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cantaccept (original poster member #37451) posted at 2:17 PM on Tuesday, January 1st, 2019
Had to post this. Hopefully it gives someone else just a bit of hope that this really does fade into the past.
I was just outside with my dog, just moments ago. It is a warm New Year's day, feels like spring!
I totally missed the date of the last dday! Completely missed it, never entered my mind!
It was December 21st, a Friday night, same as this year. I actually looked at the calendar this morning to see when it actually was. It was a Friday night again.
This year I was busy with my SO and my son, in my new kitchen, baking cookies, laughing, looking forward to the holidays. It was just a good, sweet night!
This is huge for me! I seemed to really struggle with those dates. Each year I would just remember and it seemed a battle to not let them affect me. This one...nothing! 
When I realized it just a few moments ago it made me feel so good! I am healing! It really does happen!
Hoping good for all of you and may the memories of pain recede quickly replaced by loving experiences.
"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie
WhoTheBleep ( member #49504) posted at 2:54 PM on Tuesday, January 1st, 2019
Yaaayy!!! I truly didn't believe I would heal. Ever. But it actually DOES happen!
I'm so happy for you, cantaccept. You deserve all the joy there is in the world.
I believe we have two lives: the one we learn with, and the one we live with after that. --The Natural
I.will.survive ( member #34677) posted at 7:55 PM on Tuesday, January 1st, 2019
Whoop! Whoop!
It's awesome when a significant date comes and goes without a second thought.
Sounds like you are thriving now!!
nothisfriend ( member #53171) posted at 2:47 PM on Wednesday, January 2nd, 2019
I did that too! I was so busy going out of town with BF and then going to Hawaii to visit my brother and his family that the anniversary of D-Day went by without noticing it.
I still harbor anger over the whole thing but each day that passes gets easier and easier.
Me: BS 50 (at the time) Him: WH 53 (at the time) D-Day: 10/25/15 Married: 28 years. One son, age 18 (at the time)
D final 2016 REMARRIED to a marvelous guy on 4/22/23
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 3:20 PM on Wednesday, January 2nd, 2019
What a wonderful post, Can! Living proof of how far one can come. Seems like you have a lot going for you now. And... new kitchen? I must have missed something. So happy for you!
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 12:26 AM on Thursday, January 3rd, 2019
Awesome that you missed it! That means you are not bound by that day anymore. Yay!! I only remembered mine this past December on the day before it, and since I've divorced and moved on, it was more like "wow, I feel nothing"....it was peaceful and no longer a threat to my sanity.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
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