment-renewal'...while there I checked the recent 'circuit court filings'. Donna received a 'cease and desist order' against POSOM for removing and selling a Viking range and Subzero refrig/freezer worth over $8,000 from a joint storage unit...that was in her house she sold....POSOM is to refrain from access to to unit and surrender his keys...she fears he will remove other personal property....

The hits keep coming, what an absolute ass.

I say Kudos to you for your diligence and applaud you for it. Keep up the good work. Eventually POSOM will cross someone who will remedy the situation permanently if he keeps pushing his luck.

Sounds like the POSOM is quite the psychopath. They are the most dangerous types of people in society. I think RubixCubed is right. I think the psycho-POSOM will push his luck eventually and be openly exposed as the modern day incubus con artist that he is.

nlwsrw, make sure you don't put yourself in a situation where you have to test your conseal and carry permit with that guy.

"The truth will set you free"

Feel bad for Donna but at least ahe has that. Her life would have been shattered anyway at least ahe got to be in the drivers seat.

2nd JDuff, sitting in a bed waiting to die many years from now that pos will have to reflect on his life and his actions. That is going to be the cruelest thing ever and he will have to realize he did it to himself (and maybe he will even reflect on what he did to others).

Now go do something fun and live yours to the fullest.

It has been some time...nothing new until yesterday. Had lunch with the friend that told me about POSOM getting married for the 6th time a little over a year ago. I asked if anything new regarding POSOM.

Seems he slashed Donna's tire (s) on Christmas Eve while she was visiting her parents. A neighbor saw it happening and called her parent's house with the description of his truck....police caught up with him...found a 'sawsall' in the seat.Looked up the news article in the paper (adjacent county). The authorities charged him with 'the destruction of private property'....BUT may upgrade complaint to 'wanton-endangerment' because the tire was not sawed thru and still holding air.

The house still 'for sale' but by different realestate co.

This man is a real menace. Who knows what he is truly capable of doing. I believe you have saved this woman years of pain and doubt.

Donna owes you big time. Hopefully she got out with minimal damage.

nlwsrw,

Kudos to you for doing this kindness, this man is a woman hater and a danger to society.

Similar to child molesters not being allowed to be around schools or daycares, some men should not be allowed to marry.

[This message edited by survrus at 3:30 PM, January 16th (Wednesday)]

Any chance you are going to move on any time soon and empty the space in your head you are letting this man occupy? This is starting to border on creepy and is definitely unhealthy for you.

Thank you for the update. This POS cannot be run

over too many times by the karma truck.

Back in the fall FWW and I were searching TV on Sat nite and happened onto Dateline.The title was 'Dirty John' Meehan. He was a classic 'sociopath'...controlling many women his entire life. FWW commented how the 'overinflated lies' were so similar....that feature is worth a look for women in similar circumstances.

Thanks for the comments....and 'beenthereinco' I noticed you joined SI about 4 months after your new marriage...with 890 posts. So I suppose we both have some difficulty 'moving on'....seems your situation dates back to early 80's....Feb is the anniversary month of my discovery...so 'yes' things are a bit keen now...best to you....a little 'creepy' for us both.

I've seen guys like this in action and it's not just a cheating situation, or even a serial cheating situation, you're dealing with a criminal who destroys lives.

It's not always easy to spot these people at first, and by the time they get a sense of danger they are already broke and alienated from anyone in their life who might help them.

Yea I joined after my nephew had his wife cheat on him and I was able to help him through it. He told me I should really try to help others because I did so well for him. I didn't post on here about the OM and continue to stalk him for the past 20 years. I've let that go and also the pain my xWW served me. She occupies no space in my head nor does the OM. I hope some day you can get to the same place and are as happy as I am. What happens to the OM in my case is truly no concern of mine.

Oh and not early 80s, hell I was in jr high!

[This message edited by beenthereinco at 7:08 PM, January 16th (Wednesday)]

I don't think it's creepy at all ... read this whole thread...sometimes you have to lend karma a helping hand. WTG nlwsrw !!