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FWW got FB Friend request from POS OM's sister/her former friend/coworker yesterday....FWW showed me the request...GOOD LUCK...FWW said 'must be some blow-back in the family'...

There have been some in this thread against nlwsrw's motives/actions that have me perplexed. I am sure that if it was their daugther, sister, mother, wife, cousin involved, wouldnt they be grateful.

And along the same thought, if he advises someone in your personal circle, further down the track, wouldnt you be grateful for his diligence.

[This message edited by paboy at 3:31 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]

YES!!!!!

You aren’t letting wife accept friend request, are you????

Then she and pos will have a mutual friend and will be able to communicate easily

Yes I would be grateful. And I think he has done this woman a favor (whether she knows it or not).

Someone did me a huge favor when I was 20/21 years old and dating a guy I was crazy about. Loved him and would have married him.

Turns out he was a serial cheater. And a family member told me. I ended that relationship and was so grateful she had the courage to tell me.

And I think that if it were me - I would want to know no matter how painful it may be. To lose or potentially lose my assets b/c I married the wrong guy? Hell no!!

Kamstel..NO NO NO...SHE REJECTED HER INSTANTLY...and thanks to those for support...I have a grand-daughter entering college...she is gorgeous...valedictorian of her class..but a bit naive...I hope if a someone knows salty things about a guy she has interest in....they would level with her instantly...if they know truths...then they have a 1000% better chance in making an informed choice...

T/j seadoug and kamstel, WOW I have two trolls:) here’s a hint: when you’re gonna troll, pick someone who could give a fuck.

Nl, No I didn’t think it was healthy for you to do this, but now that you have I just hope you and your family stay safe. And I do hope you recover where you can leave this pos in your rear view mirror.

nlwsrw:

“Hey Donna. Did you see that bush moving in our front yard?”

Donna “Don’t worry honey, it’s just nlwsrw”

Thanks Lazarus...and Ms Green-I agree-pick someone......

Smillie...don't need to get in the bushes...got perfect view down her street from the main avenue..

T/J

Greeneyesblueszy,

Why are you accusing me of being a troll to you?

I don’t think I ever mentioned you in a post within this thread.

I don’t believe I have violated any of the rules and guidelines set foth in this forum.

Maybe I’m wrong but I’m assuming you are critiquing my post in with I was showing support to the original poster.

What was it In my post of support makes you believe I was referring to you?

-do you generally treat women positively and men unfavorably?

It would be disturbing to think that you treated people differently just because of their gender. I hope you aren’t a sexist.

- have a good number of people have asked moderators to block you or talk to you?

- do you have a history of giving figurative backhand slaps to people who come here looking for asistance?

- do you believe you are, or believe others believe you are bitter?

- do you have a history of criticizing and jumping all over original posters if they don’t answe your questions?

- do you believe you have a history of claiming that you are only trying to help or that you have done nothing wrong according to the rules?

- do you believe that some members believe it is best to never engage you?

Now, I know you have said multiple times that you don’t give a fuck, but I still wonder what was it in the post that made you believe I was referring to you. If I thought it was referring to me,I would wonder if my presence here was actually helping other or trying to further frustration and hurt to the devastated souls that come here because they are desperate and have no other place to turn

If you truly believe that I was referring to you, I truly feel sorry for you. But again, I know you don’t give a fuck

Have a good night!

Nlwsrw - Sorry for me going off on this tangent l, but I felt like I was being slandered by her When she referred to me as a troll.

nlwsrw, Do you think Donna will call you? Did you give her your number?

[This message edited by Kamstel at 7:57 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]

T/j Kam,

Take it up with a mod. Or start your own thread about me.

Stop hijacking a thread to get to me. It’s a douche move.

nlwsrw:

I am glad you got to do what you wanted and give Donna the dossier, but I too had legitimate questions about the wisdom of such a move. I hope you can find some peace now after 24 years and your family will be safe. Greeneyesbluezy raised some reasonable concerns and although you might not appreciate her style or tone she was right to raise those questions and you can always ignore if you like. I for one am glad she’s around and raises tough questions when the narrative needs questioning. We need lots of different opinions and questions here not just those that fawn on the OP. I hope you took the time to consider all opinions and questions offered. All in all good work nlwsrw,

T/J

Greeneyesblueszy,

I have no intention of bringing it up with a moderator, nor do I plan on starting a thread about you. Why would I? What have you done that would warrant such action?

And I’m sorry to thread jack, but I was simply responding to you thread jacking that specifically named me for calling you out. But I never referred to you by name. So I was just wondering what was it about my original post, which was showing support to the original poster, that made you believe I was referring to you. Hmmmm

Do you still believe I was referring to you? Why? If so, that would be disturbing about your possible motives and actions.

And I don’t have the words to describe how it feels to have someone with your history here on SI referring to me as doing something that is a “douche move”

And again, I don’t believe I have violated any rules or guidelines for this forum.

Have a good night.

[This message edited by Kamstel at 9:13 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]

Kamstel..I did not give her my name..first or last...or phone number...however OM will know who gave her the dossier. The fact his sister..FWW's coworker tried to friend FWW on FB confirms OM knows it was me.

We are well known in our area..I sold a successful business in 2010/11. I owned the company in 1994 when WW was involved in the PA....so Donna can find 'us' easily...she could call my former business for my mobile number...if she is is creative.

There is no further information that is not in the dossier...just facts of the court records. I have never met him...only seen one photo that was likely 4/6 years old in a union roster...I was a member of a construction contractor's association...that agency maintained rosters of several union contracting companies...I was membership chairman at that time (2004/06)..stumbled across his photo when cataloging employees of various firms in the master directory update.

I have you on a pedestal for what you did to help a woman protect herself from a potential predator and known scumbag!!!

I don’t have the superlatives to describe you and your action!

The scumbag knows it was you that gave her the dossier, but do you think he told Donna it was you?

It would have been interesting to be a fly on the wall when Donna had her conversation with POS, or when POS had his conversation with his sister about you.

Now Can I ask a question about one of my previous posts??

Looking above, another poster has criticized me for posting on your thread. Do you believe that My posts have been supporting you?

Thank you

[This message edited by Kamstel at 9:31 PM, May 12th (Saturday)]

nlwsrw,

That being said, if you still wish to block members, then you can choose to upgrade your membership. Only then will that option will become available to you.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:11 AM, May 13th (Sunday)]

Kamstel,

You have a PM.

Should you inform the right people about this man? A quote from Albert Einstein.

"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing."

I do wish you well.

nlwsrw so if Donna didn't know about the previous marriages then you've done a good deed there.

Now what about you and your family?

OM is very much back in your lives now. I suppose he was already very much in your head already, and really that is something you need to address for your own wellbeing. If you haven't continued IC then it really seems like it's time to get back to that.

Back to the current situation. You have hit him solidly where it hurts. Have you considered the ways he might come after you? Have you consulted with an attorney? Do you have security cameras outside your home?

Greeneyesbluezy,

Thank you.