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Stupid stuff waywards say? Sadly, their wedding vows.

"You wanted a son so bad I didn't think it would matter if you were not the father."

their wedding vows.

"That half empty jumbo size box of condoms you found in the trunk of my car? Which I bought while out with our 14 year old son? Of course I didn't use them with her! I just gave her some to *keep* at her house, since she has more storage room than we do."

(After OW changed her phone numbers so that they could still communicate, since I was monitoring WH's phone logs):

"That memo in my wallet (dated 3 weeks after Dday) with her new telephone numbers on it,

in my handwriting?

I have no idea how that got there--I never saw it before."

“Before we actually started having sex, OW & I were at her house alone, 'making out', and I knew that she wanted to have sex---but I was a true gentleman and didn’t go ‘all the way.’” (They started having sex a few days later.)

[This message edited by mchercheur at 5:14 PM, May 10th (Friday)]

OW had a hysterectomy and I had a vasectomy so WHY in the world would we ever need to use any type of “protection” when she was a “decent” person ??

Hmmmmmmmmm....... maybe to protect ME you self-entitled DUMBASS, you know the innocent mother of your children from STD’s!! Totally blank look on his stupid ass face.

DDay 1 was 7 years after adultery ended. Well, the physical part. They were still in contact through work and attended conferences and meetings at the same time.

Some time after DDay1:

Her: It's hard to kiss the lips at night that chewed my ass out all day long (funny country song).

Me: It's hard to kiss the lips at night that kissed another man's lips many, many times while married to me. It's hard to kiss the lips at night that have been around another man's cock while married to me.

When it was TT'd that they had sex in our house on the floor in my office space I asked if they had sex in our bed.

Her: No, I never let him go upstairs.

Me: Why not. It would be much better than on the floor.

Her: I just couldn't do that. It would be so wrong.

WH: “I couldn’t love the OW cuz I was married”.

ME: “But you could have unprotected sex in our car in every parking lot that didn’t have surveillance cameras, in your workplace late at night when the business was closed and no one else was there, in the nasty ass bed that she was also having sex with the guy she lived with during the entire time she was having sex with you and in our own home yet you “couldn’t love the Slut cuz you were married?”.

WH: “Yeah, now you finally get why I couldn’t love her”.

Notice he doesn’t say “I couldn’t love her because I was already married to and loved you”.

I couldn’t make this selfish kind of stupidity up!

“I don’t recall telling you I would be faithful.”

Haha my WH likes to say that the AP has nothing to do with how he’s feeling about our marriage. And she’s just a friend. “Sure 🙄”

Oh he also says my postpartum anxiety is just an excuse for the fact that I “ignored him after our daughter was born.” That’s a personal fave...

I'm approaching 6 months out. These are the ones that stick:

"I realized that money doesn't matter." - She was having the affair while I was working a 2nd job to make sure we didn't go into debt. I was the only one in the relationship who knew what was going on financially in our marriage, not by choice, but because she didn't make the effort to care.

"It's not that. We try to have fun, but we don't" When trying to provide reasons to end our marriage after I had asked her, "Is there someone else?"

"Nature was important." After she took A.P. to a family natural site that my daughter had previously proclaimed she had spent, "Her best day ever." Spending time in nature is one of the most important things to me.

"I knew you'd be like this." When I asked to see her phone to see if she had deleted all of her texts. She refused to let me see the phone.

"I kept wearing them because I didn't want you to think that I had anything from A.P." After I had asked her several times, and she had lied and said she had gotten rid of everything, that she had received from A.P. She literally kept wearing earrings he had given her in the early weeks of recovery. I found them, snapped them in half, and threw them away. I knew they were from him.

"I thought our kids would be happier." My goodness...

"I knew I didn't want to be in a relationship." A recent response when asked why she started her affair.

I've shared this before, but it's still a classic.

Context: a badly spiraling out of control post-divorce discussion about our daughter.

Her expression during this gem: Self-righteous anger and indignation that I dared depict her sexual recklessness as destroying our family.

"My affair was really a cry for help!"(which Cheatee was too selfish to see)

To which I just laughed, envisioning moaning sounds from his fleabag apartment.

There were many but the first one the day after dday was:

"You and AP have something in common. You both care about me a lot".

Seriously. Do they not hear what they say?????

“...dont you dare tell me I dont love our kids!”

Who are girls. While he has been visiting prostitutes (in general a sad, shady, dangerous and exploitive environment for women) for years.

Sure, buddy, sure. You didn’t think about them at all, and you didn’t think about the women you visited as anything but receptacles for your precious fluids, and you didn’t think about how any of this affects women in general, 2 of which are YOUR FUCKING daughters.

The disconnect is really disappointing, he is a smart man I thought. Obviously not!

When I caught WH with his 'woman' he said .."How did you get here, I'm all the way up here in Canada...' and he was shocked to see me.

I said ... same airline you took up here three days ago.

I asked my wife why I should believe her when she claimed the affair sex dwindled to only twice in the last year of the affair.

“Because I was working on our marriage.”

But I always put more xxx on texts to you than I did to any of them.

That was supposed apparently to tell me that I meant more to him than any of the sluts. Given that there were at least 6 of them (and almost certainly more) I decided to leave him and his xxx to them!

Here are 2 from the Williesdad Greatest Hits:

"Williesmom, I always thought that it would be so great to have a Silver Anniversary, and you took that away from me" His cheating is why I divorced him.

I asked him what he could possibly have in common with a 28 year old when he was 40. "We both love American Idol, and you hate it." Way to trash your marriage because of a shared love of mindless reality tv.

You can't make this crap up. They are just morons.

ExWW said to me when I asked if she used protection? "Why should we.... AP was in the army and gets screened plus he is a faithful husband?" All I could do was look at the whore and walk away with that statement.

Remembered another one.

When he was trying to get his ass out of the mess he had made he told me this.

"She has nothing to do with US"

Really? Nothing? That fact that you are FUCKING another woman has nothing to do with us??????

WW “I wanted to try a circumsized penis”

BH “All good then, no worries. “

(TMI about me, sorry)